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SAVANNAH, Ga. – An Army cook and single mom may face criminal charges after she skipped her deployment flight to Afghanistan because, she said, no one was available to care for her infant son while she was overseas.

Spc. Alexis Hutchinson, 21, claims she had no choice but to refuse deployment orders because the only family she had to care for her 10-month-old son — her mother — was overwhelmed by the task, already caring for three other relatives with health problems.

Her civilian attorney, Rai Sue Sussman, said Monday that one of Hutchinson’s superiors told her she would have to deploy anyway and place the child in foster care.

“For her it was like, ‘I couldn’t abandon my child,’” Sussman said. “She was really afraid of what would happen, that if she showed up they would send her to Afghanistan anyway and put her son with child protective services.”

Hutchinson, who is from Oakland, Calif., remained confined Monday to the boundaries of Hunter Army Airfield in Savannah, 10 days after military police arrested her for skipping her unit’s flight. No charges have been filed, but a spokesman for the Army post said commanders were investigating.

Kevin Larson, a spokesman for Hunter Army Airfield, said he didn’t know what Hutchinson was told by her commanders, but he said the Army would not deploy a single parent who had nobody to care for his or her child.

“I don’t know what transpired and the investigation will get to the bottom of it,” Larson said. “If she would have come to the deployment terminal with her child, there’s no question she would not have been deployed.”

Hutchinson’s son, Kamani, was placed into custody overnight with a daycare provider on the Army post after she was arrested and jailed briefly, Larson said. Hutchinson’s mother picked up the child a week ago and took him back to her home in California.

Hutchinson, who’s assigned to the 3rd Combat Aviation Brigade of the Army’s 3rd Infantry Division, joined the Army in 2007 and had no previous deployments, Sussman said. She said Hutchinson is no longer in a relationship with the father.
The Army requires all single-parent soldiers to submit a care plan for dependent children before they can deploy to a combat zone.

Hutchinson had such a plan — her mother, Angelique Hughes, had agreed to care for the boy. Hughes said Monday she kept the boy for about two weeks in October before deciding she couldn’t keep him for a full year.

Hughes said she’s already having to care for her ailing mother and sister, as well as a daughter with special needs. She also runs a daycare center at her home, keeping about 14 children during the day.

“This is an infant, and they require 24-hour care,” Hughes said. “It was very, very stressful, just too much for me to deal with.”
Hughes said she returned Kamani to his mother in Georgia a few days before her scheduled deployment Nov. 5.

She said they told her daughter’s commanders they needed more time to find another family member or close friend to help Hughes care for the boy, but Hutchinson was ordered to deploy on schedule.

Larson, the Army post spokesman, said officials planned to keep Hutchinson in Georgia as investigators gathered facts about the case.

“Spc. Hutchinson’s deployment is halted,” Larson said. “There will be no deployment while this situation is ongoing.”

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Da_J_Rok/ Da_J_Rok

    I once refused to be deployed at the beginning of the Iraq War, because my son’s mother didnt have a place to live and I just had moved from another base and they were tryin to force me to deploy before the time that I was even elgible. “F” the government

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Whydopeople/ Whydopeople

    I’m sure there is more to the story than we are reading. I do not think that they would send her overseas and tell her to put her child in foster care though. I think there are too many holes and it will take an investigation to bring all the details to light.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/grown_man_jae/ grown_man_jae

    i read the story this morning…i probably would of did the same thing she did…everyday you hear of our familys dying over seas, over what, some bulls**t bush started…my family means more than another countries government and how its ran…our government f**kin us everyday, and now we fightin and dyin over the bulls**t they do..F**K that

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Shamel_/ Shamel_

    This is so unfortunate. I would have done the same thing this young lady did if I had to leave my son behind with the risk of him going into a Foster Home. What is even more sad is that she has no other support system and the father is an apparent “dead beat” (smh). I hope things work out for her and her son.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Dustys_lady/ Dustys_lady

    I’m not trying to sound heartless but she knew the deal before she had him. She had the option to get out when she got pregnant, every woman does. They give you that option because for some they don’t have family who can take care of the child and you have to have a parenting plan if you’re on active duty with children. She knew all these things and that there was a possibility that she’d deploy.

    Military separation codes 221 and 222 would have covered her if she would have chosen to do so the right way.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/moniQTee/ moniQTee

    Ok D J Rock. I heard the hell outta that. POWER TO THE PEOPLE!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/PurpleFlames/ PurpleFlames

    It’s a s**tty situation no matter how you slice it. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DA_GEORGETOWN_MAYOR/ DA_GEORGETOWN_MAYOR

    I WOULD GO EITHER, THIS IS A WAR THAT WILL END IN A STALEMATE AND THE ENTRANCE OF THE ANTI-CHRIST!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/itsmeChrissy901/ itsmeChrissy901

    I have to agree with the Army on this one. She signed up for this and “thousands of single moms are deployed every year. They work out their childcare needs ahead of time.” Her mom is the shady one here. She agrees to keep the boy then changes her mind right before her daughter deploys?? WTF is that? I saw CNN story on this today. I say she made a commitment. She had time to prepare and she SHOULD have had this taken care of. Its the MILITARY. They can’t make concessions for the one who didn’t get it together. There are services to help with childcare.
    This chick may just be irresponsible.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/moniQTee/ moniQTee

    The “War” is a LIE anyway. She did the right thing.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ARealSweetAddiction/ ARealSweetAddiction

    I agree with itsmeChrissy901.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Charvon/ Charvon

    EITHERE WAY SHE WONT SEE HER SON JAIL OR OVERSEAS

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Charvon/ Charvon

    THE UCMJ WAS MADE BEFORE WOMEN WAS ALLOWED TO JOIN THE MILITARY AND THE FATHER ISNT AROUND SO MILITARY SHOULD GIVE HER SOME SORT OF LEAVE OR CHANGE HER TO RESERVES TO ACCOMODATE THE SITUATION MILITARY IS BASED OFF LOYALTY AND INTEGRITY AND TO PUT HER IN JAIL FOR TRYING TO BE A MOTHER IS WRONG ……………

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/qadavis/ qadavis

    They aren’t putting her in jail for being a mother. They are putting her in jail for not following orders. When she got pregnant is when she was given the paperwork for her family care plan(who will care for you kids while on deployment), so she’s had plenty of time to find someone. If she couldn’t or didn’t find someone, then what she should have done was get out of the military for failure to have a family care plan. Because she also knew months if not a year in advance that she was going to be deployed. So, again, she had plenty of time to figure this out. She should have had someone else in mind besides, her elderly mother. I would hate to see her go to jail, but plenty of women have just gotten out of the military because they couldn’t find someone. And being a veteran, I don’t feel bad for her. She probably thought because she has a kid they will be easy on her. She had plenty of time to take care of her situation. So, she should just cowboy up, and deal with the punishment handed down to her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lovinglife3970/ lovinglife3970

    Listen I am single mother of 4. I have served in the Army 22 yrs. I have been to Iraq twice. Once as a single mother. I knew what I was doing post 9/11 and the obligation that I had to the military. Coming from a family that hasn’t been very supportive it wasn’t easy but, my extended family I built over the years are the people I knew I could depend on. First, let me tell some of the things the news is not reporting. She had two options: When she got pregnant and had no support she could have asked for a pregnancy chapter (honorably) or a family care chapter (honorable) meaning she could not fulfill her obligation because she had no family support and got out of the ARMY. So, I have NO sympathy for this young soldier who is acting as though the military just turned their back on her and she had no choice. She wanted to stay in on her terms which do not work in our job field. We have a difficult job that most don’t understand and as a single mother I love what I do and I make scarf ices everyday for my country and my children to make this world a better place. I appreciate the family that I have that supports my efforts and all the families that support the soldiers it’s not easy them either. She did not just find out a week ago she was deploying, deployments are months in the making which means you have enough time to make arrangements for your children and personal affairs or again she could have taken the options I mentioned above. So, when you think about a single parent soldier again pray for my battle buddies that are out there in the fight not shrieking their obligation.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/masculine31/ masculine31

    All she needed to do was show up wit her child, and say we both going then they would have left her alone…WOMEN STOP HAVING SO MANY FRICKEN KIDS! Having kids, just to keep a man is insane. Please stop da insanity!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/beeutea/ beeutea

    I grew up in very abusive foster homes, and I do not blame her for not going..who wants their kids to be placed with total strangers…rules or no rules, I would’ve done the same thing..that Afghanistan sh*t needs shut down anyway..why the hell are we still over there?? Let them deal with their own country problems..we’ve helped and lost enough lives..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/JCAUTIOUS/ JCAUTIOUS

    People do that s**t all the time to get out of a deployment. If she would’ve brought it up, they would have chaptered her for not having a family care plan in the first damn place. I don’t feel sorry for her. If you sign up, you’re going to war. Every damn body in America knows this by now. She probably just had the baby to get out of deployment, and when that backfired, there were no more options.. I’m just speculating, but don’t be fooled BP readers, “Because this type of s**t happens all the time..” Lol. This is just one story that somehow made it to the big leagues. I have 4 deployments under my belt. I know what I’m talkin bout..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Urban_Epiphany/ Urban_Epiphany

    @JCAUTIOUS I DON’T THINK SHE HAD THE BABY SO SHE WONT DEPLOY, HE IS 10 MONTHS. AND SHE JOINED IN 2007. BUT YOU ARE CORRECT. WHEN SINGLE PARENTS IN THE ARMY DON’T HAVE A FCP THEY ARE CHAPTERED ON A CHAPTER 8 I THINK. I REMEMBER WHEN I WAS IN THERE WAS A YOUNG LADY WHO DIDNT HAVE A FCP AND WAS CHAPTERED OUT.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    She missed movement…thats one of the worst things a soldier can do and almost always warrants a court marshall. I dont feel sorry for her because she was a young, irresponsible soldier who was too immature to join the Army in the first place. I have soldiers under my belt just like her and I almost have to hold their hand in order for them to do simple things like pay their bills ontime and budget their money. It sucks she had no one to take care of her child…but i dont see how thats possible when her unit most likley knew at least a year in advance that they were deploying.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/threedee3/ threedee3

    they need to stop sendin our people over there,f**k afghanistan the only people i feel sorry for over there are the women and the kids.you did right mama you have a baby to be here for and if you go over there and get killed then what,baby wont have a mother in his life.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    Many women in the Army get pregnant so they can collect benefits and wont deploy…the Army fixed that by telling all single parents they had to have a family care plan (which means someone will watch your child while you are deployed) Most likely she will be booted out of the Army because she’s useless. Shes sucking up taxpayer dollars and malingering. I feel bad for her, only because shes not very intelligent… but too many soldiers are in the same position and treat the Army like its just a paycheck and dont want to do the real work that comes with the job…ie deploying.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/IndioLatino/ IndioLatino

