depends on age. MY opinion is that anyone under 26 shouldn’t get so serious about relationships. too much living to do. and as far as f**king every girl in the world, too many ugly women, too many fat women,, too many stdS, and too many white women. ide rather have just ONE, im28 so it’s my time.

I always say be a player based on most men dont know how to be monogamous and thats the truth….even thoughs with good intentions seem to cheat…a long term companion for the most part is cool, but, just remember your likely to cheat at some point in the relationship.

ONE WOMAN IS ENUFF!

i want to be committed to one woman. i have good intentions of being with only one but have cheated before.

monogamy is the only way for me and it has nothing to do with my age, i have always been a one mans woman.as long as you are compatible,both have understanding and want a committed relationship then its goodness4sho!!

i am a firm believer that an indivivdual should have just one person be it male or female.i truly feel that monogamy is the way to go, that way you don’t too worry about getting caught up in all that unnecessary drama and you don’t have to worry about all the different diseases that’s out here.

One women is better but most women don’t know how to be a good companion.

THOSE SAME MEN ON HERE THAT WILL SLEEP WITH EVERY WOMAN WILL BE THE WALKING STD’S OR HIV’S…..I HOPE THEY DON’T LIVE IN MY STATE NASTY BUTTS

For me, variety is better. and also having freedom. I don’t need a woman around me 24 hours a day, or calling, or paging, or nagging. I enjoy our time together and appreciate them more when we are apart. It works out well for me, and also fits into my busy schedule.

ALL I GOT 2 SAY IS IF YOU FREAKIN A DIFFERENT GIRL EVERY NIGHT, HELL NAW!!!!!! THAT IS NASTY AS F**K AND SOMTIN WRONG WIT THE FEMALES U MEET AND SAME WIT THE FELLAZ!!!

The term “Player” is actually sort of a racial stereotype. You don’t hear anyone making a big deal about George Clooney being a player! And he flat out said that he is never getting married, but they want to put 50 on blast or Jamie Foxx for doing the same thing! And one more thing, being a player, or bachelor, which is white peoples term for it, does not mean that you sleep with lots of women, all it’s saying is that you are not tied down, and have more options. a married man or a man in a relationship has no options.

A real man only wants one woman. Sleeping around is dangerous, pointless and just plain stupid. And what really bothers me is that some men want to sleep with “every girl in the world,” then when they’re ready to settle down, they want a virgin. Idiots!

It’s really hard to say…I’ve had a lot of women and I’ve also been able to be monogamous – then found myself looking elsewhere when i was doing everything i was supposed to (and then some) but not being satisfied at home in any way no matter how much I was doing right. Too many women think they know men so well, yet they forget how to take care of a good one and take many good men for granted. And wayyyyyyyyy too many stop taking care of themselves & their bodies long term…

For the previous poster, “Player” is not a racial stereotype…..players come in all races, and the term is used for men of all races, who sleep around. A player is not the same thing as a bachelor. A bachelor is an unmarried man, period. Not all bachelors are players. What makes him a player is his behavior, not his marital status. Anyway, as a woman in her late thirties, I don’t want a man who thinks he has to have a million women around him to feel like a man. I’m not interested in being one of several in his life, knowing he’s not interested in committing.

It seems that younger men are the ones that like to venture out and have multiple sex partners. Usually when a man matures he can settle down being that he has already experience all kinds of women. So not acceptable.

Once you found a woman you can truly connect with in other areas beyond just sex, then that definitely something worth holding on to and making last. It takes a real man to control that desire to want to hunt and open up the possibility of building a kingdom where there can only be one KING and one QUEEN!

Well being a player could lead to alot of mischief u not playing ur cards right. Far as myself I am christian so I dont praise people who play games…. any man who wants only one female in his life I give him alot of props. But a man who think being a hoe is great… just keep u health insurance up and condoms down packed.

I really don’t need to comment. Some of yall done said it all for me. No need to repeat it.

i would want only one woman because when i get old i don’t wanna wonder who my soul mate is i might not find her young but not having the attitude to find only one woman will make me get to that point. I believe if a man goes from woman to woman every nite is a very lonely person. Women are not disposible, they are a gift and i respect them all whether godly or ungodly. i believe having that one woman that completes you will never get old because there is a connection that will never go away specially if u keep others away from both parties and focus on one another focus on a future instead of jus NOW. Besides i been there done that with havin more than one woman and its depressing

The majority of the men on here claiming that they love variety are the main ones who have their child being raised by a single parent. This is the reason why Maury is still in business. Who is to say that because you are long that you should be free to sleep around. I have never cheated in a relationship but have been cheated on. It’s not about whether I was a good woman but about the morals of that man. Relationships are everyday work. It’s always easier to find someone else to have sex with but once you have had sex 100 times then what? What is left? You need substance. This is why I wait three months before getting seriously committed sexually with a person. I am 25, single, WITH NO KIDS!!!

depends on the ones playin and those being played,it should be obvious by now that marriage aint for everyone,for a matter of fact the divorce rate has surpased the rate of putting a ring on it.so it looks like the players have won out again.

haha the father of my child is 39 years old and he is a strait up ho / busy dick so dont believe that they mature when they get older because they really dont ,, and here i was thinkin that if i date an older man things would be different but nope not at all !!

It is better to be a player because most women are not worthy of having a man be loyal to them. About 3% of women are worth it and until u find that 3% keep playing the field. Most women out here love attention, making babies, slick talk and attitude, ghetto, not classy, attention w***es. Now if you find a woman who isnt that it might make sense but you got to weed through alot of them to get to that point. Most black american women dont have their mind right.

Tiftin – You have hit the nail right on…!

the real question is why is this a question that “our (the black community)” media would consider this a question worth asking. this is madness. and the journalist who came up with this, should be directed to go back to school for the next level of diplomacy, bc obviously the first round did absolutely no good.

Tiftin you can wait three months and your man will still cheat if you not acting right or putting out right.

It’s better to do things GOD way and I know that GOD would not want anyone to be a player I am not judging anyone but GOD’s will should be first. Of course our flesh would like to sleep with every woman in the world but we have to submit GOD’s will. All of the older couples that I know that are married and they said that it’s not easy but with GOD at the center it’s beautiful.

Women take good men for granted. It’s only when they mature they realize that bad boy s**t is not who you wanna be with.

men or women should not be no playa. all women r not hoes. i am a 22 year old, black, single, independent mother from Louisiana. my daughter’s father is not on child support. i am a full time college student, with lots of goals i want to accomplish. me and my daughter’s father has a good relationship. I don’t curse, act like no hoe, drink, get loud or act ghetto,smoke, have sex with random dudes, respect myself, and a respectable young lady. we was engaged to be married and he told me he cheated on me. it’s not hard to find a good woman like me, u just have to look in the right place at the right time. but when u find a good woman dont mess over her, treat her like royalty, don’t be no playa and mess things up.

you knew what you was getting into so say bie and move on

MAN A MAN HAS A RIGHT TO DATE THE NUMBER OF WOMEN HE CHOOSE OR JUST ONE WOMEN ITS A MANS RIGHT INSTICNTLY TO DO IT.THATS WESTERN SOCIETY PHILOSPHY THAT DATING MORE THEN ONE WOMEN IS WRONG TO DATE THATS OLD CHRISTIAN CRAP TOO.AS LONG AS MAN IS 100 WITH THE WOMEN HE WITH HE STILL DO HIM AN ALSO WOMEN WNAT WHAT THEY CANT HAVE BECUASE OPTIONS INCREASES A MANS VALUE IN THE EYES OF THE WOMEN OR DESIREABLITIY

MAN A MAN HAS A RIGHT TO DATE THE NUMBER OF WOMEN HE CHOOSE OR JUST ONE WOMEN ITS A MANS RIGHT INSTICNTLY TO DO IT.THATS WESTERN SOCIETY PHILOSPHY THAT DATING MORE THEN ONE WOMEN IS WRONG TO DATE THATS OLD CHRISTIAN CRAP TOO.AS LONG AS MAN IS 100 WITH THE WOMEN HE WITH HE STILL DO HIM AN ALSO WOMEN WNAT WHAT THEY CANT HAVE BECUASE OPTIONS INCREASES A MANS VALUE IN THE EYES OF THE WOMEN OR DESIREABLITIY

IN THE EAST YOU CAN DATE MANY WOMEN AN MARRY MORE THEN ONE IN THE WEST YOU ONLY CAN DATE ONE BECUASE IF YOU DATE MORE THEN YOUR WRONG THAT’S WESTERN THOUGHT.SEE WOMEN COMPETE WITH EACH OTHER FOR MEN.AND A MAN WHO HAS OPTIONS WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN INCREASES HIS DESIRABLITY IN THE EYES OF THE WOMEN BECUASE WOMEN WANT A MAN OF A CHALLENGDE AN MAN WHO HAS OPTIONS COMMANDS MORE RESPECT BECUASE HE IS SEEN WITH VALUE.THAT’LL KEEP A WOMEN ON HER PS AN QS.THATS A MANS STRENGTH WITHER YOU BELIEVE THIS OR NOT.ITS A MAN RIGHT TO DATE ONE OR MORE THEN ONE THATS A MAN INSTICT THATS BEEN WASH AWAY BY THIS WESTERN CULTUR AN ITS FIMINISIM THOUGHT.MEN THE IN EAST ALWAYS DONE IT AN WESTERN MAN NEVER HAD THE GAME TO DO IT UNTIL NOW BECUASE EASTERN MEN UNDERSTOOD HOW TO DEAL WITH MULITPLE WOMEN AS OPPOSED TO OVER HERE IN THE WEST.

hmmm

And we all wonder why STDs are spead around so quickly and how all these people can have so many children with multiples of baby daddies…ppl start respecting yourselves and your bodies.

