What’s Your Anger Style?

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Instead: Breathe. This simple move can override your anger/stress response. “Note how your breath is going in and out of your chest, and focus on a replacement attitude, like compassion or appreciation,” she says. After about 10 breaths, your heart rate will shift and signal your brain to express your more rational side.

The Triggers: Incompetent coworkers, bureaucrats, in-laws

Don’t Become: The Redirector

Anger is like Whack-a-Mole: Slam it down in one spot and it’ll pop up in another. Men who shun the urge to rage, says John Lynch, Ph.D., author of When Anger Scares You, often experience it in other ways, including anxiety, fatigue, or destructive behavior (such as drinking or cheating).

Instead: Talk it out, even when you can’t see what good can come of it. Start by saying something respectful to the person who lit your flare. “You can only feel angry when you feel threatened,” Lynch says. Then explain what bothered you and create a plan to avoid a repeat occurrence in the future.

The Triggers: Everything

Don’t Become: The Pessimist

Chronic, recurring anger without cause is a signal that something beneath the psychological surface is out of alignment.

Instead: Undergo screening for depression; habitual anger is often a symptom. Then find something that makes you feel better about yourself—hit the gym, go for a jog, clean up your office. This will give you less opportunity to get angry and will help eliminate negativity.

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