    See this is what you get when you bow down to the government. I’m not accusing no one or blaming a individual. And also, look how the president obama looks with a f**king noble peace prize while sending 30,000 troops to war. Very nice indeed.. F**k the right wingers and f**k the left.. F**k the democrats and f**k the republicans. That’s how i feel. It’s all an agenda. If you dont like my opinion go kill yourself.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    You act like they are forcing black people to go overseas and fight. No one thats in right now was forced to sign up for the Army. She raised her hand just like everyone else…white,black, poor and rich. When you join the military you take an oath to put your job ahead of everything else…she knew that. They make it as clear as black and white when you sing on the dotted line. Even her lawyer said: she doesnt have a leg to stand on. She was smart enough to get in. The Army doesnt take retards or mentally challenged people. So I dont feel sorry for her…I believe her commander when he said she waited untill the last minute to say. Hey I have a problem. I have soldiers like that under me.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Poopie4985/ Poopie4985

    Just because you got deployments under ur belt dont mean u know everybodys situation. The military stresses the fact that they (the military) didnt instruct you to have these kids but they didn’t instruct you not to either and to be real with it u dont see the military providing money for no abortion either cause its against regulations. Yeah it was her choice to have this child but I’m pretty damn sure this young woman didnt ask to be a single mom either like alot of women…The military acts like its all for families but their not because as soon as it doesn’t benifit them and their mission you can forget about family… At the end of the day the military is a job thats all, ur family comes first no matter what a military regulation says and thats what people dont understand….some people get too brain washed into the military ways and its rediculous…if it is the case that her mom told her at the last minute she couldnt watch that baby then they need to let her go… and give her a discharge if they dont want to deal wit her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    I have to appologise to all the single soldier parents(female and male) who i may have offended…I know many single parent soldiers who are some of the best soldiers in the Army. They almost never allow their personal life to get into the way of their job, and when it may conflict with the Army…guess what: They take care of it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Willstheone/ Willstheone

    To me its rotten that no one has care for single moms out there. I really do. Especially those in their late teens early 20s. Many times a young woman is raising a child alone is mainly because the childs fahter is a jackass and they both seperated leaving her to raise the child by herself. And the worse part. Its not easy for a woman with a child to find a boyfriend since not all guys want to date single ladies with children. And its not just the military who has no support for young single mothers. Many employers do. My ex girlfriend has a 2 year old son and she got laid off this past April from being a nurses aid. Then 6 weeks later got a job at Panera bread as a cashier. Who was at some point not giving her enough hours so she quit. Then she was on welfare for a while then in October they cut off her welfare. So I honestly felt sorry for this girl. And I also feel sorry for Alexis Hutchinson. She should not be charged.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/new_year_new_things/ new_year_new_things

    this country is so full of s**t…. now ppl can refuse depoloyments… whats next…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    @poopie…Im sure its just that kind of thinking that got this girl in trouble in the first place. No one said you had to be brainwashed to join the Army. But you should know how serious skipping a deployment..rather missing movement is. If she was so worried about her child then she shoulda got out lmao…It woulda been as simple as telling her chain of command. I for one dont have to know everyones situation…I’ve been in over a decade and I can safely say that I read this one with my eyes closed. Typically when you have a family care plan (I know because I just did one on my female soldier) You have to have a back up caregiver. So at the end of the day…yes the military is a job but you better darn well be able to accept the consequences that come with that job.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Willstheone/ Willstheone

    I only know 1 soldier who just recently returned to Iraq whos not a single parent. But I know many single moms out there and honestly. I know its not easy to be a single parent. And I honestly feel sorry for the single moms out there. Especially those in their late teens early 20s. If I had the choice I would not have this woman charged for refusing to be deployed. I wouldnt have even deployed her. Id let her stay in the country with her 10 month old child.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/blakk_gangsta/ blakk_gangsta

    pretty sure she already knew the risks before she joined and then got pregnant. i’ve seen a few people use that excuse to get out but she did sign her name on the dotted line. hell i just found out today that i’m getting shipped out in 9 days, so no pity.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    wills maybe you would feel better if the Army set up a dating service for young service moms lol. I dont mean to come off sounding heartless But the Army literally bends over backwards for young single parents. Their are so many programs and options for young single parents in the Army its ridiculous….and often young single parents are treated better than single soldiers without children. So no I dont feel sorry for her…maybe sorry that the relationship dident work out. I do believe that someone was an a*****e when they told her to put her child in fostercare…lot of jerks in the Army but your around so many different positive people 24/7 I dont know why she dident get a 2nd, 3rd, 4th or even 5th opinion. To me the fostercare thing sounds like an excuse. I hear them all the time.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    exactly black…it does happen. But the Army is almost always very accomodating to soldiers when they have issues before a deployment. My belief is if her chain of command was so evil as to not help her out, other soldiers would have came forward…but it seems like none have. Im a squad leader and I hear so many excuses from soldiers why they cant deploy…Im almost numb lol. It irritates me to no end, but I do my best to help them to solve their problems…maybe her first line supervisors sucked. I know cooks dont typically follow the same format as Line units. I would have been honestly embarrassed if she was my soldier…this would have never happened to me because I would have made her get a second caregiver and I would have held her hand until she completed the task.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/new_year_new_things/ new_year_new_things

    no pity whatsoever…. she’s an american soilder in the u.s army… ppl are not taking the military as seriously as they should now and its showing. f**k you getting pregnant knowing your situation and that you might get deployed. and its sad because i know a few woman at fort bragg thats gotten pregnant just to avoid deployments to kuwait and afghanistan….. s**t is crazy…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    My first question was where were her NCO’s? her leadership in all this? Thats a big problem…SGT’s are not being groomed the way they used to be, Its too easy to make rank and most dont care to begin with. Leaders now a days have a likership attitude instead of a leadership attitude. Its just a shame that this made it all the way to the News outlets. If she was my soldier she would have deployed. I dont blame the soldier so much as i blame her leadership.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Willstheone/ Willstheone

    She could have her parents watch her child while shes away. There are many children whos legal guardian are their grand parents. And I know some people who were raised by their grand parents and I know some children today who are raised by their grand parents.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Poopie4985/ Poopie4985

    Going off the story thats told u damn right she shouldn’t have showed up or she she should have showed up with her kid either way… if there is nobody to take care of her kid she needed to stay with her kid.. once again im just going off the story thats being told not anyone else’s assumptions just cause they been in the military for umpteen years or more. The story didnt say she didnt have a family care plan or antything like that. From what i read it sounds like her family care plan failed at the last min. Thats just me going off the story above……

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Sub-Negro/ Sub-Negro

    Wait where the almighty president at?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    I had an issue with one of my female soldiers a few months ago, she lived in on base housing but failed to pay her rent. she was given 72 hours to come up with 1500 dollars or be evicted from military housing. I got her the money (through Army programs) and stopped her being from evicted from her house…and she had three kids. Like I said before…if she had good leadership they should have nipped the problem in the butt before it got this big. I saw a statistic the other day. Over 100,000 soldiers have had to leave their child with someone since 9/11. I do feel bad though because her leadership failed her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mr_fingers/ mr_fingers

    What about that racist ass Major Stephan Frederick Cook. He with help from his sorry ass b***h attorney Orly Taitz are the two that started the birther movement claiming that President Obama is not a U.S. citizen. I feel that if the Army can make a young lady put her child in foster care and order her to Afghanistan, then make this coward go as well. F**k the birthers.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    well maybe thats why you should listen to people who have been in the Army umpteenth years…because they have experience and most likely know what they are talking about lol. I did read the story and my TV practically stays on CNN, Like I was saying though…a family care plan must have more than one care provider and if it dident her unit violated military regs. So she will eventually be proven not guilty somehow though I dont think her unit was that stupid and im assuming they covered they’re a$$es.The news said she knew a month in advance that her mom couldent take care of her child she still had ample time to find another caregiver…the fact that she waited till the week of deployment to tell her unit she couldent go tells me the fault was probably hers.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/djazz58/ djazz58

    have you talk with the young sista or her lawyer
    if you havent done those things then what are you talking about?
    youre so brainwash by the media you believe and judge something or someone
    and you dont know the truth.if you really are concern then do your research.
    and think for yourself.none of us know but her and GOD..pray that the right thing will be done..that is if youre really concern..if youre not then what are you talking about..spitting your poison on someone you dont know..then when something happen to you ,,you want mercy…pray for this young sista mr christian and mrs christian……dont kill her with your words..thats murder too mr&mrs christian …………peace

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/_A_/ _A_

    People need to realize, joining the military is not like going to work for IBM etc. You can’t just quit when things become inconvenient. On the other hand, I can’t see why the Army would have a problem letting a cook remain home with her child, its not as though a cook is instrumental to the overall mission there. People get caught up in those “be all you can be” or “aim high” commercials but don’t realize war is a very real possibility. I can’t lie, I did 4 years in the Air Force and was hardly prepared nor willing to go fight in a war, it was just a job for me. Times are different now!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    Djazz I wouldent expect you to understand if you have no military experience. Its the same concept as when they have a story of someone on the news and they bring in experts of that profession to weigh in their opinion Obviously I know what Im talking about or I wouldent comment. Not saying I know everything. But what happened to her is common in the Army…I’ve seen how these cases play out from a first person pov I already know whats going to happen to her…meaning this case will end up going in two directions and neither one are good. Why do I have to be brainwashed by the media when I have clearly read the military rules and regulations…your argument makes no sense. Respectfully You comment when you dont have any idea what your talking about, it doesnt take a scientist to see that.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    @A…I totally agree with you. The reason they probably woudlent let her stay home is because you would get a domino effect of single parents trying to pull the same stunt, basically it would undermine man power and unit morale. Well depending on where she was deployed she might seriously be needed…especially if she was out at an FOB where cooks work like slaves to feed hundreds of soldiers. Times are definetly different…I just cant see how people can come in and think they can skip deployments like HS kids skip detention lol…The Army dont play, they will take your time and your money lol.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/pbs205/ pbs205

    i was stationed at ft. stewart… they be on that bulls**t

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Willstheone/ Willstheone

    I do understand its not easy to find someone to watch their child. My first date back in July. She had to bring her son since she had no one to watch him and I told her it was fine with me. So I think they should not charge this woman with refusing deployment. If they did a vote on whether or not she should be charged. I would vote. NO. Its not easy finding a baby sitter for a child and who knows what can happen if complete strangers watch your child these days. And like beeutea stated. She was raised by abusive foster parents and Alexis Huthinson did not want her child in that situation. And it annoys me when a child is living with abusive parents. Abusive foster parents. Or even abusive step parents. Every adult should treat a child respectfully no matter what. Even if its not their own child.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Angel_1976/ Angel_1976

    This is going to sound harsh but it is what it is. This soldier knew well ahead of time that she needed a Family Care Plan for her dependent son. The Family Care Plan is for single and dual service members/soldiers alike. Yes true enough the Chain of Command has to make sure this paperwork is submitted and completed for/by the soldier. And if the Command didnt make sure she was in complaince, it is not their fault. She has some responsibility in the matter. She understood that deployment comes with Army or any military enlistment and that a FCP is needed. This soldier should have went to her Chain of Command and requested that she be chaptered out under good pretenses. Because of her carelessness in the matter there is a possibility that she may end of getting chaptered out under dishonorable with no perks in the end and some military charges. Her whole military involvement just went down the drain.