Wow!! Any man (or woman) sleeping with every and anybody is playing with fire..Who wants to be bothered with all the drama and STD’s..?

I think that it can go either way. Some people are just “not the marrying type” I am that type of person. I don’t f*ck someone new every night but I also don’t believe in settling down for good. I wouldnt be cought ina relationship. I would rather keep it simple. we can be friends, benefits or not. When emotions become involved, thats when things start to get sticky and I gotta move.

I think its better to be a player cause ppl cant be trusted anyways. Women only love material things and try to get what a man wants. So what I do is use that against them. They want the money right fellas. Real talk why not play them too and make them spend there money on you and you keep yours.

Satan is busy! Read the BIBLE people we are not here to do what we want to do. Marriage was ordained by GOD. We are in the END times and I am not shock that some people think it’s cool to be a player,it’s all in the BIBLE that people would think like this and shun GOD’s teaching. WE all are going to have to stand in front of GOD in give an account for what we did.

Let all remember Easy E……. Ultimately monogamy should be the end goal. Obama and Michelle are bringing commitment back.

whats better ? monogamy ! thats gods way. all of this player BS is messing with the family structure of blacks. but its not men who make the decision, its women. if women collectively cut men off, we would see who’s in charge. men can talk all they want. it is biblical that our weakness is women and sex. women can make young men go to school, wash their a$$es, get a job, etc all for love of sex. !!! but the problem is that women have bought into that 10 women for every man, well, if you collectivly cut off the butt, those numbers wont mean %#@. make them earn it women, then there is only 2 ways to go, respect you or go gay !!! i choose the former !!!

um. when u speak about women,you shouldnt generalize.Yes most women want the money.But some of us want what our parents and grandparents had and have.Thier was no money in that.It comes down to how your raised.Its as simple as that.Why the f*(& would I want to share my man?sorry,im a prideful woman.And i wouldnt want a man who thought that low of me that he would share his woman.I will say,we are a dying breed but some of us are not going to compromise on real ,true love.

If I cant get what my parents and grandparents had, I dont want any period.It doesnt mean a damn thing if u got money,wont be faithful,and he isnt in love with me.Hes useless as a male,period.I wouldnt be speaking this if I didnt practice what I preached.I’ve dated with money and without.Im looking for decency,honesty,integrity,romance all that.I might just end up by myself.Im not bringing any babies into this world if a man isnt serious about me and daddy doesnt approve.WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO TRADITON?

I love being single and bein a player…We’re not talking about STDs we’re talking about playin the field because you can catch something in what u think is a committed relationship so WRAP IT UP!!! Like i was sayin…being single and pimpin’ is fun, but it gets old. HOWEVER, bein’ in a relationship can get old too, so I think people should pimp while they’re young and have fun and then when they get to a certain age put a cap on it. Best of both worlds!

Option I: Being a President or family man/both

Option II: Playa with baby mommas and aids with an empty bank account…

Oh yeah that’s hard choice

Oh and let me say this… The reason that women are giving up ass to men is because WE HAVE SEXUAL NEEDS TO! Damn… guys are sayin “Cut men off and make them work for it” Damn what we just want sex too…there are a variety of women out there and as long as you’re safe…do what you want. Deuces…

I’d first like to give props to the fellas that wrote something truthful, not something that they think will impress women they will most likely never meet. I expected women to respond as they have, but sum of the fellas are not only lying to the world they are lying to themselves. I have many married friends and not one of them is happy with their “queen”. They all wish they were still single and regret getting married. I am by no means a “playa” anymore, but I was at one time and enjoyed the freedom immensely. STDs are spread through unprotected sex and careless actions. It doesn’t matter if u sleep with one person or a hundred. Have you ever read Hugh Hef contracting an STD? A man who’s slept with hundreds of women? Unwanted pregnancies are a result of unprotected sex and very poor planning on both males/females. I’m tired of reading about STDs/babydaddy’s when in this day and age EVERYONE should know to never have unprotected sex. Period. Fellas, keep your financial profilo high and you can play as long and as much as you like with 90% of the females. There are those that don’t have a shovel, but good luck finding that 10% in your area.

When players sees that the game is playing them more then they are playing it then they wanna quit. When a person get played then game changes. They both have their pros and cons. If you can maintain yourself in every way safely and effectively then player play on. But if the two of you can be each others keeper from the pits of hell to cloud9 then theres no need to play.

I realize that I am not cut out for long-term relationships… I was not interested in any of the men I had been involved with on a serious level, and found myself suffocating after being with them for a couple of months.

However, since I have gotten older, being celibate is a much more attractive alternative. Aside from the obvious inconvenience of getting checked for S.T.D’s (and yes, I always use condoms), celibacy is easier because I don’t have to worry about spending time and energy dealing with a person.

I also have come to the conclusion that if more women became celibate, men would treat us with more respect as a whole. Nowadays, their attitude is, “if she won’t get with me, some other woman will”. But if we stick to our collective “guns”, we will make it easier for the next woman, which may be you!

Banity did you miss the “Platinum Playa” part or are you jsut trying to paint the worst possible picture with that one?

i believe that being monogamous is a matter of choice, especially for men. i believe that every man has it in him that he wants more than one woman. but if he finds one that he loves so much he decides staying truthful to her thats what he will do. until that woman comes along i think most men wont have a problem with having more than one woman, it does not even mean cheating it just means not necessarily getting serious with one person. i agree with the ppl who are saying when you are younger you should try things, been there done that, however in my opinion it gets old after a while cuz all you want is someone you can trust and who you can be yourself 100%. sleeping with different ppl changes a person no matter if they want it or not or if they are aware of it or not, it kills feelings and makes it all the way harder getting those feelings back once you have found the right person.

I think that when your young have fun be a playa, but it gets old and being a “playa” gives you no sense of life accomplishment after awhile. I’m a 29 male and married and it keeps you level headed and also you got support when you can give none to yourself. What good is it to constantly be with different people when you can have one that really knows you and your needs. I say this with the thought that the person that is married has chosen wisely not just anybody b/c not doing so will push you back to the old single life. You still get urges being married like you forgot that single side then you remember how empty it really was in the end. Single life WAS fun and I found that I’m much more desirable to women anyway being married because I’m harder to get. So best of both worlds fellas!!!

“You get bored with the same thing every night,” explained a 22-year-old cat. thing?????? we are not things we are women. I never got bored of my lover, maybe it is he who is boring! dont blame ur flaws at somebody else. somebody elses trash could be somebody elses treasure! Look at bee and jay! they love eachother and wouldnt separate from eachother if it was for the world! monogamy is a beautiful thing! being a player has many downfalls, stds hiv babies from different babymamas bills support gifts for different girls and most importantly it weakens ur self esteem!!!!!!!!! nobody loves u, u r just an object used for f***ing.

I’m the one woman type.

However, I’m of the mind that if people want to explore their sexual identities, then they have every right to so long as their responsible about it.

As humans, we have urges, and there’s no reason why we shouldn’t want to act upon them with another consenting adult.

I agree with somebody’s earlier comment, f**kin around has destoryed the family structure of Blacks, which has led to the deteriaton of the black nation as a whole when you take into account the other factors at play. Most people f**k around and then when a baby pops up everybody wants to act brand new, and then comes the next generation being thrown to the beast because the parents couldn’t raise the babies right.

The monogamy vs player arguement usually ends up with one side blaming the other, when it’s really both men and women who are at fault. Lot’s of males’ girls are someone else’s one night stand, just like most males (not men) only become playas after they get their feelings hurt and they’re not able to handle it… and vice versa… the freakiest people are a lot of times usually the most scarred – and all of which goes back to the babies beign thrown to the beasts.

Polygamy is an option, but it takes just as much responsiblilty and maturity as a monogamous relationship, even more, actually… polygamy is NOT about degrading or objectifying women, or havin a life long orgy, and it’s sure as hell NOT the same as being a player… it’s another take on the family structure.

