Last weekend, a college baseball player called Little League star Mo’ne Davis out of her name (a “slut”) on Twitter.
And it was via Twitter that Joey Casselberry was summarily dismissed from his Bloomsburg University baseball team. And days later, in what is being hailed as a mature and “classy” move, Davis said in a televised interview that she forgives Casselberry and even asked the school reinstate him on the team (which they declined to do—the college said they were standing by their decision).
Yet there are some out there that say not so fast Mo’ne—did this guy really need your public forgiveness? Writer Denene Millner in a blog post entitled, “Mo’ne Davis Forgives Her Twitter Troll. Sweet, But That Wouldn’t Be My Daughter,” the writer says she would have told daughter to cease and desist on that forgiveness bit. Milner writes:
I mean, maybe Mo’Ne and the people surrounding her are just bigger than me, but, um, ain’t no way my girlpies would be on national TV pressing holy water on the forehead of a devil who thought nothing of ripping [the offensive tweet] off on Twitter…
Millner says that maybe the focus should have been on the perpetrator instead of the teenager:
Social media has made it quite easy for the most disgusting amongst us to easily and loudly proclaim they absolutely abhor human life if it comes wrapped in skin that isn’t white like theirs or it has a vagina attached to it. And media jabberjaws make matters worse by focusing on calling Mo’Ne “classy” and “grown up” for forgiving her attacker, instead of training commentary on the ass who called a little girl a slut.
Yeah, yeah, I was sitting in the front row during the Sunday School lessons about forgiveness and “He who is without sin cast the first stone,” and my father was—and still is—very big on giving people second chances and not holding grudges and blah, blah, blah. We’re programmed to forgive and turn the other cheek. But I’ve never been one for steadying my face for a second slap. Truly, I checked all up and through my brain and my heart and deep down in my insides and I couldn’t find not even a morsel of damns I could give for a man who would dare fix his mouth to call my daughters sluts. Not in this day and age, when girls are being raped on college campuses with no recourse, and little girls are being drugged and raped at parties and having their attacks posted on social media for kicks. Not when reproductive rights are under assault. Not when 12-year-old Black boys likeTamir Rice are being bucked down in the street by cops for playing with toy guns, or teens like Jordan Davis and Trayvon Martin are killed for playing their music loud or walking down the street in a hoodie. Not when young Black women like Renisha McBride are being murdered on front stoops, simply for asking for help and babies like Aiyana Jones are being bucked down while sleeping under Disney blankets on their grandmama’s couch.
Sound off – in this day where it seems like it’s open season on black children, are we too easy to forgive those who verbally assault our children or should we always employ the mandate to forgive?
Read more of Denene Millner’s piece here.