    Missing movement and no reliable FCP. Interesting!!!
    What was she thinking???

    Did she do what so many single soldiers do-Get someone to fill out the paperwork so she wouldnt get into trouble or to buy her some time??

    I DO NOT AGREE with superior suggesting that she put her child in Foster Care.

    If she gets charged with a dishonorable what is she to do out here in the civilian sector. Times are hard and she should have thought about the consequences before performing her actions (missing movement).

    If the Army or Military in general disregard this soldier actions without any repercussions, they are going to open a flood gate of soldiers with children, missing movement(s)and adding on to the list of why they cant deploy.

    I can speak on this matter because I was one of those soldiers that had to get chaptered out due to having a non reliable family care plan.I handled my issue in a professional and realistic manner.

    She did things the wrong way and I am sorry to see what happens to this situation.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    Everyone in the military today who joined after 2001, if they seriously thought they would never deploy( to a war zone or anywhere) were seriously fooling themselves. NO ONE IS FORCED INTO SERVICE, we all stood and raised our right hands WILLINGLY. I have known a few female Marines and male Marines who have pulled stunts and or done stupid s**t to get out of a deployment. Know one person who actually got their leg broke on purpose to get out of a deployment to iraq in 05. Like chosenman said, there are ways to get out of the military if you want to once your in. There is no need to do something to dumb to do so and land yourself in the brig.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    Everyone in the military today who joined after 2001, if they seriously thought they would never deploy( to a war zone or anywhere) were seriously fooling themselves. NO ONE IS FORCED INTO SERVICE, we all stood and raised our right hands WILLINGLY. I have known a few female Marines and male Marines who have pulled stunts and or done stupid s**t to get out of a deployment. Know one person who actually got their leg broke on purpose to get out of a deployment to iraq in 05. Like chosenman said, there are ways to get out of the military if you want to once your in. There is no need to do something dumb to do so and land yourself in the brig.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Poetik_MarveL/ Poetik_MarveL

    I’m awaiting the day people realize you literally sign your life over to these people. They don’t care about your circ**stances.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    she’s a specialist, which means she’s been in the army at least two years. she got knocked up 19 months ago. she got pregnant, like MANY unwed mothers in the military do, so she WOULDN’T get deployed.

    she tried to run a scam and got caught. tough.

    nobody forced her in the military (like artymarine said) and nobody forced her to do moronic things like:

    1) screw unprotected a man she wasnt married to;
    2) not get an abortion.

    this tells me that she TRIED to get knocked up so she could ‘guarantee’ she’d not have to ever be deployed.

    life’s tough. the army spokesman even said they wouldnt send a single parent who had no other options out of the country. she half azzed, therefore, and got caught.

    oh fuggin well.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    I dont’ think she should be deployed. But I also do not think it was a good idea for her to go into the army. This is the fine print that they fail to advertise when they say “Army strong” but forgot got to add got a baby alone can’t bring them along. I am really hoping that they did not tell her to place her baby in foster care! but then again if she was to go and lord forbid something was to happen to her we will yet again have a parentless child. The army really doesnt seem to have reserves anymore. For them to even tell her she is to be deployed even if it was a month before or not is just heartless. When they told me that I would have to sign over the parental rights to my child while just in boot camp I almost knocked their head off. How dare you tell me to leave behind my one little baby for your Army. We actually need the army here in the US instead of out there minding other people’s business. Don’t get me wrong thank you to all who have decided to take that role including one of my own family memebers but I’d rather have you home and if they want to bring it to us then handle it here.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    @Angel I agreed with everything you said. I guess you simply have to be military, involved somehow with the military(ie spouse or dependent) or prior service to really get a grasp on her situation. I cant claim to know her specific situation, but I can speak on what she did because I know soldiers and Sgts who have pulled similar stunts…and more importantly I have to know military regs and rules in order to perform my job.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/24kglo_H2/ 24kglo_H2

    I wish i could help her but that baby has a father and he has a family they need to kick in if her mother can’t do it and sounds like she has her hands full i commend her for not leaving and they should find something for her to do on the base in the states. Shes making a living for them and she all the baby has got i wish her luck.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    willstheone, you said:

    “To me its rotten that no one has care for single moms out there.”

    how about this? DONT BE A DAMNED SINGLE MOM?

    ” I really do. Especially those in their late teens early 20s.”

    DONT BE A SINGLE MOM.

    ” Many times a young woman is raising a child alone is mainly because the childs fahter is a jackass and they both seperated leaving her to raise the child by herself.”

    no, MOST of the time, young single mothers NEVER were married, and screwed, unmprotected, a bum they KNEW was a bum. since 1971, she could have gotten an abortion for free. she didn’t. she fucced up. why should ANYBODY ELSE ‘take care’ of her? she was grown enough to screw unproteced and not get an abortion, she’s grown enough to handle her business. if not, sucks for her and the kid. not my problem.

    ” And the worse part. Its not easy for a woman with a child to find a boyfriend since not all guys want to date single ladies with children.”

    and? people don’t have a right to date what they want? c’mon…what is this you’re REALLY doing? ugly chicks dont have it easy because most men want a fine woman. so? broke men dont have it easy because most women want a man with some money in his pocket. so?

    life sucks for the ‘less than ideal’.

    And its not just the military who has no support for young single mothers. Many employers do. My ex girlfriend has a 2 year old son and she got laid off this past April from being a nurses aid. ”

    nurses aid isn’t exactly an uncommon job. its about the lowest level job in nursing there is. she should have chosen a better field.

    “Then 6 weeks later got a job at Panera bread as a cashier.”

    again, a no skill / low skill job. should have concentrated on school/skills building than screwing and having kids she couldnt afford.

    ” Who was at some point not giving her enough hours so she quit.”

    tough for her.

    ” Then she was on welfare for a while then in October they cut off her welfare. ”

    really? why did they cut her off, when there’s a 5 year lifetime limit?

    “So I honestly felt sorry for this girl.”

    okay, then volunteer to raise her child.

    ” And I also feel sorry for Alexis Hutchinson.She should not be charged.”

    yes, she should. she had EVERY opportunity to turn in her ‘life plan’. she’s a fucc up who got caught.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    gigi, there’s no ‘fine print’ when you join the military. they tell you UP FRONT what could happen.

    she just didn’t READ the regular print. she likely got knocked up on purpose so she wouldnt be deployed. PLENTY of women do that to keep from being deployed or to leave the military.

    if you join the army JUST to have some money in your pocket, you’ll be disappointed with the experience each and every time.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    The problem with the Army is everyone gets paid the same regardless whether they deploy or not. Its not right that she should remain stateside while other soldiers shoulder her load in Iraq or Afhghanistan…get less sleep because they must cover her shift or die because they had to pull her guard duty when they should have been sleeping. When a soldiers unit gets deployed but they stay behind they end up on a rear detachment with soldiers who are physically or mentally unfit to go overseas. So I do believe either way this ends she should be kicked out of the military….their are many unemployed people who are desperate to join the Army and would be glad to take her place.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Id rather not place everyone who circ**stances resemble those of a conartist so to speak. When you are being recruited they do not go into detail as to what your choices will be when joining the Army. Yes they tell you that you would have to Temporarily give up custody of your child to a family member for a short time. But what they fail to tell you is that you will be charged as a criminal if you do not leave that child behind and deploy. True this is the path that your chose but still come on criminal though? really. once again the government has a hold. As far as for the money in your pocket it plays on the desperation of many people in socitey who can not afford a better education and or better lifestyle. But yes the choice it theirs. To assume so blaitenly that she got “knocked up” on purpose is not only disrespectful but also very much unfair to her situation. One thing for sure is that there is child who may loose his mother to the people who say they are here to protect and all he will have is a picture.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    And yes there are those who would gladly take her place.. But there is the cycle repeating themselves again. And it doesn’t matter if you have a child married or not the divorce rate now adays show you that a ring or paper will NOT dictate how your future will play out. Yes she thought she was doing the best thing for herself and her child no the father is not there for what ever reason who knows what plans they had. But right now the child is the main concern.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/trisha_369/ trisha_369

    Everyone KNOW that UNCLE SAM is NOT going to STAND by there WORD on how THINGS go and FOR them to SAY for HER to PUT her ONLY CHILD in FOSTER CARE was DEAD wrong. On top OF that WE can SEE HOW they TREAT you ONCE they HAVE NO MORE USE FOR YOU.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/alex_65_98/ alex_65_98

    Before we go attacking this young lady like black folks normally do when we attack our own because we are quick to believe the hype..this is how it works. You can be in the Army as a single parent but you must have what they call a “Family Care Packet” designating who will take care of your child while deployed or in a military school or temporary duty. This young lady was good to go and had met those requirements. The mother reneged on the agreement to be the designated caregiver because of her family care obligations with sick and ederly amily members and she also ran a daycare center in her home. So she returned the child when this young lady dropped her child off to get ready to deploy. According to reports, she did not try to get out of deploying but had no choice but to stay with her child since the mother was not able to meet her obligations which she agreed to do when the Family Care Packet was done. Before you go “Bashing the Army”, let me say that I have seen many black sista’s reach all of their educational and career goals in the Army when they could not have had the opportunity in the civilian world. Many high positions in the Army are held by black women nowaday’s and if you don’t believe me visit the nearest Army base and you will see many sista’s driving brand new BMW’s/Mercedes Benz who own their own home and most have already completed a Bachelors Degree and working on their Masters Degree all paid for by the Army. Starting pay with no experience is over $25,000.00 a year with full medical, dental, paid 30 days leave the first year and free college education. And yes..you could get deployed like this young lady and have to go to war (The Army has over 540,000 active duty soldiers..everyone is not sent to Iraq or Afghanistan) so it’s not for everyone and some did join and have bad things to say because it’s what you make of your time while serving..but don’t knock it unless you have tried it. The fine print is very readable and everyone who wants to know what it says are well aware of what’s involved when you make the decision to serve your country.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/nanapeppa/ nanapeppa

    I’ve never understood why the US Military has not included a “no pregnancy” and “no marriage” rule unless having served for at least four years into it’s contractual agreement. While the situation may not be as cut and dry as my proposal, some variation thereof would help to alleviate such future issues.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Yes I do beleive she had a plan Mommy and then the father. Which you cannot force him to take care of a child he helped to create so MOTHER has to step in and i’m sorry to say forsake all other. I wouldn’t careless if you charged me but I would not let my child be parentless if i had a choice. My child comes first, then my duties.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    @ GiGi as far as you saying they dont go into detail when you enlist. Guess you never read your contract from the first page to the last and every single line therein. I know I did and @ any point if the Gov’t didn’t uphold their end of it there was also a line that stated I could walk away and nothing happen.

    People join the military and 9 times out of 10 it is their first time ever being away from home. They get lonely, go wild and Phuck anything that has a heartbeat and walks on two legs, have kids to get out the barracks, get married to get out the barracks etc etc. The list could go on and on. The fact is the military has plenty of community service programs to help service members who need help it.