Peace

WoW! Past relationships I’ve had before were always serious but I was younger. Nothing wrong with a few loving companions…

People will give all sorts of answers. Some will practice what they preach while others will do just the opposite. There’s no such thing as an absolute better position. Some people will be with 100 men/women and still won’t be happy while other people will find love with the first person they meet and be good with it for the rest of their lives. In my opinion no matter what you decide to do, you should:

1) need to protect yourself to avoid pregnancies and STD’s should you decide to sleep with anybody.

2)be clear about your intentions with the opposite sex and make sure they understand what you want from them rahter than making them believe lies. Payback can be a b***h and some people will go out of their way to get revenge.

3) take some time and figure out what you want, what you need and what’s best for yourself in the end.

Last but not least, although I find the question pretty pertinent, I find that the ethnic background has NOTHING to do with people being players or not. That’s the one part of the article I like a bit less because it just reinforces stereotypes and RK Byers did just that by associating certain countries with certain behavior. It doesn’t matter if you’re Haitian, Ghanaian or Italian or from any other country. Other than that it was a pretty good article.

I am a person who has been around block since a young age! i am pushing thirty and can still have sex with several diffrent women a week but at the end of the day its pointless! I have lost several good women by being selfish and untruthful! So now recently i have came to the understanding that one true woman is priceless and very hard to find! so when u have that hold on to her cause u may never get another speaking from experience

LMAO…F**KIN AROUND RUINED THE BLACK FAMILY?!! SO WHAT HAPPENED TO THE WHITE AND LATINO FAMILY? DONT BRING RACE INTO THIS. WHITE MEN, LATINO MEN, ASAIN MEN SLEEP AROUND. STOP BEING SO IGNORANT. TRUTH IS MOST WOMEN SEEM TO BE ATTRACTED TO THE “CHASE” OF A MAN WHO GETS ALOT OF WOMEN. I’VE SEEN AND EXPERIENCED IT. NOT ALL MEN ARE CAPABLE OF GETTING ALOT OF WOMEN BECAUSE THEYRE EITHER NOT ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH OR THEY JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO GET A WOMAN WITH WORDS. ME AND MY BOYS ALWAYS TALK ABOUT IT. MOST WOMEN WILL COMPETE FOR THE SAME MAN BECAUSE OF THEIR EGO.THIS IS WHY YOU HAVE WOMEN CHASING AFTER THE SAME MAN. ALSO WOMEN LOVE A GOOD CHASE AND CHALLENGE. ONCE A WOMAN HAS YOU FIGURED OUT..ALTHOUGH SHE MAY KEEP YOU IN HER LIFE FOR SECURITY PURPOSES(A ROOF OVER HER HEAD OR SHE’S GETTING HELP IN PAYING HER BILLS) SHE WILL GO CHASING THAT ELUSIVE/EYE CANDY ON THE SIDE.

yeah u right cheating is not a race or sex issue!! cheaters or good mates come in all shapes,forms also yes women look over some good men for the bad boy and get played but then say all men aint s**t lmao too funny!!

I rather have a man who hasnt been around the whole fkn block. So when it comes to experience that a bunch of bs. Monogamy rules, when you a player you can bet when your azz gets old and your ballz sagging and you have no one to go home to you’ll wish you changed your fkn ways than.

i am sick of stupid a$$ people who want to loop white people in our argument. we face different problems because of our deterioration of black family. does it make a difference that white people do it also ? hell no. WE HAVE our PROBLEMS AND YOU KNOW WHAT THEY ARE. AND THAT STARTED OUR FAMILY STRUCTURE FAILURES. play with it all you want, but white people dont have a problem getting their failures employment, but our failures are standing on street corners breeding and not raising ! does it make a difference that white people fail also ? hell no, OUR probl;ems are OURS !!! starting with BREAKING THE kkk RECORD FOR BLACK KILLINGS WITH BLACK ON BLACK MURDER….AND IF THE BIBLE IS TRUE AND THE MAN IS THE HEAD, THATS WHY WOMEN ARE LIKE THEY ARE. WE LEFT THEM NO CHOICE BUT TO BE LIKE US. AS THE MEN GO, THE WOMEN GO. the BLACK FAMILY STRUCTURE IS SUFFERING AND ALL YOU CAN DO IS SAY “WELL WHITE PEOPLE DO IT TOO”? THATS STUPID. WE HAVE TO START FIXING OURSELVES SOMEWHERE, IT MAY AS WELL START WITH THE FAMILY BECAUSE GOD HONORS THAT, NOT YOUR OWN IGNORANCE !

If you think your a player your a idiot for real i’ve been with some women in my life but it doesn’t make me player.Brothers what yall need to do is stop all this player s**t it don’t get you no where.Wouldn’t it be easier to say i just love women rather than trying to use them for stuff because then you make the rest of us look bad.Once again niggas showing there ignorance.The type of niggas that don’t get it until it too late.And ladies before you give these sorry ass niggas that pick a chance you need to screen who you f**k with.Yall get so rapped up in that bulls**t them niggas be talkin yall actually start believing it.And you wonder why you come acroos the f**ked up men that you do.Men grow the f**k up and be men.And lady’s make some of these niggs go threw a screnning process before you give his ass the goods.

player= scared on commitment
why not jus say dat instead of tryin ta be noticed by havin more den one? and dem gurlz is jus stupid for it…

Honestly, at this point, I have tried the whole commitment thing, and if that man could find me that wants that, then I would not mind. But until these men get their stuff together as far as what they really want, I think I am going to role solo.

Yeah,yeah,yeah lol!!!! Chicks now days are on the same “ish”
as men are so people please try and see the individual before you judge the whole…I for one choose quality over quantity but when all I have to
choose from is a bunch of slick at the mouth no respect having on baby daddy number 3 gold digging skeeming azz females…Then yeah…I’m gonna run through em like a new
pair of high heels lol…”Next”
Love and respect to the queens out no pun intended…Just keeping it real….Get my album. http://www.myspace.com/yakuillasin

I’m a 24 yr old male in California, I grew up in a single parent home with a mother and two older sisters. I was raised to treat women with respect, BUT during the course of my courtships I guess I have made some bad choices on who to be true to, and I have been hurt. That feeling of hurtness will make a person feel like well why just have one? If u dont put all your eggs in one basket then there is no way u can get hurt again. I still believe in love but at this age (24) I feel a lot of ladies my age are not on that same page. Maybe its because of my region but it seems a lot of ladies are chasing after the same type of guy. If u are nice they think u r weak if u treat em like s**t they love u to death. It doesnt make sense to me but I refuse to get played my damn self. So what are u to do to avoid feeling lonely? F**k as many as u can.

It is too much out there that is associated with player/and pimpin so called. Kind of childish one of the reason why we have so many fatherless children. The dad was just there to squirt he didn’t have any intentions of actually staying long. It’s a game I may be an old fashion man and most women hate that. Sad It’s a lot of women out there that haven’t been on a date where the man pays for everything. It’s cool to be a player and lame to be a gentlemen. I say let me be lame I have to live with myself not you. Why are you concerned?

if you are a true player then your playing and winning the game of life. this includes social, financial, spiritual, etc. if its all about some p***y, your not a player, your a hoe. this goes for men as well. all yall cats on here be driving up the price of p***y. giving these girls waaaay too much energy, all because you don’t understand who’s the hunter and why your f**king these women. she is the chooser fellas. your only job, and i repeat, your only job is to keep your status growing. when you do that, then you wont have to be out here trying to get some p***y. you would be trying to choose which lady deserves some dick from you because you will be the prime target for women to get with and they will be trying to holla at you. aint nothing wrong with being a player, its just all about how you play. and when you get married, honor your contract with that woman.

Just grow up people, being a player is for weak men (or women) who don’t have the mental or spritual capacity to be faithtful to one person at a time. Point blank period, little boys and girls who think having alot of the opposite sex besides them have no sense of morals and values, and want attention that badly. Remember, beign a player can open you up for AIDS/HIV/ and other STDs period. Time to grow up BLACK PEOPLE!!

It would be nice if guys could be this candid with the ladies choose to be with, but know they wont be faithful to. Give the lady the choice to be in a “player” type relationship, dont play with her head. Thats only going to make her bitter for the next dude. Some ladies dont mind being in that situation, and the ones that dont want to be number 2, 3, or 4, they can keep it moving for a dude that will make them the ONE AND ONLY. Atleast when you keep it real from day one, you wont have all that messy s**t to deal with when you get caught….because you ALWAYS will. So, if your motto is “REAL NI**A” or ” I KEEP IT 100%” then REALLY do that.

personally I’m looking for my own Barack Obama.