    Now if her leadership was foul, I am sure there was something she could have done. In the Marine corps we have a process called “request mast” It allows us to go directly to our commander and requires that commander to personally consider what we have to say and help to solve the problem. It gives access to every Marine in the chain of command up to and including the Commanding General. We have all heard of the 6 P’s if not google it.
    She failed to plan and therefor planed to fail.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lovinglife3970/ lovinglife3970

    Apparently NONE of you read…. I already said what her option are and where does anyone listen? Look I didn’t ask to become a single mother but I am and I am also a NCO in the US ARMY. I have had a great career so far and I have a real issue with all of you folks who don’t understand this young soldier had a choice to take a discharge on two occasions and passed on those opportunites and now the military should bow down to that? PLEASE.. Again read my post below and understand that this situation is her undoing not the militaries……

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    @ alex how did you come up with 25k for starting pay its closer to 17k as an e-1. Check the pay tables then post a fact like that.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    people dont listen lovinglife…it doesnt matter to many people on here that you served 20+ years in the Army. You could talk untill your lips fall off…apparently the fact that you are an expert in your profession means nothing now a days.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lovinglife3970/ lovinglife3970

    It’s funny that instead of standing by me you want to put me down from one solider to another..very nice GOD…piece of work you are…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/vh47/ vh47

    lovinglife is correct,these kids knew what they getting into and its a dayum insult to those who have served and are serving to feel sorry for
    this woman.As far not going into detail,give me break everyone knows if you digned up after 9/11 you will eventually de deployed into a war zone.
    Still dont understand why civilians who havent served their country even have a comment on something they dont know a dayum thing about.She needs to serve her time in the brig and be dishonorably discharge ,hopefully family or friends can take care of the child until they are reunited.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/vh47/ vh47

    And yes Im a Vetran

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    @…”request mast”. Arty we have something similar in the Army we call it an “open door policy”. I think all the military peoples opinions count a little bit more on this matter…and its apparent that we almost all agree she deserves whatever’s coming to her…because we understand the severity of her crime. It doesnt really matter why she did it. I heard her lawyer even say on CNN : “We dont have a leg to stand on”…all they can hope for is a plea deal or that the judge has sympathy on her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    I read all the comments and one thing is for sure from all the comments…military people almost all have the same mindset. The military is one of the only sectors where you are genuinly accountable for your actions, so if your not mature enough or understand that military almost always comes first, then you shouldent sign up.(their are exceptions and the military is flexible and understanding to single and dual family service members). Case closed.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/andrew1970/ andrew1970

    Things in life happen. She is young and GOD has blessed her with a beautiful child. It is not her fault that she has no one in her immediate family to care for her child. I love the military but the Army should look at this situation and allow her to stay home and care for her baby. Alexis, keep in mind that your number one duty right now is to care for your child. Peace out!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/100th_Monkey/ 100th_Monkey

    Does the military still have (or have ever had) the single child rule where an only child can not be “drafted” during a time of war in order to preserve the family legacy? Just curious.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Each branch has different rules. And different ways to go about things. True there are some that abuse the system but then there are those to see a rosey future and not the dark skies that will be in the horizion. She enlisted to cook. Cook not go to combat. You mean to tell me that you cannot replace her and reassign her her. In the contract it says as a cook yiou will be required to deploy and if not you can and will be charged as a criminal.. That is really dumb. As far as being in the Armed forces for how many years it still to each it’s own we are all humans and have a working brain and emotions. Minds do change. Yes you signed a contract but really now a cook.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Chosen- you are right but like you said ALMOST always comes first that almost knocks out what the government has in play.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    @GIGI…she enlisted to fight for her country. Being a cook comes second. We have a saying in the Army that every soldier is a rifleman…or woman first. Ok so this is the problem with re assigning her. Every unit in the army is assigned a certain number of people for every job. and your only alotted a certain number of soldiers. When someone cant do her job she really messes up the whole mission because now someone who is critical to another job…say communications (hypothetically) can not complete his mission because he is forced to take over for her in the kitchen. Hence losing soldiers critical to the mission means the mission does not get completed…well it will always get completed. But at what cost?

    You said:
    In the contract it says as a cook you will be required to deploy and if not you can and will be charged as a criminal.. That is really dumb.

    Technically yes, but not in those words…like I said their are special and sometimes extenuating circ**stances, But it looks like her case is almost shut and closed. It doesnt say you will be charged as a criminal but it does say that you will have to stand trial if you refuse, like she did.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    100th generally thats a policy that would be made depending on the length and needs of the country. I heard they instituted that rule in WW2, but Generals and other high ranking leaders are usually the ones that make that decision…and they change according to the needs and demands of the wartime situation.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    Ok so for the non military people this is one of about 5 military laws she broke according to her attorney. Below i also listed the max. punishment she could be facing if convicted:

    UCMJ Article 87- Missing Movement:
    “Any person subject to this chapter who through neglect or design misses the movement of a ship, aircraft, or unit with which he is required in the course of duty to move shall be punished as a court-martial may direct.”

    Maximum punishment.

    (1) Design. Dishonorable discharge, forfeiture of all pay and allowances, and confinement for 2 years.

    (2) Neglect. Bad-conduct discharge, forfeiture of all pay and allowances, and confinement for 1 year.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    Design: basically means that she knew what she was doing and purposely failed to show up.

    Neglect: basically means something happened where it affected her from not going. like she got stuck in traffic and that caused her to miss movement.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mandingo53/ Mandingo53

    Ok but there are safety nets that are set up so situations like this wont happen. If she couldnt deploy within the alloted time frame she should have submitted the paperwork PROPERLY and been assigned to rear D. Now I know some of you are going to start attacking me about what I am saying. But! I was assigned to the 3rd Infantry division for numerous deployments and I have seen soliders in the same situation as this one. They all were placed on rear D and soliders from MAIN POST were called up to deploy. Shes a cook! Cooks come a dime a dozen, and in IRAQ and there is really no need for cooks because all of the cooking is done by either people from India or a foreign country that was contracted by KBR. There are gaps in this story that is not making sense from my stand point. Personally, and people can take this with a grain of salt. It seems as if she waited to the last minute to let the chain of command know about it, and when they said ” well we are wheels up in a x amount of time” she dips out and calls the press. Where she is stationed at THE DIVISION COMMANDER IS LITERALLY RIGHT NEXT DOOR TO HER HQ, and nothing was said to him. Like I said, something is not right about this story

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    @mandingo dont forget they need cooks at FOBs. And KBR doesnt send people out to bases with little security. But I agree with you on mostly everything else. Apparently she was on her way to Afghanistan.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Angel_1976/ Angel_1976

    Point blank and simple…………She is A SOLDIER in the United States Army. She is a single parent now-this doesnt make her special than anyone else who is or has been a single parent soldier in the Army. She is in jail due to her actions. And it is funny how mom retrieves the baby after the fact that her daughter missed deployement. Interesting??? Mom signed the Family Care Plan stating she would keep the baby. And soldier turned it in stating that she was in compliance.

    And all soldiers know there are reprecussions to missing a movement in concern of deployment and/or training exercises. How can someone discount her job just because she is a “cook”…YES! SHE IS A COOK IN THE ARMY….She goes to training and learns how to shoot a rifle just like all the other soldiers in the ARMY (for combat zones)…So what if the scenerio(s) was flipped-what will happen to the single parent father who is in Infantry or on the front line who we need in the combat zone. Do we tell him we dont need him and let him stay stateside. One less soldier without a reliable battlebuddy in the field. Or do we make him buckle down and handle his business.

    How dare we disregard all the soldiers before her who had to sacrifice some things to ensure they didnt get kicked out the military or disciplined, because they have a sufficient or reliable Family Care Plan. They took the necessary steps to make sure they had one (FCP). If they could just miss deployment just cause, then the Military needs to get rid of the Family Care Plan. What a mess that would be, wouldnt you think??

    How dare we be so passive when there are other people who had to give up their military careers because they had no reliable Family Care Plans before deployment. They probably were good soldiers and meaningful to the mission of the unit. Do we go back and reevaluate the FCP cases and allow those people back into the military only to work stateside?? What a mess that would be wouldnt you think??

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    @ GiGi

    You really think because her MOS is a cook that she is exempt from going to a combat zone? Are you in the military? Cooks are an important part of any military operation. No army or military force in the history of the world can do anything with out food and cooks to prepare that for them. Also females in the military are being used more and more to search female muslims @ check points and watch female detainees. Every member of a unit has a job and has to pull their weight and do their job to accomplish the mission. @ the end of the day it all comes down to that Mission Accomplishment. If one cant do their work then others must pull their weight for them. It affects unit combat effectiveness and morale.

    She put herself in this situation.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/NurseQtie2u/ NurseQtie2u

    I was in a similar situation during the Gulf War deployment in 1991. My son was 3 months old, my daughter was 12 and my mom (guardian on my Family Care Plan) was fighting breast cancer and was too sick to care for them. It was very a difficult situation to overcome as the Family Care Plan is only as good as the person who says they will initially care for your dependents.

    I, too, was told to place my children in Foster Care, as if that’s a glorified day care. That would HAVE FORCED ME TO GIVE UP MY PARENTAL RIGHTS.

    No, the Army didn’t issue me my children, but unless you’re in the situation, DON’T JUDGE!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LilbabyDre304/ LilbabyDre304

    @ Angel_1976 muahz Mizz Angie lol

    Ok point blank she signed a Family Careplan and so did her mom this is a leagal binding doc**ent that she has to abide by. Now all of a sudden if her Family Careplan is no longer valid then she needed to request separation from the service. She had to know well before the deployment that she was not going to be able to fulfill her obligation to deploy she should have went up her chain of command and told them that she had an invalid Family Care Plan. She and her chain of Command failed themselves. So quit tryna make her sound like the victim i was in this same situation in 2006 i couldnt deploy with my unit because i was a new mother and had no one to care for my child so i went to my commander and we began my separation papers way before the deployment. Not until i was fully able to deploy and have more than 1 person on my family careplan did i re enter the military. I am currently deployed so i feel no sympathy for her, at all it sucks Spc but suck it up. Get out the army if its a problem because you are taking up space. Did you know there is a waiting list for the army? That means someone out there is waiting for your job!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/pretty-cp/ pretty-cp

    Please stop being so negative when a story is concerning a black woman. I am not going to comment negatively about this because of knowing that often times people can be placed in positions where they have not been advise correctly or at times can not find advisement to a problem at hand as well as knowing military polices. Like many have stated there is definitely more to the story. Every story has two sides. It seems that she took proper protocol, however it fail through and she panicked. Not saying what she did was right nor wrong, because no matter what civilian or soldier unless you are in their shoes then you can not be the one to cast the stone. I agree though that the leadership should have handled this situation better. To all that talks about “she should not have gotten pregnant, or should not have had a baby to keep a male or to not be deployed and etc…”, there is no perfect person, so you can not and should not be so negative. How do you know there was no protection present? Plus, she is not the one wearing it, thus if it breaks or there is a misuse of it, that is not her fault. After all, it takes two to make a baby and it sounds as if the other party has bailed. It is quite possible that her plan consisted of the father and her mother, but they both screwed her over. I was not there, so again unlike many others I will not say what her “shoulda, coulda, wouldas” should have been. Let’s just keep an open mind when reading and/or hearing stories. Pray all is well not just for her but for a black family. To God Be The Glory.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Strongone4unow/ Strongone4unow