These posts are ridiculous. It makes so much sense now why marriages only last 3-5 years these days. The only marriages that HAVE lasted were the ones that were introduced back in the 50′s and 60′s. Women get WAY to excited when the meet a so called “NICE” guy who is doing all the right things and think he’s “THE ONE”. WTF?? He’s supposed to be nice in the BEGINNING… that’s the name of the game to get what you initially want which is SEX whether you want to believe it or not. Women fail to make these men REALLY prove themselves and no one wants to DATE, COURT, GET 2 REALLY know. I don’t get it. I have so many people in my life who are younger than I (32) on their 2nd and 3 marriages. It means absolutely nothing to be married these days because the media, fast life practices and ignorant people have confused the mindset of REALITY. People today run at the first sign of smoke. Why run so fast? It may not even be a fire, and if it is it’s probably something so small you can piss on it to put it out. Moral of that comment is WAIT IT OUT, WORK IT OUT, MAKE IT RIGHT BEFORE YOU FIGHT AND TAKE FLIGHT.

2ndly… if men wanna be playas and if ladies wanna be quick lays… LET EM. We’re all human and have different motives and mindsets in life. I respect ALL people for who they are because I’m not put here to judge. I’ve been a snake in tha grass myself until I let loose of childish things. These things must happen, that’s why the word EXPERIENCES is in the dictionary. WE ALL MUST EXPERIENCE THINGS THAT OTHER PEOPLE MAY NOT DO OR LIKE. Give em time, they’ll get up and out of it. And if not…. WHY ARE YOU WORRIED?? We have our own lifes to look out for.

Yeah its fun to be a playa til you’re like what 29? Unless you found that ONE.

Why would they even post anything with the letters Obama on this post. Because he’s black, maybe. Stop playing into these negative sterotypes.

well honestly..guys have a different outlook on relationships because they get a different feeling from different females..everybody’s stuff is not the same.some stuff is okay,some stuff is good,some stuff is da best and can be deadly,and then we have the tainted stuff!!!see with a female,i all we need to find is one guy that looks good,smells good,dresses good,smart,funny and a money maker with a big **** and a long stroke and we hooked on that one dude!! but some dudes are never satisfied and feel like they are missing out but its all good…im waiting on my own personal obama so f**k all dat s**t!!!yall can kiss my lambo lights im gone!!!!!!!!

I tryed being a good guy and find less stress being a playa. Relationships seem like so much drama. I turned in my playa card when I met my sons mom about 5 years ago. We are not together anymore half of me wants another tight relationship the other have says goes back to bein a playa and not lose as time and energy into one woman.

Our society is so perverted that the things that really matter are out dated. Whatever happened to all the classy people? What happened to morals? In the bible 2Timothy speaks of men becoming lovers of self, so I guess the mind frame some of you are in is all ready written and supposed to happen because the heart of man is NO GOOD! Thank God that Jesus died for our sins because we would never make it if he didn’t. Everyone is so superficial and selfish these days but that will soon catch up to all of you. There are so many people who are completely lost out there and my heart aches for all of them because they have absolutley no idea the “HELL” they are setting themselves up for. wether you believe or not, care or not, think about it or not, GOD IS REAL AND HIS WORD IS BOND!! If you believe then you need to get things straight with the most high quick because time is definately running out. The last days are upon us all and if you are not living a life for God then you are serving the Devil. And we all know who is going to lose that battle! Don’t be the one to get left behind just for 1000 quick nuts! God Bless us all!

I FEEL THAT IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, IF YOU WANT TO BE A PLAYA OR PLAYETTE…JUST BE RESPONSIBLE ABOUT IT. I ENJOY THE SINGLE LIFE MYSELF, BUT AT THE SAME TIME I’M RESPONSIBLE. I JUST LOVE GOOD CLEAN FUN!

who the hell wrote this article? how dare u put that fn idiot 50 no cents alongside President obama….you made me sick to my stomach. he is a no class fn fool who exploits woman and a motherless child. next time you want to right an article about nothing.wright about yr self

To the person who wrote at 11:12pm…….It really doesn’t matter if your married or not. It doesn’t matter how responsible you call yourself being if you are sleeping around you are setting yourself up for alot of trouble. Whether you realize it or not. Try to think past what you “think” you want and be smart! Sleeping with this person and that person is sleezy. Sex is not for “FUN” its for marriage and reproduction only!!

ive been a playa pimp and a mack but yet and still ive been wit da same man for an entire year i didnt think it was possible but once you find that right one you wont want for anything or anyone else. no matter how good ole’ homey stuff its nt all about sex and any one person dat repects dey self will b willin to settle dwn as soon as dat rite ones c**s and anyway who wants a man dats screwed everyone woman but u

its funny reading all these posts. as a female, i say trust no nigga, and love no hoe. and my reasoning behind those words is becus men will f**k anything with a whole if they had a desire to, be it they girl, wife, hoochie, their girl’s bestfriend, old lady, teenager, animal…u get the point. and they are a bunch of men who want to be in a serious relationship with one women, and they are not hard to find. for the women, its the comapany that u keep. men only can get what u give them and if u giving it up easy then its easy for them to take it and walk away to go lay in the bed of the next b***h. and that is exactely why i peep game b4 i allow a nigga to climb on top. no im not perfect but through my short years of experience, ive had all types of niggas, controling, cheating, faithfull, liars(which were all of them) but the one that counted the most is the one im with now. so far so good, and i sorta trust him, but a b***h can never be too sure. as far as i knw im the only girl. and i love that feeling, i dnt like knwing theres other girls and im not #1, but there are plenty of females who dnt give a f**k, and that is why we have the problems we have in relationships now. niggas get away with way too much.

player

Players suck and when yo azzes get old and crusty you gonna want some woman to be the one but your past will come back and bite you in your azz and she’s going run like hell.

To all you mature and good men thanks for being the real man that you were brought on this earth to be.

Stay true to yourself and dont let those whimp azz player friends of yours tell you nothing different.

Same goes for us women who know that playing aint about nothing but dieases, hurt emotions and unplanned pregnancies.

So sister if you believe in sisterhood keep it real and stay away from players and cheating men.

First of all if a man is seen to have lots of woman doesn’t classify him to be a true player. A true players job is to ‘satisfy’ that woman needs. Having a girl friend and still chasing other woman is not correct protocol. So a true player is to play the game until he has fulfilled all of his desires. Then once he has found that equal mate who brings something similar to him, to the table, and then is when he is to turn in the CARD. TRUTH

i understand that men just want to have a variety, whatever, some women want the same thing, but it goes too far when men start hurting good women that aren’t just lookin for sex and when they start misleading a woman. Have all the sex u want, but don’t go around breakin peoples hearts just for some pleasure.
For all the men that are out there, bein a true man and stickin with one woman, thank you for havin a heart and keep doin u boo!

It just depends on the person some men and WOMEN I know don’t wish to be married and want to (shag) everything in the world and some folks just need to get it out of there system before settling down. I have been there done that and in my opinion making love to one girl is better then f**king every girl. But that’s just me.

I AGREE WITH CARISSA…SOME MEN WILL SAY/DO ANYTHING TO GET IN YA PANTS AND THEY DON’T GIVE A DAMN IF THEY HURT YOU OR NOT
A BOY NEEDS TO HAVE SEX WITH 100 WOMEN A REAL MAN MAKES LOVE TO ONE WOMAN 100 WAYS
THERE’S NOTHING BETTER THAN LOVE…ALL THE P***Y IN THE WORLD CAN’T COMPARE TO TRUE DEEP UNDYING ETERNAL LOVE

Being a playa is for insecure wishy washy guys. A leader doesn’t be a playa, only followers. I’ll rather have stability.

TO ME IT’S A HUGE TURN OFF IF A GUY SAYS HE’S SLEPT WITH TONS OF WOMEN

You can be stable and still be a playa….people kill me thinking that because a dude wants multiple women they are insecure…women cant be all things….even older men may appear faithful but they are what I call opportunist…they may not cheat on the regular but will if the temptation is there. Some arent afforded the same luxuries to be put in a position to see all thats out there. There is alot of reasons why it’s best to be a playa…even if you need a main girl to hold you down for the most part..just make sure the situation is mutual

there’s more woman than man in the world and there’s something in the atmosphere and it depends where you live and how you came up some man feel woman are god gift to the world so some wants more specail if they do good with it and can’t get enough of the journey so if the cap fit let them where it.

that s**t is soo corny.. i dont even talk to men who sleep with many different women for the fun of it.

I have to admit that when I was younger I was into the playa thing, But when you get older you learn to establish a meaningful relationship which entails more than just sex. In my opinion I feel that game playing should decline as you mature,unfortunately some men have the misconception that having a lot of different women is what makes a man, just a word from the wise ask yourself, would I want someone to play on my mother,sister or my DAUGHTER!!