    She signed on the dotted line, she needs to step up to the plate. I was a single parent and still deployed, she could have made arrangements. She’s 21, and an adult, time to put on the big gurl draws and move out with everyone else. That goes for anyone, black, white, red, green or purple. She drew a check and has been in the service for at least 3 years to be a specialist. So no sympathy, she could have reach out to local churches for help. The Savannah, GA community has a large military retiree community within it. All she had to do was reach out!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Strongone4unow/ Strongone4unow

    **** CORRECTED****She signed on the dotted line, she needs to step up to the plate. I was a single parent and still deployed, she could have made arrangements. She’s 21, and an adult, time to put on the big gurl draws and move out with everyone else. That goes for anyone, black, white, red, green or purple. She drew a check and has been in the service for at least 3 years to be a specialist. So no sympathy, she could have reached out to local churches for help. The Savannah, GA community has a large military retiree community within it. All she had to do was reach out!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/musiqchild06/ musiqchild06

    I’m not part of any type of army but I’m sorry when it comes to your kids that is the most important thing. so her kid gets placed in foster care and the for some reason she has to stay longer or dies or she comes back and she cant get her kid back whcih does happen to people, that kid has to grow up not ever knowing their mother and feels she left them to go fight some next mans war… come people open ur eyes. war is not important way of life it is something that creates money and problems. alot of you in the army still question why your doing some of the things you do… Wake up please. let the women be with her child. dotted line or no dotted line.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    alex and gigi:

    wrong…she and her mom likely cooked up this scheme so she ‘couldn’t’ go to afghanistan. she wanted to get army pay without actually facing any danger.

    didnt work.

    and if you KNOW the army/marine/navy/air force recruiter is shady, then YOU have to be cognizant of that fact and know the lies. you’re old enough to sign contracts, you’re old enough to take responsibility when you sign it.

    otherwise, you’re saying the young lady was a moron and shouldnt be left alone to sign more papers.

    again, this isnt ‘attacking our own’, as just because she’s black don’t make her ‘mine’. i don’t know her.

    now, again, if you folks are so concerned about this young lady’s plight, offer to pay for the child’s upbringing the next year. don’t talk…DO.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    andrew, its her fault she got knocked up by a guy she wasnt married to by having sex unprotected.

    don’t blame her screw ups in life on “God”.

    she signed her life away to the army for 4 years plus. she’s a specialist, so she’s been in AT LEAST three years. she got knocked up just short of 2 years ago. SHE screwed up…she now has to suffer.

    she saying she ONLY has her mom? NO other family members? i find that hard to believe.

    oh well….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LilbabyDre304/ LilbabyDre304

    omg stop sticking up 4 this girl. If we let her get away with this do you know how many doors she will have opened i am a mother and i understand her so called point. And seriously if you are not in the military or neva been in and dont know how this “deployment thing” works Really shut the hell up because to all of us military folk u sound real dumb. Itz obvious she schemed this up becuz in reality she had so much time to get her separation papers done she should have got out tha Army on a chapter 8 i believe it is…so she had a option she chose to desert her battle buddies and country because she wanted to do her own thing. If we let her get away with this then do you know how many ppl will try to use this to get out of deployments? Then are you non military ppl going to step up take her M4 and get on that bird for her? I think not so um @ ease tha noise. Lock her ass up, sorry.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Knott_Amused/ Knott_Amused

    SHE KNEW EXACTLY WHAT IS REQUIRED OF HER AS A SOLDIER. SHE WAS FULLY AWARE!!!SHE MUST BE DEPLOYED BECAUSE THAT IS THE DUTY SHE SIGNED UP FOR. SHUT THIS STORY DOWN AND LET THE GOVS MAKE MOVES ON THIS ONE, SHE WAS FULLY AWARE, IDIOT. THERE IS NO REMORSE FOR THOSE THAT HAVE CHILDREN AND SIGN UP, ONLY REMORSE FOR THOSE THAT ARE DRAFTED BECAUSE THEY TRULY HAVE NO CHOICE.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mike_diesel27/ mike_diesel27

    As a former U.S. Marine, I have to agree with Gods_chosenman. You raise your right hand and swear before God to defend your country against all enemies, foreign or domestic. There’s no fine print in that oath. No one made her join the Army.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Bizzib07/ Bizzib07

    lol, cooks go out just like everyone else even navy cooks go to the desert! i mean i understand her point as a mother to want to stay home with her child….but she is in the military and just like every other job you get what you got for doing what your supposed to do….could be a 24 hour duty or a year overseas you know what your getting in to if you where raised in that life or not. i can understand her point of view but she has some friend or some one other then her mother that can help. if not trust and believe with this economy you can always ask some one your getting deployed with if their spouse can take your child and you will pay them monthly! she has to have gotten close to some one she works with that has a family!! thats how the military is!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/big-blue-beast/ big-blue-beast

    Unless the child’s father is dead, severely sick or injured, or in jail, I have no pity for this young lady. If she gets away with this, then any woman can have baby after baby to get out of being deployed.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/foxykym/ foxykym

    Well I feel her pain, because I am also a single parent. I know that it is hard to find someone to care for a little child, she is in the Army. We all know that there is a chance we will deploy. Therefore we have to make that big decision, “Do you stay in or get out?” You can not get paid and not be willing to ship out with your unit. I hope it all works out. Maybe she should ask to be released under other than honorable discharge.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ICEMaN3026/ ICEMaN3026

    WOW i use to be in the army and i knew many single moms that deployed. she knew what she signed up for. so like every single mom and DAD because there some of them that deployed also. time to get on that plane.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ICEMaN3026/ ICEMaN3026

    Poopies4985 i hate to say i but ur wrong alot of women ask to be single moms to miss a deployment. it sound crazy but i seen. and i put that on everything, 1 time a few times. now there unless to the army and they get put out or stay back in the states doing paper work. you can only have so many people doing that job. if u wanna see for ur self go the a unit that going to deploy u will not maybe. see alot of pregant females. i mean it sad but its the system

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Big--Blu/ Big–Blu

    vh47 wrote =
    11-17-2009 10:44 pm

    lovinglife is correct,these kids knew what they getting into and its a dayum insult to those who have served and are serving to feel sorry for
    this woman.As far not going into detail,give me break everyone knows if you digned up after 9/11 you will eventually de deployed into a war zone.
    Still dont understand why civilians who havent served their country even have a comment on something they dont know a dayum thing about.She needs to serve her time in the brig and be dishonorably discharge ,hopefully family or friends can take care of the child until they are reunited.

    what u read above is from vh47 and i think she is slow…wow ..and that women clown = lovinglife..lol…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    Why would she have her mother take care of the child when her mother already takes care of a special needs daughter of her own and runs a day care–not to mention takes care of a sick relative? She should have never asked her mother. Her mother should have never offered to help, knowing that she herself already had enough on her plate.

    BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, why isn’t the father helping out? The article does not mention that he is in jail or mentally unstable…it just mentions that she is no longer in a relationship with him. So why can’t she have him take care of the baby OR have one of HIS family members do so? I am sure he will step up to the plate, if he has to–somebody will.

    This young lady hasn’t used her common sense from day one…and it sounds to me like she wants to get out of the army…and it sounds like the Army is trying to the right thing by keeping her in Georgia while they investigate.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MentalEKliptz/ MentalEKliptz

    Candyboxxx, are you retarded? Why would this woman place her child, who clearly has no relationship with the father, in his care? It would be crushing and developmentally disabling to cause such a major impact in the life of this toddler to be in the presence of someone who has nothing to do with him.

    Don’t be so quick to judge her. You are only going by what you have been presented. Anyone of intelligence would know there is a bigger picture here. Her common sense is not truly in question. However, you have proven common sense is not so common after all!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Rhemawrd/ Rhemawrd

    I always enjoy the ridiculous comments made by civilians who have never served and never intend to serve, who think themselves to have all of the answers in these matters, desiring that leniency be shown in cases like this. As a retired veteran who served for 22 yrs in the Army and was deployed 4 times during my careeer, I say as I always have; if you don’t want to be deployed, don’t take the oath!

    I’ve seen this game played by female soldiers (and I use the term loosely here) time and again since my first deployment to Desert Storm. Get pregnant, have the baby, sever all ties with the father, then used the single mother angle to get out of deployment. I’ve even seen where one female got pregnant while in theater to get sent home from the deployment. When are we going to put a stop to the acceptance of this type of behavior by the women who committ to service? I believe that this is the military’s opportunity to make an example of no longer tolorating this type of behavior by female soldiers. The solution? Submit this woman to full court marshall with a sentence of 120 days in the brigg, repayment of all enlistment bonuses, and dishonorable discharge. This would send the message that having a child is not an excuse to void your contract. I’m not believing the story about her CO suggesting foster care either, because no CO would be that stupid. She freely took an oath before God and man to serve. She should either be made to serve, or made to pay.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    I think I can safely say that shes going to get kicked out of the military and lose all her benefits when all is said and done. Whether she does time or not? I cant say because it depends on if the Army chooses to make an example out of her or not. But since this is her first term (I’m assuming since shes only been in 2 1/2 yrs) She pissed away all her benefits…a soldier must complete the first term in order to hold onto their benefits.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    Foxykym….I think she waited too long to ask in order to be released. She probably should have been asking a year out. Even a month is too long when it comes to deployments because a month out your usually on stand by. Its unfortunate that her mother messed her over like that, but she should have had a back up caregiver…I made my soldier get a back up caregiver. And I have a feeling shes going to pull the same mess on me before we deploy next summer so as a leader its my duty to make sure we take care of all potential problems at least 6months out. Sometimes its as simple as picking up the phone and telling someone you will pay them for taking care of your child. I’ve seen many single military people do it…I dont know what made her think she was different.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/maddox2u2/ maddox2u2

    Rhemawrd, you are certainly a special needs individual. Frightens the
    hell out of me that someone like you served in our armed forces.
    Why would she place her child in jeopardy to go to Afghanistan to save
    someone else’s child? If the armed services have a problem with women
    getting pregnant, they should have never accepted females in the first
    place or they should have put in place certain rules/laws which would
    address such matters. What about those women who get raped by fellow
    soldiers and become pregnant? How many women have been killed by their
    male counterpart because they became pregnant?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    maddox…please focus, stay on topic. nothing you said has anything to do with the topic at hand.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    maddox…please focus, stay on subject. nothing you said has anything to do with the topic at hand.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    MentalEklipse:

    Me, “retarded”. Wow. Interesting how people resort to name-calling..it clearly shows lack of maturity on your part. But anyway…

    What I did was pose questions about the father not being an alternative. Unless the father cannot be found, is a severe threat to the baby (whether he may be abusive, a drug-user, or mentally incapable), he has legal rights. Now, whether he wants the child is a different story, but I am sure this would have been mentioned, since she is telling her story to the world and making it seem as though there are no alternatives. This is why women need to be more careful with the men they get pregnant by–they need to make sure the father can be around to help out.

    It is people like you, Mental, who make excuses for these women when they clearly need to own up to their choices.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    @Arty.. I have many family members that are in the Armed forces. Stationed in different locations. Some with families some with none because they chose not to have one. What we have discussed on our short but welcomed contacts is that yes the Army does give you choices and she took the right path in the begining and close to the end there was a mishap. There could have been a bit of confusions which could stem from an offical/superior having the same mindset that everyone seems to be having that she did this on purpose and they have no pity. So therefore she spoke out and now there is an investigation so until all the chips have fallen no judgement should be passed. As far as just being a cook yes she is a part of the puzzle but as there is the statement keep being repeated ” some one out there is waiting for that job”. Let her find another job in this economy because her child has changed her mind. Dishonorable discharge fine keep it moving to the next soilder. her mother is doing enough she needs to stand up and take what is coming to her yes. But jail time is way to much for that because then where will that child be? Either way the child is again parentless. And you cannot force anyone to take care of a child. And it is not her fault if the father is not willing to be in the picture. It is his and his alone and not even the government grinds down on parents like that.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lyncobin/ lyncobin

    Fukk this white mans army!!! I don’t give a flyin fragg whether she signed her life to this fukkin army. She now has a child, and this lying azzed country claims it’s all about the children. But ohhhh…I forgot it’s all about screwing our children over. Or more to the point screwing our children. Now, ain’t no way in hell would I have left my child behind to go and COOK for a bunch of azzholes. NO FRIGGIN WAY IN HELL! She is puttin her life on the line by going over there in that war torn country. And now they want to put her child into Georgia’s foster care system? PLEASE! That child will never be the same. That is if it comes out of this experience alive. GA foster care parents like to beat, burn and starve their charges. If you don’t believe me check out their local newspapers archives.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Wow Candboxx and Mental have good points! Yes the father and or his family should step up to the plate because it does take a village to raise a child. And no we should not judge as we are only seeing what the media wants up to see so they can have the headlines. Who knows what happened between the mother and father why they are in this position now. As far as making an example out of her Rhemaward eh it doesn’t make any sense how harsh you are being. Armed forces should not see the gender of a person rather their will and punishment is case by case not across the board. I can see Maddox’s point it is apart of a big picture that is brushed under the rug. There is something more to the story. But the main thing is that child who can be left with out a parent. If it is her fault then yes repay the government and keep moving. If it is not her fault find another area for her to work in or discharge her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/d1blackmogul/ d1blackmogul

    Her mother(baby’s grandmother) returned the child only a few days before her scheduled deployment? Something is wrong with that picture. I guess taking care of the baby interferred with her ability to run a daycare center. And if she can’t take care of one, I’m concerened about those other 14 children in her daycare center. She should cut down on her daycare caseload and keep her grandchild. She has some poor decision-making skills. And we wonder what is wrong with black families. How sad.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/C4pricorn/ C4pricorn

    where’s that baby daddy of hers?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mika1920/ Mika1920

    I really dont understand why this is in the news! REALLY! As a Military Wife…I have seen this before…Umm she can totally get out of this situation with out getting any charges…her plans did not go through as planned so what are they going to do? Foster Care thats udderly ridiculous!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ravon234/ ravon234

    Man, y’all Army folks are hardcore. I’ve encounted problems like this in the Navy a few times. We would have given her a chance to find a caregiver and catch up with the ship/ unit. She may have gone to NJP, but that aint nothing. She would have still been able the provide for her child. We all know medical benny are steep. Or some good leaders would have found a way to put her on TAD(temporary assignment) to another unit til the situation was settled. And finally, if worse came to worse, we would give her a hardship discharge. Its not her fault, her mom screwed her. We don’t know if she wanted to go or not. I know females and males, but mostly females, do shyt to get out of deployments. But as a leader, I would think being a single mom and soul provide for her child. I dont think she would pull nothing that dramatic, I could be wrong. If Im right she probably staying military housing, and if her son so much as sneezes off the doctor they go at minimum to no cost. I dont think she would risk it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ravon234/ ravon234

    Mika,

    I agree with you.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    mental, those of us who’ve been in the military KNOW the bigger picture:

    she became a single mom because of HER decisions;

    SHE is in the army because SHE signed up;

    she was told the consequences of signing up and possible deployement.

    hell, there were TWO WARS going on when she signed up. she knew cooks could be deployed…that’s why they train you to use the m-16 in basic training: when the shyt hits the fan, you’re ALL ‘infantry’ for that time.

    she half azzed, and now she’s stuck; don’t go, and you go to jail, and the kid winds up in foster care.

    got NOOOOOO pity for her.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/wtfmikehundred/ wtfmikehundred

    she knew the rules b4 she signed those papers…there is always a possibility that u can b deployed..what she didnt think it could happen to her cuz she got a baby news flash u r owned by the government u do what they say..when u sign on the dotted line she not better ne one else my brother just got deployed his son is with me..should got a regular job…if i sound harsh dont mean 2 b but shes not special..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Angel_1976/ Angel_1976

    Interesting!!! I am not quite sure if everyone is reading the same article but I sure hope we are.

    There is no need for name calling or anything of the sort. Debate is a good thing so lets be civil people.

    I hope we all understand that this isnt a color issue-As some people are stating that we are bashing one another cause we are “black”. NOT SO!!

    Yes they are going to investigate and find its concludings on a case by case basis. No doubt. That is the System.

    This soldier because remind all of you, she is A SOLDIER IN THE UNITED STATES ARMY. When she took the oath you are somewhat aware of what you sign up for. YOU SIGN UP TO PROTECT THIS COUNTRY. In spite of how you feel AND in spite of what is going on in your personal life. (True enough when she took the oath she didnt have the lil one and maybe she is having a change of heart now, but there are ways of handling the situation differently.)You even learn that there is the possibility that you will be deployed.

    See what we are failing to realize is this. What would have happened if she were to get stationed in Korea or Germany?? Because you know she could get stationed OCONUS while being enlisted. What would she have done, just not show up to her next duty station-AWOL is that what they still call it. She pretty much will be saying to the ARMY that she doesnt have to go where they send her. She would have some consequences to her actions also. Your whole military career isnt spent stateside. (And yes there are some minor cases where there are, but that can be discussed at a later date.) Yes, true enough we all would have loved for that to be so-join the military and stay stateside. To pull a check, train, shoot and then tell our fellow battle buddy who is going to war, “Good luck over there cause I dont have to go because I have a BABY to take care.”

    ARE YOU SERIOUS????

    HOW DARE WE DISCOUNT YOUR ACTIONS???

    There are soldiers serving who have kid(s)-single, married, male and female. Who would have loved to stay stateside with their children(s). Somehow, they have made a way. They understood their actions- if they didnt provide a FCP and/or missed movement there are consequences. ARMY REGULATIONS ARE IN PLACE FOR A REASON. They understood the consequences and she fully understands also. “SHE DIDNT KNOW??” or “HOW WAS SHE SUPPOSED TO??” Removes all doubt because she is old enough to ask or search the regulations for herself.

    SO WHAT DO WE SAY??? What do we say to the soldiers who did things the right way. Because remind you there are some soldiers right at this moment dealing with this issue also while serving and protecting the country. SO WHAT DO WE DO?? BECAUSE IF she isnt convicted or made an example she is going to start a domino effect/issue in the military. The structure -ARMY-that the military holds and builds itself on would be found to be weak and fraile. And honestly do you believe that a force such as the ARMY is going to be found weak and fraile?? ARE YOU SERIOUS????

    I am not saying send this woman to jail because military jail is by far the worst from what I heard and the child is need of a parent. UCMJ her, dishonorable discharge, immediate dismissal, no benefits no nothing. Let her go and take care of her child since that is the reason for her actions. Because she will soon see out here in the civilian world it isnt easy either.

    As for civilians if you have never been in the military or going to serve You will try to rationalize or be passive in this situation. Bottom line this is a serious issue in todays military-especially the ARMY. Cause remind you, you may hear stories from other branches but the ARMY seems to stand out the most. Each soldier-including her being a cook-is required for the mission and is very crucial to the successfulness of the operation.

    I am waiting to hear some of the findings of who the father of the child is. Because if it is someone in the Chain of Command there are going to be issues. If it is found that she planned this out, there are going to be issues. BASCICALLY THIS IS AN GROWING ISSUE???

    Basically the ARMY is cracking down on the single parents and the women having babies and getting pregnant before and during deployments.
    I will be praying for her but there is a possibility she just might be made an example of.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    d1, exactly. the mom was allegedly running that day care, and caring for the other family members BEFORE all this; now just before she’s ready to ship out, mom reneges?

    that shyt was planned so the girl could say ‘oh, wow, i cant deploy. my mom renedged.’

    that’s more predictable than 80 degrees and sunny in san diego.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ravon234/ ravon234

    Lyncobin,

    If you’ve never stood the watch don’t speak on it, cuz you said ignorant, it 2009 and soon to be 2010, catch up!! If you have, you should know that the military has helped a lot of brothers and sisters stay off the streets and out of jail or the graveyard and become productive citizen i.e. home owners, business owners etc….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/I_Tykela/ I_Tykela

    everybody on here has things to say about this single mom if u never been single mother or if u r not a single mother u really need not to say what she’s needs to do and what mother in her right mind would want to put her child in foster care knowing that there is a chance she might not get her baby back bc the courts made a mistake on the papers and i agree wit mental y would she give her child to the a man who clearly doesn’t want to b n the childs life and no she shouldn’t give the baby to her mother bc her mother is already on over load wit the special needs kids people tickel me folks black folks all ways say it takes a village to raise a child but no one wants to help raise somebody else child but ur always quick to pop off at da mouth sayin how a child should b taken care of and should take care the child