Fisrt of all there is no such thing as a player period. There is just adult adulterous out there. Keep intouch with you morals, get back to your God, ask him the same question and see where you belong? i aint judging no one here, iam just saying lets be smart when think. if you want more, halla back, see how far we can go.

i agree with centurion2008 im only 20 and i was into the player thinghaving whatever female(even tho i didnt) i would have no issue in doing it but now that ive learned more I want something meaningful with my girl…u cant have them all ya entire life n plus ya might end up catching something anyways

Like i said, read between the lines, there is no such thhing as a player.

JUST BE CAREFUL!

These are all opinions. Some good and some kinda ehhh. Well, I say, “Do you.” Whatever makes YOU happy. Just because “They” say, “Get married,”Raise a family,” doesn’t mean you have to do these things if they don’t make you happy. The word happiness has so many meanings, depending on the person. If sleeping with many different women/men makes a person, well then F**K ON!!! Everybody want other people to live the way they’re living. Whats good for you may not be as good for the next person. I chose to get married because thats what made me happy. But I won’t preach marriage to someone if thats not what makes them happy. Lets just get over ourselves and live our own lives…

you can play, you can date, you can get married or just plain do what the hell you want. One Thing, because of all of this sex being toss around we will never get our lives right, until we do what God wants us to do. Now ask yourself. Is married the ture way, when the bible states that a single women do the work of God and a man should not be alone. Now what is confusing the bible or us. Are we taking the bible out of contents? God knows it all.

I guess it is tooooooooooo many fine looking people now. Men are losing their dam mind as well as women. Sex has a new fashion every year there is a new way to have it.

Sex is men weekness. I learn requardless if you are married or not. They are going to get it, find, buy it or just plain old screw a big ass or any hole, man or a women. No matter if it is clean or not.
Sex is like money the root of all evil. whatever you do remember we better get it right. whichever you feel but know what the word of God say.

Men make up your dam mind women stop causing men to lost their mind.

I think the origins of monogamy and polyamory have to be explored to help address this topic. Personally, I think some people are able to be monogamous easily while others are more inclined to be nonmonogamous. We come in different shades, colors, characteristics. Find out who you are and what fits you and roll with it..

lol@ the dudes comments in this article. hey every man is different, its all about knowing what u want. if a person can’t provide that then keep it moving,im sure they will anyway. people will only do what u allow them to do. never forget that

Im a very monogomas person and I have been all my life! so incase I ever caught anything it wouldn’t be a problem as to who gave it to me… It wouldn’t be a question I would know exactly who to go to with the bulls**t. All I’m going to say is if you are out to shag every girl in the world at least take care of yaself, Life is way too short to die from one night of passion!!! Who said it was going to be good anyway?! It maybe the worst sex of ya life, are you welling to die from it? Being a player isn’t at all attractive to me! Soon as I meet a guy and he says he’s a player…. I’m gone cause the first thing I’m thinking is this nigha has f**ked a million chicks and I’m not trying to f**k any of the dirty hoes that he has, you know they say that when you sex with someone you are sexing with everyone that they’ve slept with. Think about that. So if you’ve slept with three people and meet a dude who has slept with, I don’t know… Lets say 250 people, it’s really 254 including you and the three you slept with!

I have been watching Michelle and Barack Obama’s relationship. It appears to be so passionate and uplifting. He reached his pinnacle in society because of the love of a woman. How many men could reach their pinnacle if they loved 1 woman?

I wish I had that type of relationship.

lol @ the dudes in the article they sound stupid except for the ones that had something reasonable . lol @ the spanish guy and the haitian that explains alot lol.

i think is ok to be a player, but as long as BOTH PEOPLE OR AWARE OF THE GAME THAT IS BEING PLAYED. many people seem to get it twisted your player when all the players involve no the game.

Playerdom vs. Monogamy..hmmm. It depends where a person is mentally and emotionally. Monogamy is for mature individuals who know what they want and know or at least have a clue where they are going in life. If you are just looking for ass, it is not for you and Playerdom is. Personally, I believe no one should knock anyone for what he or chooses, but a person who chooses to play the field should be up front and inform his or her playmates that she or he is not looking for anything serious. To string along other people who are looking for something of substance is uneccessary because there are plenty who do not have a goal in the area of romantic relationship who are available to mess around with.

Monogamy is NOT part of our (Black Men’s)original culture/practices, just like speaking the English language it was taught to us/ forced upon us in order to further enslave, oppress, & destroy our Black Nation. Before we were made SLAVES we Practiced Polygamy.
To this day we still practice polygamy some knowingly, some unknowingly, and some regardless. From Abraham (father of the three major religions of the world), to Jacob (father of the twelve tribes of Judah), to David and his son Solomon (most famous Kings of true Israel), our people have practiced polygamy. When Muhammad and Jesus showed up, neither of them spoke against or outlawed this way of life. Today if a man were allowed to honour all the women who were attracted to him (with marriage), there would be “no baby mama drama”, no child support court (for the brothers), no single mothers, and definitely no “angry black woman syndrome”. Imagine that, back to family and building our empire back to the way existed prior to the trans-Atlantic slave trade.

for me it depends on the situation. at any given time i might need 1 who will cook and clean and be good to me.. but she wont do freaky things!
then the freak is just that… the freak. then i can be totally fulfilled.

WHEN U A PLAYER U HAVE TO WORRY BOUT PLEASING MULTIPLE WOMEN ALL THE TIME..ITS DAMN NEAR IMPOSSIBLE TO PLEASE ONE WOMAN LET ALONE A MULTITUDE OF WOMEN…..BESIDES BEING A PLAYER CAN HAVE SOME BAD RESULTS….I.E. UNWANTED PREGNANCIES (BABY MAMA DRAMA), DISEASES (CAN WE SAY AIDS CLAP HERPES ANYONE) BUT IM NOT GON BE A HYPOCRITE I LOVE WOMEN IM GUILTY OF BEING A PLAYER BUT IM EVOLVING INTO A REAL MAN IN NEED AND IN SEARCH OF A REAL WOMAN….I LOVE WOMEN SO MUCH GOD’S GIFT TO MAN, I LOVE EVERY ONE OF THEM AND IN A WAY IM FEELIN WAYNES SONG BUT I KNOW EVERY GIRL WASNT PUT HERE FOR ME. BUT I KNOW THERE IS ONE GIRL WHO CAN BE “EVERY GIRL” THAT I NEED…

I’m 47 yr4s old. I wish I had a man from way back in the old days. If you read some of the romance books especially the historical ones by Beverly Jenkins; the way the author/s portray the men back then as big, strong, have morals and integrity among so many other things in their personality.They are one woman men. They love and respect their women in such a way; we would be so blessed if we had that in this day and age. But that kind of man is so rare. There would be something lacking in him today that you would just have to deal with it. The young men today are so screwed up its pathetic. They can’t or won’t even speak english right. And won’t pull up their pants. I wouldn’t have a man or boy who wouldn’t pull up their pants. aqnd these young girls are no better. they accept these rough acting, thug like boys who won’t pull up their pants. like steve harvey says in his book, And what the hell is shag? Another word for sex? and if it is, why do we need another word for that? Thats what makes these young ,men so screwed up now.

I wasn’t finished. As I was saying, like Steve Harvey says, ladies young and older need to get some standards. Stick to your guns and don’t just settle for anything. I have a 2 yr old grandson. I’ve taken out the TV in my house. If I can help it, he will not be watching TV or listening to that crap they call music now. His mom is 21, can’t change her now. But I can have a say in the way my grandson is raised. He will grow up and learn to respect himself and women like in the old days as far as I’m concerned. Right now at 2 yrs old, when he hears that rap crap, he danced to it. And he doesn’t even understand any of it. I wish I would’ve taken the TV out when my kids were younger. Their lives would be different. Most successful people don’t even watch TV. Thats all I’m saying. I have said enough haven’t I? LOL. :-)

One more thing, isn’t Lil Wayne the same person that has 2 young ladys pregnant and wants to move them both in his house?

This is coming froma females point of view…I am a female version of a “player” so to speak, but itbdifferent for womenbecause we will be considered hoes.Nonetheless,I have had more fun in 23years being single thenn being with 1 person that is not suited for you. But see Imet a man that is everything I want point blank and I amnmore then content so being with just him is not even an issue. at the end oif the day it depends on the persons mentality and maturity level and what HE OR SHE REALLY WANTS FOR THEMSELVES. its fun have different partners(long as u r protected)and every1 is on the same page wichn is not always the case..in fact it rarly is. but really when you lost your job,having a tough time with your life or just old and dont look the same anymore,wouldnt you rather have the person bthat is there 4 u unconditionally versus the person who is there just for the sex?