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/JAZZIE_QUEEN_954/ JAZZIE_QUEEN_954

    i am so shocked and disgusted by the comments that i see! all the people that are saying..she knw what she was doin… and so and so on… MY CHILD IS MY NUMBER 1 PRIORITY.. HE CAME OUT OF ME… AND THEN EVERYTHING ELSE COMES AFTER! if u have never been in the army.. or have sumthing to say about “her” obligation to HER country… u go sign up for deployment and let them take YOUR children into custody and make them a ward of the state and have them shipped around from house to house with their clothes in a garabe bag…U PEOPLE MAKE ME SO SICK AND DISGUSTED… BECUZ OF PEOPLE LIKE U… I THINK WE AS AMERICAN CITIZENS HAVE TO MUCH TO SAY.. TO MANY OPINIONS AND WE HAVE THE ABILITY TO SAY WAT EVER WE WANT SO WE SAY THEM… SUMTIMES A QUIET THOUGHT IS ALL IT TAKES…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/monhol/ monhol

    people kill me always making negative comments. first off where is the father?? this war is a bunch of bulls**t. our people are dying.. we need to pull out.. this war is none of america’s business. this woman’s mother runs a business with other children. now some daycare centers have age limits and potty training rules. some daycares do not do infants.. she may be running this type of daycare. also i heard the daycare has 14 kids so if she adds her grandchild she may have to hire extra help. now who says she can afford to pay someone else?? also she is taking care of her mom and 2 other people. one is special needs. i have 3 grown children and one is special needs. my son is 3 kids by himself. no joke. a special needs child is hard enough.she has to work so she can eat and take care of the other people she has. hell if she asked the state for help most of you would be talking shyt about that..at least she is paying her way. her mother did all she could do. she can’t put her life on hold. i don’t blame this girl for not leaving her son. she had a plan in place but it did not work out. the baby is only 10 months old. its not like he’s 12 and mom said “oh i can’t deploy no babysitter”. and its not like grandma was watching him for years and pulled out.. so stop all the bull. we single mothers usually don’t have anyone but family. we usually don’t trust our kids with strangers. i don’t blame her for not wanting her 10 month old baby living with strangers and by the time she gets back this baby won’t know her. the family may even try and keep the baby and that will be another fight that may take years to solve. yeah the system is fucced up. if you let the state take your kid, the foster family will pull a fast one on you.. so never turn your baby over to the state.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Abesgirl21/ Abesgirl21

    I agree with Jazzie. This article is EXACTLY why I never joined the military. My children are my top priority, and there was no way I was going to put my family through a bunch of military BS. Granted, being in the military has its perks. Unfortunately, a lot of mothers don’t think of their children as much as they should when they join the military. However, there are mothers out there, like this lady in the article, who are single mothers, and are doing what they have to do to provide for their children. A lot of people in here are correct about some things. When you join the military, it’s a serious contract/commitment. You are giving them permission to pretty much own you, and go where they tell you to go, and do what THEY want you to do. Your personal feelings about an assignment and how it will affect your family is irrelevant to them

    This article should be a wake up call to all single mothers, or anyone considering joining the military. Think of your family first before you make decisions like this. Don’t get wrapped up on the $$$$ signs that they brainwash recruits with. Those signs come at a price, whether you like it or not!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    JAZZIE_QUEEN: I understand that you are frustrated that people make judgements on single mothers, but the truth is that she signed a contract. I realize that she had a plan in place, but the grandmother clearly wasn’t the best option, not even from the start–she has a day care inside her home, packed with 14 kids. Even if she dropped one kid to take care of the grandson, she still may have face loss of pay if the mother couldn’t afford to compensate her in full. The grandmother was also taking care of two sick relatives. When she started caring for them I do not know, but it sounds like it didn’t happen over night. Plus, she was taking care of a special needs daughter.

    Did the grandmother’s workload change in time enough that the mother could have given the Army more warning? This is what makes me curious, the timing and the mother’s selection for guardian.

    Being a single mother must be hard…I do not question that. And this young lady’s situation is too little too late for HER, but it is definitely a lesson to women who are thinking about joining the military or are already in it: protect yourselves!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ravon234/ ravon234

    Yo, y’all keep hollering where’s the dad, where’s the dad. But there are cases out there about mother coming off deployment and can’t get their kids back, cuz the dad is claiming that they abandon the child.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/THE-CLINIC/ THE-CLINIC

    well i must weight in too . i served ten years (navy seabees) ok i feel that yes she is serving but the child is the most important thing about all this especially a black male child. her job is a cook not like she going to be a front-line and 21 years old. just let the mom go !!! dont put another blk male in the system. she cant have been in that long.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/thetiptoebandit/ thetiptoebandit

    For the record all soldiers in the military have to have a family care plan which designates a bonefide caregiver for your loved ones. The reality is people (soldiers) just take it for granted an not designate a responsible person to take care of there child. She could have opted to get out on a hardship well before it got to this point. If her Comanders told her to put the child in foster care then they will be dealt with. DO NOT THINK THAT THE MILITARY DOES NOT PUT FAMILY FIRST because if you dont take care of your family the military will deal with you harshly. I am a single father and I made sure that I have a competent person caring for my child. To be honest I think that being that she had a young child and she did not want to leave the child for so long. When it is all said and done she will get a general discharge

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MentalEKliptz/ MentalEKliptz

    Candyboxx, you are clearly more inept than I imagined. I didn’t call you a name. However, I did ask if you had a condition which is apparent. Hypocrites of the web are bountiful. I’m saying don’t be one by imposing questions which are of no apparent consequence since the father is not around in the first place. Wasn’t that what the report said?

    Smack, exactly! Now that she has experienced the grit, she doesn’t want to be in the very military which she MAY found as her means to her goals. I don’t think a lot of people who enlist really think out what they are giving up just for the sake of the GI Bill. You are going to leave your families. You may even lose your life. Point blank, don’t sign up if you aren’t willing to give the creed what it asks for.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/djazz58/ djazz58

    @Gods Chosen
    I understand that youre speaking from experence but your opinion is tainted by your experence.if that is what you know and believe ok.
    but why does this young sista have to be label because of what youve
    experenced?are all sista in the army like that? a few turn out to be bad
    so all of them are bad? if she knew about it months ago ok..she had time
    to get help..but we dont know if she tried.the end result was her breaking
    a rule..i agree she broke the rules,if youre going join this white mans army youve got to follow the white man rules…there’s now way around it.
    so if she didnt think this through then shes at fault (legally) moral i dont think so….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/djazz58/ djazz58

    morally

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    @Djazz I did explain in other comments that I meant no disrespect towards other young black single soldier mothers. I know many who do handle their responsibility so no i dont necessarily believe my experience is tainted I do try to have an open mind and give everyone the benefit of a doubt. But I do feel her issue is less of being a single mother but more like many young soldiers coming into the military who are just mentally immature and not really ready to be in the Army…meaning they cant handle alot of the responsibilty the Army forces them to accept.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Ti__/ Ti__

    I havnt read all the comments, however I gotta say a few things, first why is it that soooo many are quick to use any type of government fundings to their advantage when they can yet just as quick to hate on them when they can?
    I’d say there is alot of growing up to do around here!!

    second, America is not the only country in the world who has soldiers in these countries, America is not the ones controlling the world, if everyone else would be against putting soldiers as a support somewhere America wouldnt either, the truth is the middle east has ALOT of issues and many many innocent people, women and children suffers every single day!
    with that said back to this issue, why would u as a 21 year old woman, assigned in the army, get pregnant in the first place???
    there is no accident anymore with all the birthcontrols out there, what are the odds if you as a woman are on the pill and at the same time use a condom??
    unless it was a result of neglecting thinking, meaning its just damn irresponsible!!! and with that I dont mean she dont have a right to have children, of course she does, but it is irresponsible to have children BEFORE you have your future planned out since that usually means you thinking of yourself and not the child…

    I’m 32 with no children, its not that I dont want children, I wanted them since I was maybe 22-23 but I have been RESPONSIBLE enough to realize I cant take care of them and therefor ignored my own personal needs to have them!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/phazex_female/ phazex_female

    As one of the off-spring of parents whose tenure in the military was well over 10 years, the affect of moving a lot and being “flexible” can take it’s toll on you. It had it’s rewards, but can be both daunting and frustrating as well.

    “Read the fine print” CAREFULLY!

    Granted, the sista has a contractual obligation to fulfill, but to those that have lined up in the “bru ha ha” line? In my opinion, I state “nay.”
    As a black female, there is “no way in hell” during my child’s FORMATIVE YEARS that I would ever be AWAY from him/her when I am his/her FIRST and PRIMARY teacher. For there is MUCH that he/she must learn about discipline, personal accountability, maturity, etc. as they navigate through the socialization process.

    I applaud this mother’s position in supporting her child. On another note and without disparaging him, is this a case of an MIA father? For the father of his child should have an “active” role in the life of this child as well and not “another” Social Worker.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/smack_u_silly/ smack_u_silly

    i tykela:

    first, one doesnt have to be a sinlge mom to know HOW she became a single mom; she screwed unprotected a bum she KNEW was a bum. they weren’t married. period.

    one doesnt have to be a single mom to know that since 1973, all states legalized abortion. She got pregnant short of two years ago. She didnt get the abortion, then life’s tough.

    one DOES have to be familiar with the military to know that PLENTY of women get knocked up to:

    1) leave the miliary;
    2) not get deployed;

    she signed her life away before she got knocked up. she allegedly got mom to agree to take the kid, when mom has two family members and 14 kids at her day care to look after. mom didnt know she couldnt handle this until a few days before deployment?

    bullshyt.

    she and mom colluded because the cook punked out and didnt want to go to afghanistan.

    oh well…she’ll either go, or go to the brig.

    no pity for her. she screwed up, it seems, her entire life.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Young-C_2006/ Young-C_2006

    Jazzie Queen i with u on this one….and these comments actually show u how f**kd up the world is and how much people actually dnt give a f**k bout human beings……if this women go to jail for not leavin her child wat kind of world and economy we are actaully livin in…..and the ignorant comment made smacked u silly is obviously from someone that lookin from the outside lookin in and have no idea what he is talkn bout or wat the women may or may been thru….take a tru azzhole to prejudge people life experiences for the worst cuz they prob fully sheltered and have no idea wat real life actually is…..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Young C I totally agree.. The fact that Abortion was actually mentioned is well just dumb.. How dare you say she should have did away with the life of her child to well attempt to save mine no give your child a chance. The government do not care about her situation really. Now the ones making the decision are the ones who are not going and or the ones who have moved up to were they dont have to do the dirty work. Im so sure your family was just perfect Smack! lol Ignorance is bliss.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/JWBLACKJESUS/ JWBLACKJESUS

    It is true the policy is not to send a single parent on a deployment when the parent has no one to care for a dependent. But when the chain of command try to meet quota they don’t care what the situation is of that soldier. I know first hand. the military used to hear and acknowledge the concerns of the soldier. The soldiers creed now only applies when superior NCO’s & Officers benefits. The soldiers now must take care of themselves cause no one else will. Soldiers have come back from deployments with mental & physical problems even when the signs are there or even when the soldiers tell their chain of command. Problems are most of the time is ignored or they tell the soldier we can’t help you. You must help yourself. But I always thought when you ask for help that was the first step in helping yourself. Look at the Ft. Hood incident. That wasn’t the first signs of PTSD( Post Traumatic Strees Disorder). Just like now I’m a prime example of the Military Effect just like many others. I’m prior service Regular Army with an Honorable Discharge. Join the Army National Guard. Got hurt on a training exercise. The day after an MRI got sent to Iraq. I’m divorced now. Seeing a Pychologist & a Doctor. Now getting ready to go through a Compensation exam. Even though the x-rays show signs of an injury. But I guarantee it will get denied for disability. Just like many others. The Military is a good place to learn discipline and honor but at what cost. When will the Military start being what they rep.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Humm well thanks for that blast JW wonder what could be said about that where was it your fault (dripping with sarcasm) I hope everything works out for you as well and that young lady.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Humm well thanks for that blast JW wonder what could be said about that where was it your fault (dripping with sarcasm) I hope everything works out for you as well and that young lady.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/IvanRoss/ IvanRoss

    There are a lot of comments on here ranging in emotion. The funny thing is there is some truth to just about each one of them.