I believe a man is only as faithful as his options thus I know this far. Could be wrong. just from my experiences thats where I stand on the subject.

lmao @ “When I left this dude’s side, he was still naming freaks.” Everybody is different, seriously there is no such things as categories of men or women, I am personally all of monogamous relationships.

Point blank Monogamy!

Too many STD’s out there and BABIES Mama/Daddy drama to deal with.

ITS NOT JUST A MAN THANG..some WOMAN GET BORED WITH THE SAME MAN. MY MAN LUV HIS STUFF AND I LUV HIS. ITS BEEN 13 YEARS, AND STILL GOIN STRONG, U JUST HAVE TO KEEP IT SPICEY!

It does depend on the person. Many women do the same thing. It seems to be a vicious cycle! One person cheats therefore the other person does. Its kind of sad. Typical of today’s society where we are never content with what we already have.

When you were a child,you did as a child,but you’re a man,you put away that childish attitude.If you can’t be settled in life your still a child.being true to one mate shows that you can be trusted in the other facets of life,if not I myself would’nt trust you to keep your word with anything else.you could come up with an excuse for anything you do.when your older you’re blessed to have someone to depend on,if you have common sense.

With the way the AIDS epidemic is spreading worldwide I’d be cautious with dating. From a women’s perspective I’ve been a player(ette) I dated 3 men at one time I always kept a Main Squeeze which was the one I was sleeping with. A Squeeze if that main squeeze decided he wanted more than what I Was giving him and a Possible that would knock both of them out the box if they both decided that I wasn’t giving them what they needed. Now that I’m More Mature in Age and thinking I’d rather settle down with one man and we keep eachother happy. All the while I was playing the field I ALWAYS ALWAYS Protected myself because I valued my life and didn’t want my child or parents crying over my body for 2 seconds of pleasure only to get a death sentence for being careless.

I don’t believe God made man to only have one wife !!! Its not a man’s nature to only have one woman…Thats man’s law,which totaly contridicts our natural instincts. Society is brainwashed by man’s law…In the olden days men could marry as many women as he could afford,and people were happier..Each wife had a diffrent role in the family…now everythings all screwed up…. A man could have the most beautiful woman in the world and still cheat..Its not his fault its his God given natural instincts !!!

i can’t believe this got so many comments and Davis love article got so little…..really

I BELIEVE THAT GOD INTENDED US TO BE WITH ONE PERSON IN THE END. TO FIND OUR “SOUL MATE”. ALL OF THIS DATING DIFFRENT PEOPLE, CHEATING, HAVING OTHER SPOUSES. I THINK THATS LITTLE KID BULLS**T AND PEOPLE NEED TO STOP BEING GREEDY AND APPRECIATE WHAT THEY HAVE.

Players are the reason why there is sooo many diseases out in the world. Why cant people just be with ONE person i mean s**t its not like u aren’t getting the sex.

morena.

i agree “MOST YOUNG MEN HAVE 2 GET IT OUT OF OUR SYSTEM B4 SETTLING DOWN. i’M A 22 YEAR OLD AND I’M AT THAT POINT NOW TO WHERE I’M LOOKING 2 FALL IN LOVE. BUT UNTIL THEN I’M KEEP F**KING UNTIL A FEMALE CHANGES ME AND MAKE ME NOT WANT NO OTHER FEMALE CUZ SHE’LL SHOW ME THAT SHE’S ALL I’LL EVER NEED. JUDGE ME ALL U WANT.

Everyone is basically saying the same thing. In this day and age there is room for a person no matter how old being a playa (diesases are real). If you have a woman or man treating you or not treating you right you need to decide what is right or good for you meaning one situation and go with that, People dont rememeber how our grandparents played it they stayed no matter what, but it became healthy because they knew what is good. Ladies hang on to your man if its good Men hang on to your lady even though we are tough to deal with. But men know this if we are tough to deal with ask yourself this “What in the hell did I do to make this chick go crazy on my dumb ass?” it is true. Be true to yourself and the truth will always come back.

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both songs are boring now.. and fck love

it’s better to find that person who loves you for better or worse. that playa bulls**t is for chicks and nuccas who really think that they don’t need nobody and thatey think that they will always be young and wanted. Only in america do people want to be labled as jump offs and playas the s**t is ridiculous. that is why you have so many grown nuccas and chicks still living in their mommas house or in her basement thinking it’s a real apartment. See with being someones spouse it’s not all about you and buying stuff you know you couldn’t if your ass ppaid somereal bills instead of paying a thrid of rent. but you see where alot of playas ans chicks are by themselves when it really counts.

definitely “Presidential Monogamy”

I’m married to the game

I’ve been on both sides of this issue & I must admit that being with 1 woman is a whole lot better (for me),than being with a different woman everyday.Theres too much drama involved.Then theres that empty feeling you get after a while.Everything isn’t based on sex.I’ve got to be able to reach a woman mentally & emotionally & having multiple women won’t allow that.I do find that women are doing the “player” thing more these days & if thats what they want…cool! They’ll find after time that its not all its cut out to be.Male & female.

Let me put it like this….
You know that feeling , you get when you have to sleep over in a ” Hotel”…… Multiple check ins….. Yuck ! ! !

I say ‘Presidential Monogamy’ all the way…I think promiscuity causes too much drama, heartache, single mother’s (even father’s), deceit, lies also causes to lose good friends, loss of character and respect for oneself. You lose morals and forget about the worth of a woman/man/ a human being all together, it also causes unwanted children (as bad as it may sound it is the truth) I know of many people (men especially) that have a child coming into the world that they don’t and the only person that loses in a situation like that is the child and let’s not forget the big one…. STD’s. You know the Bible says “as a child I did childish things, but when I became a man I put childish things away.” Ya this line applies here, maybe as you’re growing you know 17, 18, 19 maybe even 20 yrs of age you can lead a promiscuous life but as you get older that just looks ridiculous there are many other ways you can old on to your youth.
God is Love, so I believe that being with one person is right. When you are with one person you become rich in soo many ways.
I’m a product of the ‘Platinum Player’ so I know how unhealthy it is for you, your children and whomever else involved.
I mean I have tried promiscuity, but lemme tell ya it ain’t for me, aside from that empty feeling you have it just feels so dirty, everytime you sleep with someone you give a piece of you away and that’s not the life we should want for ourselves. And if we keep up with the promiscuity how are we as a people going to break this cycle???

Yours Truly,
~~Lady Shae~~

you may be a player now but at the end of the day the player will end up being a very lonely person and no one will want you

Playa all the way my dude! If you really on your game, you wont have to worry about the trivial bulls**t women come at you with. More ho’s, less hassle. Yall females aint worth it now anyway. Especially the black ones!

People dont see the beautiful women drake and wayne and other celebs see on a daily basis going from city to city… Men are physical creatures..There are so many beautiful women out here that will throw themselves at those guys..so why not try to f**k every girl..just wrap it up..

These so called playas will one day realize that no one likes or wants to be with a diseased, horny guy who has slept with the whole town. The sexually promiscuous lack self esteem and are trying to make up for whatever love they did not receive as children. It’s quite unfortunate. I have entirely too much respect for myself to be sexually promiscuous, and to be with a man who is sexually promiscuous. Y’all better wake up before AIDS really puts you to sleep.

If your between the ages of 16- 25 , play on player . after 26 you should be focusing on a monogomist relationship.

CUZ WE LIKE HERRRRRRRR,CUZ SHE LIKE US TOOOOOOOO…I WISH I COULD F**K EVERY GIRL IN THE WORLD

I think it depends on the person. Yes there are STD’s out there and stuff like that, but should that be the ONLY REASON someone should be monogamous ? Just because someone sleeps around does not mean they are DISEASED … a virgin having sex for the first time can get an STD !!!!
Correction to miss brandip77, but being a playa has nothing to do with self esteem, its is mostly about ones ideals of life. All men feel desire towards different women, some chose to act on it, some have ideals that make the option to be a playa not so appealing.
I feel that A MAN SHOULD BE MONOGAMOUS IF HE IS READY !!!! And being ready is not defined by age, its the state of mind. Some men get into a relationship and cheat like crazy, that man should have just been a playa and not waste that poor womans time … period.
Monogamy is a beautiful thing if it is shared with the right people!!! Being a playa is fun as long no one gets hurt.

I think it depends on the person. Yes there are STD’s out there and stuff like that, but should that be the ONLY REASON someone should be monogamous ? Just because someone sleeps around does not mean they are DISEASED … a virgin having sex for the first time can get an STD !!!!
Correction to miss brandip77, but being a playa has nothing to do with self esteem, its is mostly about ones ideals of life. All men feel desire towards different women, some chose to act on it, some have ideals that make the option to be a playa not so appealing.
I feel that A MAN SHOULD BE MONOGAMOUS IF HE IS READY !!!! And being ready is not defined by age, its the state of mind. Some men get into a relationship and cheat like crazy, that man should have just been a playa and not waste that poor womans time … period.
Monogamy is a beautiful thing if it is shared with the right people!!! Being a playa is fun as long no one gets hurt.

thats a hard choice but in the end i rather would be a non-player. when i see what my mom and dad have and everything that they have been thru and they still remain loyal to one another thats what i value.

meh…
You’re less likely to get hurt if you’re a playa

This is not a question we should be asking ourselves. Every man should be looking for a wife and not a different girl every night. We need more husbands and fathers not players and baby daddies. Get your mind right!!!!

I believe in monogamy. I want one woman who I can be with. But the bottom line is, the black woman of this generation don’t have a clue what loyalty and honesty is. Women of this generation couldn’t be faithful if someone paid them. So ignorant are they.

There is a time a place for everything. No SHOULD be a player for ever. I look towards examples from the ones who came b4 me. MY parents., they did and and maybe that’s why i’m the man i am today. I pick monogamy

Everyone read this carefully, THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP. Some people would like to think so, and when you think of it, it sounds like a really good ideal, but it’s a myth. Everybody cheats, and to the ladies and gentlmen that think “My women/man wouldn’t do that to me, he/she loves me”, think about it….. Who did you trust before that relationship started, and what happend, and what makes your current so special, different and loyal? Don’t get offended, er’body got a story to tell….. It’s about how much can you put up wit’ before you start thinkin’ of ways to kill this ma’f**ka without gettin’ caught…… I’m only bein’ real……

What’s with all these “be a player cause black women ain’t s**t’ comments. That’s a lame ass excuse to be throwing ya dick around the land. Somewhere in the world an Italian chick, a Swedish chick and a Greek chick is acting the same way as any black woman you are referring to.

Bottom line, being monogamous can be difficult, but if your significant other means more to you than a few moments of pleasure you will be.

Those who are still playing the game, aren’t necessarily wrong for doing it, they just haven’t found the one yet and hopefully someday they will. Just stop making excuses and blaming it on fems and admit that your just not ready, for what ever reason you may have.

The fact that this question is even being debated is just plain sad. Talk about the destruction of the family… The KKK must be loving these so-called players.

What is this extreme disgust with Black women? What’s weird is that after Black men dog us, talk bad about us, disrespect us, and choose us last we still choose you first. Show us the same respect you we show you. We do have some responsibility in this what we as Black women need to do is leave the sorry men alone and choose men who value us regardless of race so that we can be happy. If monogamy comes from this decision then great.

to mrgagentleman…dont put every woman in that category that we cant be faithful…when i am n a relationship i am faithful…it is the men who act like they have no self control tryna be the alpha male and go f**k anything wit a p***y..but i know every man is not like that…there are SOME good men with values out there…just like there r woman wit values who dont believe n cheating…like ME!

When I think about a man that is screwing any and everything I only think about all the STD’s he is spreading around. That is extremely disgusting.

the comments are deceitful

When you’re a pretty black brotha such as myself you have plenty of options. I am married but my wife knows her role. I cheat when I want to.

dam I cant believe some men think that its in their genetics to f**k with everything that gotta p***y, Yall nasty honestly. I am down ass, classy and very honest female I am totally monagomous, but dam they way yall niggaz is talking, just make me wanna break up with my man and be single, F**k love if it gotta be like that!

I think players are f**king gross! I want a man who knows that I’m the only one for him and accepts me for who I am. I want the kind of marriage that my grandparents have (married 55 years and still have each other’s back) but now a days it’s hard to get that wish because the majority of men out here can’t handle one woman. God bless Obama still sticking to Michelle, that’s REAL love there.

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All men think with their heads meaning with their dicks for p***y and their head on their sholders when it comes to money and some men even say f**k the money and rather be broke and still lay up and try f**k a female but on the real rap it up cause you nasty ass black men are bring us black women to much s**t just sayin i rather be by myself and lay down with a nasty ass black dog. What it do!!!

I know wit me bein with different women is not a matter of liking it more of an issue of bein tired of tryin to trust yall

Its sad to see how men feel about love and women. It shows we have no future as a culture and that we dont value each other. It shows weakness and childish ways, wake up its time to grow up and let go of childish ways. I know there are men out there that do value their love and want to be with their one and only. To those men much respect and let your voices be heard. To you so called players you need to wake up.

These comments have been very entertaining. U have the fellas that spoke truthfully, the fellas saying bs to impress women they’re never gonna get with, females saying, well saying what they always say about this subject, though there were a few surprises in there. Of course u had the race card thrown in there, which has NOTHING to do with being a playa or being tied down( can you say PERSONAL responsibility?) . And last but not least you have the holier than thou comments, people judging other people, like they have a right to judge ANYBODY. And just so we’re clear, I’m a bachelor not a playa, but I can’t stand for one to judge another, and then throw GODS name out there in vain. Just stop it and live YOUR life the way YOU want to. I will say this before I leave, f**king a ton of women has nothing to do with being an insecure man, being sum alpha male, proving he’s a mans man or any of that bulls**t. Hell most times it’s not even about the sex, so lets stop with the STD comments. Wrap it up! It is about variety, plain and simple. And I almost died laughing when I read the few comments about who gonna want an old saggy ass playa. Hell who gonna want an old saggy ass wife up under them? Most women get involved and committed so they won’t be alone and lonely. Hell it’s common for a lot of women to stay in a bad relationship just so they can say they are in a relationship. Most men don’t give a s**t about growing old by themselves. Believe that.

The younger guys wanted plenty of girls since they have not had many experiences.

But in the long run, I think all grown men really want one woman who will be able to satisfy all their needs. As you get older, other things become just as important as sex (stability, security, love, support).

Honestly i would rather have that one women to hold on to. I mean the having multiple women thing is overrated because your not going to be young forever ya know. But hey with artist promoting promiscuous acts and glorifying them, people tend to follow the steps of the artist.

I love my girl her p***y always good and her role play schems are off da chain. I mean don’t get it twisted I tagged my share of chicks but I was ready to settle down and didn’t want none of them hoes I tagged when I met my girl shii I knew I would love to see her everyday for the rest of my life I wouldn’t wanna grow old without her and that’s real talk shiii aint no need to stunt nigga got puzzy whiped…lol

:) Nice slice of life peice. I especially like the part about dude still naming freaks after you walked away.. lmao.

I think its better to be committed and to spice up their sex life before boredom comes knocking. Who really has time to deal with what lie to use when you’re with this person or that. At the end of the day, the person is only with them for a short period of time and then they’re alone again. The same trust issues that men go through, women do too so don’t put the blame on us only, its a TWO WAY STREET!

P.S: King_SirisII
Even when a man ‘wraps it up as you say’, a man can still catch an STD, AIDS, or even worse, get the woman PREGNANT! Do you know why, because the condom BREAKS! Man is not invincible!

Depends on how old you are.

Ya’ll so nasty!

I THINK MONOGAMY IS A BEAUTIFUL THING! WE ALL KNOW THERE WE ALWAYS BE THE PALYER,WANNA BE PIMP TYPES BUT I THINK THAT IN THE END WE ALL WANT SOMEBODY WE CAN CALL OUR OWN. I THINK WHAT BAROCK AND MICHELLE HAVE IS A WONDERFUL THING I HOPE I FIND LOVE LIKE THAT ONE DAY.

So what you are saying msReal is that all these safe sex and use condom campaigns are pointless then, because condoms break? So what’s the point of even using them then by that logic, which is illogical thinking. The chances of a condom breaking is statistically very low and as I said, it’s not even about the sex, it’s about variety. If you need to be in a relationship to feel good about yourself so be it, but not everyone wants to see the same face, same attitude, same everything everyday. Most people that have been in long relationships haven’t “spiced” up anything, they have just gotten used to each other and settle for what they have. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, I’m simply saying some people don’t mind being alone, mainly men. I’ve been celibate for 5 years simply because woman always think it’s about what they have in between their legs, and not all men “need” sex to feel like a man. I still enjoy the company of women, just not the same one.
P.S you really think getting a woman pregnant is worse than contracting AIDS? WOW.

I cosign “King” men love they are with and long for something “new and exciting” dont mean all want to be a player but we want to know that we’re capable of attracting someone outside of our relationship the cheating comes in when a man or woman steps outside to see if they really can and “wow you really think getting pregnant is worst than aids”

WOW.I will never forget my good friend and her husband were arguing about his cheating and having five kids outside their marriage..I will never forget his words… “not every day a man wants fried fish, some days he feels like lobster” Granted he was twenty one when he said this and she was thirty three…why she married him is beyond me…However, men who feel this way are a large part of the std crises we have today. Condoms do not protect from all stds…it has been proven that the hpv virus (which causes genital warts and is linked to cervical cancer) is often transmitted when using condoms..Also most men allow woman to perform oral sex on them without a condom…which can lead to an incurable virus..herpes simplex 2. Even if the girl has no visible cold sore…the virus can still be present on the surface of her skin and hence she can transmit it to this married man who feels that oral sex is safe…Men get a tiny sore or pimple from having herpes…woman break out in nightmarish sores and blisters, it is rarely a little pimple or sore. Not to mention the pesty little parasites called crab louse…I have a phobia of insects, especially parasitic ones, the man that brings any of these creepy crawlies into my bed is a dead man..I will do the time..if I have blood sucking bugs living on my v****a because a man could not be faithful or thought condoms can protect from all std’s
Well that man, will be a dead man…I pick my men very carefully as I do not want to be doing life in prison because he is stupid!!!!

Players/pimps..all this filth comes from the generational curses that has its origins out of the slave eras….we as a so-called race is in deep spiritual darkness to God,and ourselves…we as blackmen are dying…we’re dying spiritually,physically,socially,financially etc…our so-called women hate us! we hate each other and ourselves….wake up!wake up!wake up! before it is toooo late!

No that is not good to be a player. There are to many STD out there. And when you are single the best thing to do is Visit a Adult store and watch Tube 8 online. At least you know you are Std Free and you don’t have to worry about did a guy score you. So that is what I do until the right king come and get his Queen. And that is real when I date a guy before we even think about having sex we both get tested First and that is real. There is two many STD out there and the world. And people don’t get check ups. They just lay with any and everything and that is not good. I don’t even get in that world. I work for a hospital and you should see all the young people that come threw every day with STD. And when you see woman that are having babies and there babies are Infected by the Std. That is sad. So People need to start getting tested. And if you have a man or woman that is Clean then Marrie and keep that safe partner. That is why I don’t have sex. Because it is sad when you see kids 15 yrs old and 21 yrs old with full blown Aids. And the crazything about they don’t even look like they have a STD. Show that show you when you work in Hospitals and you see this every day. It will make you look at sex in people very different. So that is why I keep my legs Closed…lol Real talk

…Guys are just f**kin nasty as hell like that. Dont care who they run up in. Why u thinks it’s so many STD’s floating around here. Attention all u nasty ass men out here!!! CONDOMS are not always 100% effective so get your nasty asses TESTED regularly!!! Just nasty filthy DOGS is what ya’ll are….

I personally dont think its better to be a player or playette. It might seem like an exciting lifestyle to some but when you get to be a certain age you just look like a dirty old man or a dirty old woman. Plus you cant really trust them because they are not really with you for you. If you think about it most players are players because they offer the women or whatever a certain type of lifestyle, mostly gifts or money because lets be honest you never seen a broke player.

…It’s a damn shame how guys gotta always show and proove to other guys that they ”THE MAN” or ”MR.BIG SHOT” get the hell outta here wit that mess. Think for yourselves be REAL MEN. It’s also a damn shame how these old as men in their Mid 30′s or 40′s still actin like they 15 chasing behind some ”Tail” every night thatz just Pitiful..cuz if u gotte be going around behaving like that then it’s something seriously wrong here cuz at that age u should at least be thinking about finding a wife and settling your old ass down. Now i would expect that type of behavior from a young 18 – 25 yr old somewhere around there..cuz they still got alot to learn about ADULT life and they just exploring their options (i guess) but still even so u should at least have some self respect..cuz that type of scandolous lifestyle is not gonna get u nowhere but in the grave at an early age cuz u CAUGHT that BUG from ”Keisha from down the street wit the FAT BOOTY”cuz thatz all that matters to u guys anyway….you know what if i had a nickel for every dude that banged a girl and didnt even know her Full name ..i swear i’d be one rich B***h i tell you…

I pledge (shout out to the nupes), played college ball and had a nice car on campus. So I had my fair share of women. If I can do it all over again I would have stayed with one women

These guys don’t give a damm. as long as women are nude everywhere a dog will bark. You all can post all day about std. nasy men or whatever you are wasting your time. women must STOP.

WAS NOT DONE POSTING.

SORRY COMPUTER IS GOING CRAZY HERE.

For me there are too many diseases out here to be messing around with a man or men that want to stick their shlong into everything out here. If a woman has any respect for herself, she will not sleep with a man unless he goes out and get tested and shows her the results. Straight up.

Im not speaking bad about anyone…but at the same time some women display emotions that makes a guy think okay she easy so ima have her….but then again a different one every night that is very nasty and a misleading character about themself….they are going to either catch a STD OR AIDS or something of some other kind….never heard men or seen comments men would make about women…..

OK NOW. SINGLE LADIES PUT CLOTHES ON. You see men walking with the ladies or wives and you are giving the man the eye or giving them some sign that you want to crew them. Men are so damn weak until we women know this. Men get stronger and take care of your business. STOP USING LAME ASS EXCUSES TO CHEAT. It is not always our fault why things aren’t going well in the relationship. Women shut the hell up when you man is talking listen to him support his throughts and needs. now no I am not saying be weak just be listen to him.
On the other hand. We all are at fault to why this s**t is turning out the way it is. No body want to commit but everyone want to be the s**t.
You are a piece of s**t when you have to sleep with tons of people.

These guys aren’t getting busy with theirselvs. WOMEN GET AROUND IF NOT MORE JUST AS MUCH AS MEN DO. These posts I believe are sexually bias.

people gonna do what they want to but be responsible at least…….. it wont be so fun and kool when you got STD’s and a handful of children by different people and you not on good terms with ANY of them………..but hey to each their own lol

THERE A TIME WHERE TRUE ENOUGH, A DIFFERENT CHICK EVERY NIGHT OR IF NOT EVERY NIGHT AT LEAST 3 OR 4 YOU GOT IN A LOOP,AND AT THE SAME TIME YOU BE OUT JUST VIBIN MEETING DIFFERENT WOMAN AS U GO…ALL OF THAT IS GOOD ,WONDERFUL, TERRIFIC,PERFECT,NOTHING BUT LOVE….BUT ALSO BEING MONOGAMOUS WITH ONE WOMAN IS JUST AS WONDERFUL,AND EXCITING..KNOWING THAT THIS ONE PERSON IS DOWN FOR YOU NO MATTER WHATS GOING ON….SHE GONNA BE REAL WITH YOU AT ALL TIMES….ALL U HAVE 2 DO IS BE REAL WITH HER THROUGH U GOOD DAYS AND YOUR BAD DAYS SHES THERE…….IF U HAVE A WOMAN LIKE THAT……THAT’S GONNA HOLD U DOWN…..BY ALL MEANS STAY LOYAL AND FAITHFUL TO HER AT ALL TIMES…..ITS WORTH IT

ITS NOT WHAT YOU DO ….ITS HOW YOU DO IT……..AND AT THE END THE FACT STILL REMAINS THE SAME. …….IT IS WHAT IT IS

u go TRULYSMOOVE2 i agree

There are a lot of things in life that are complicated. But, some, like this one just proves to be more of an inconvenience and annoyance for women. I don’t care to be with a different woman every night because I have priorities that preclude me from even considering it – kids, wife, career, etc. Men and women have multiple partners. It’s just more prominent among the male gender. I would argue that it’s innate for us, however. But, the things that keep most of us (men) from being w***es is the ability to do so. You have to be more than just a man. Women are in a position to ask for more from a man and if we can’t provide it, they move on. The bottom line is: We do it because we can. When you can’t, you defend your inability to do so and impune other’s verility…which is the very thing that attracts most women to men to begin with.

Notice my use of the word “most”. There are always exceptions. But, believe me, if he finds another woman who doesn’t mind that he can’t speak English, has a 4″ member and is premature…he’s going to take a shot.

I am a 38 year old woman I have been with the same man for 8 yrs and the relationship that we have is like no other, he has also never cheated or disrepsected me and if he ever did I know that he would tell me because that is who we are and where we are in our relationship.

All guys go thru that phase when you run thru all the women you can. You reach a point when you wanna settle down. For guys its hard tho. When you ready to settle down you realize there arent too many options. You have to weed out the females who were boppin, broke, have various baby daddys, dont want nothing out of life etc from the ones who are worth the effort. Most women cant recognize a good dude so we resort back to runninng thru females. Its a cylce that never seems to end. So in conclusion I want a wife, when god ready he will put that person in my life. Until then, i’m gon swagg them all out

It is what it is, flip a coin

well sexin a diff chic evra nite iz risky behavior and can lead 2 disease and unplanned preggos. i neva undastood y bein wit jus 1 woman iz so unheard of or awful fo sum guys. i mean ya n da dark an p***y iz p***y. iz it like each woman gonna feel diffrent than da last? iz it like changin women iz az important az changin 1′s clothes? i wud think luv trumps lust n.e.day.

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