    The problem is how to you extract the truth from each one.

    First of all the army in this case is no where near as heartless as it seems. A lot of you have spoke up on this. There is some responsibility that this young woman didn’t live up to.

    On the other hand, this is a very young person who is living in a world that she is trying to learn how to cope with.

    Many different things entered into this equation to give us the current situation that she is in. As my daddy used to say, thats all under the bridge now. What do she, the army and the rest of us make out from this now.

    I would say, mistakes made by her. Lesson learned, how many of us have made mistakes at that age. For us, lets not be so hard on her or the army.

    For her, lets make sure society holds her to a level of accountability but at the same time let her be able to recover from this.

    I can assure all of you that she has had every oppertunity to be released from the army because of her child. I can also assure you that she will have every oppertunity to be released from the army now, and it won’t require her to go to war.

    Very good discussion on this board about this, thanks.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/trisha_369/ trisha_369

    I just WANT to KNOW from THOSE who think SHE should LEAVE her ONLY child and go COOK or go to JAIL-to ASK yourself ONCE the GOVERNMENT is THREW with you and GOD help you IF you GET hurt-DO you REALLY think the GOVERNMENT will KEEP its PROMISE to YOU? I HONESTLY don’t THINK so. My DAD fault in WORLD WAR 2 and WHEN he DIED the ONLY thing they DONE was sent a FLAG and HIS METALS. And take a GOOD LONG HARD LOOK AT ALL THE VETERANS THEY TURNED THERE BACKS ON. I WOULDN’T TELL A DOG TO FIGHT IN A WAR THAT THEY DON’T KNOW REALLY WHY THEY ARE FIGHTING…ONLY the LIE the GOVERNMENT want you to KNOW. I thought for ALL the YEARS he WAS there THEY would HAVE showed ALOT more RESPECT-to all of US.(just my opinion)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Candyboxxx/ Candyboxxx

    MENTAL, YOU WROTE, “HOW RETARDED CAN YOU BE” OR WORDS TO THAT EFFECT. THAT IS IN EFFECT, NAME-CALLING. LET’S NOT GET INTO SEMANTICS. OBVIOUSLY YOU HAVE YOUR OPINION AND I HAVE MINE. I HAVE A RIGHT TO QUESTION WHY THE FATHER IS NOT AROUND, JUST AS YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO ASSUME THAT THIS YOUNG WOMAN CAN’T RELY ON HIM.

    CLEARLY YOU HAVE ANGER ISSUES. MAYBE YOU MADE A DUMB DECISION TO GET KNOCKED UP AT AN EARLY AGE AND YOUR ‘BABY DADDY’ LEFT YOU HIGH AND DRY, HENCE YOUR BITTER ATTITUDE. EITHER WAY, I DON’T GIVE A S**T.

    BUT TELL YOU WHAT, I’M NOT GOING TO GET INTO A MESSAGE BOARD WAR WITH SOMEONE WHO CLEARLY HAS NO RESPECT FOR OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS.

    YOU’RE OBVIOUSLY A TROLL. MOVE ON.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    no pitty for her- i usually dont comment on stuff i see but thi chick knew he wa getting deployed the military even lets soliders know the around about month they will go so they can have all tht fam. care tuff in place….oh she was good and all while the military was paying her extra for havin a kid an e4 with no kids ,but an e4 with 1 to 2 kids get paid a grip but now that she has to do what she commeted to doing he has a big probem with it…..thats why i feel no pitty for her you have grown men who dont want to go over b/c they have small kids ect…but do they get a reason to say ” i cant go “? hell no this chick knew what she was doing and i see this with most cicks im around they here they are deploying they up and get prego. and to @ I_Tykela thi has noting to do with being a ingle mother it has to do whth what he singed up to do! what this chick ha to relize i that she WILL get deployed maybe not now but one day and he could loose rank over this issue! and to anyone who has been in the military knows theres single parrents everywhere but they STILL do there time in deployment! being that its hunter air base feild i know people there …..the news aint telling the whole story…….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Lol Dang Candyboxx! you do make a good point about the father though and it was a good question not assumtion which make all the difference in the situation.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/2good2bsingle/ 2good2bsingle

    @GiGi_Ambition on JoJo864-> Yeah.. A good point will sometimes get overlooked (or ignored all together) if LITERACY isn’t in the picture! As far as the Army Girl’s situation.. I am VERY MUCH against this War as it is because it’s really about Money, Power & Control, so I was hoping that she had a more substantial reason for opting out of it! Something Political. Oh, well.. Kids.. PLEASE don’t join the Military!! It’s NOTHING for any decent human being to participate in. It’s NOT the Proud, Distinguished, Entity that they make it seem on the commercials!! When in the Military, you’re merely a Henchmen for the Elitists! Banks, Construction Companies, Oil Companies, Wall Street and many other organizations are the ONLY beneficiaries of War!! NOT ANY of the people in EITHER participating country!! Real Talk! ;-) I could get into much more detail, but this isn’t the place, I’m afraid.. :-/

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Gods_chosenman/ Gods_chosenman

    Says the guy who has never served in the military….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Thanks.. Now really who cares about loosing a rank? do you think your rank will help that child get over the fact that his mom was killed overseas fighting a war that is not justified. Sorry but no. Why roll over for the pencil pushers. All that child will get is a flag, gun salute and or metals that’s it and maybe someone telling him it would make mommy proud if he was to join to. come on now that child comes first not what you think read or beleive as well as my thoughts.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Thanks.. Now really who cares about loosing a rank? do you think your rank will help that child get over the fact that his mom was killed overseas fighting a war that is not justified. Sorry but no. Why roll over for the pencil pushers. All that child will get is a flag, gun salute and or metals that’s it and maybe someone telling him it would make mommy proud if he was to join to. come on now that child comes first not what you think read or beleive as well as my thoughts.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition it is clear you know nothing about the military or the MOS’S as a cook she is a 92G usually is kept away from the danger zone usually they cook the food then have like a mermite pick up please check your facts b4 u make a statment !a child does come 1st but she has do do what she signed up for bottom line ___

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    and also @ GiGi_Ambition if you (she ) looses rank (money) it would be very hard to care for the child like she wants to getting e4 pay +a child money is like 2500 + but getting bumped down to an e2 or e1 thats a major jump and i have seen countless single parents serve in iraq and othe places so what makes her so diffeent and @Gods_chosenman idk if your little comment wa aimed at me but i am serving in the miltiary !

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Jojo I will repeat I have numerous family members in the Armed forces. no matter what branch or division that you are in you are in danger. You clearly do not think outside of the box (yes that is my favorite line) a cook is the least target soilder but a soilder still. When a soilder lower down in the ranks is targeted and or hurt in some way it is not publicized as much as a combat soilder. With that done we simpathize more with those soilders and see them on tv more. Now you get your fact right. There is no bottom line when it comes to a child. it is still HER CHOICE if she wants to stay with her child not yours mine or the government so come off it. I can careless if you have been a servant in the forces for 30 years that’s your choice and things worked out for you. but not always for everyone. Let the shoe be on the other foot and lets see how you take it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Again Ranks has no place when it comes to a MOTHER and her child. You are a male and not being sexist but you do not understand to that level how it is to leave your child and knock on death’s door. And you know what if she does loose rank then heck come out here in the economy and work because you make just about the same amount here. You are not seeing that if
    1. she signed up after 9/11 yes she knew she would be deployed
    2. she brought live into this world
    3. made a plan for him to be taken care of
    4. made the decision to besure that he is taken care of before she flies out. Down to the last minute…
    yeah some of the post do have a ring of truth but to a certain extent.

    And what makes her different is that she is who she is and she is not you nor is she any other person or single parent in the service.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    ok GiGi_Ambition ARE YOU IN THE MILITARY ? and once you sign that contract uncle sam is you mother father ect…at least thats what they used to say…and its not her choice ok if shes locked up due t UCMJ actions who will be watching after her child further more if your not in the Service you “really” wont understand REGAURDLESS OF HOW MANY FAM. MEMBERS YOU GOT IN +that you in danger walking out of your own house these days im just kinda out raged that o much attetion is given to this story you have thousands of single mothers over seas and fathers ! ! and i bet they are kina out raged at hearing this !! it is clear you dont know much about the military……..it was her CHOICE to join also and the sho has been on the other foot for your info !

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    agian GiGi_Ambition rank has alot to do with it IT IS HOW A MILITAY SERVICE MEMBER IS PAIED ! for thoes who left a comment on her please tell this person how a drop in rank can make or break a person n i know whats its like to leave fam so you dont kno me i can make my own statement on this story not saying im wrong or right but again you dont know me or what i have been through !

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Ah and there it is you just proved so many points. You do not know me either. As far as ranks no it does not matter money does not matter when you have your child to worry about. The government ALL get PAID based on ranks so really to drop a rank doesn’t matter. Many people really are dropping ranks due to lay offs lol because they make the same amount or more than the servants in the war. And really now do you not think that by talking with those in the forces who are serving will shed some different light on the situation? humm And as far as Uncle sam goes.. Take a look at those veterans that are getting NOTHING when they come back home. A MOTHER OR FATHER WHO CARES WILL NOT LEAVE THEIR CHILD OUT TO DRY since you want to say that is who UNCLE SAM is lol please that girl is trying to stay with her child does UNCLE SAM stay with his children once they come home no he doesn’t.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/kennyd4/ kennyd4

    you should’ve thought about this shyt b4 you sighned ur name on the dotted line girlfriend,now get ur shyt and get on the fuching plane cause i aint feelin ur sad azz story.it clearly states some where on the paper work they sighn when inducted that this country of hers may be at war doing the time her silly little azz is runnin around playing g.i.joe that you may have to play for real!!!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition you know nothing about the military i can see that clearly w/o money i i very hard to care for a child! the military doent have layoff…you dont have a clear undestanding on how military things work “your an outsider” please serve b4 u try to make a point ! SHE KNEW WHAT SHE WAS GETTING INTO SINGLE MOTHER OR NOT! “As far as ranks no it does not matter money does not matter when you have your child to worry about. The government ALL get PAID based on ranks so really to drop a rank doesn’t matter. Many people really are dropping ranks due to lay offs lol because they make the same amount or more than the servants in the war. ” THAT STATMENT PROVES U KNOW NOTHING ______AND I HAVE TALKED WITH VETS. AND THEY ARE PISSED B/C THEY HAD TO GO OVER AS SINGLE PARRENTS AGAIN IT CLEAR YOU KNOW NOTHING _____________

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Clearly you have no sense of humanity. And again you are proving points do you really think by talking to vets and me talking to those who are on the front line makes much of a difference no. I am sure there are those matter of fact I can see that there are people who beleive otherwise which is respectable but ypu might as well give it up your thoughts or views do no relect those of others in the world. You are speaking to people who have your view not the opposite side and you are not open to the difference of opinion. And for your information I have family members who are single parents some not by choice as well as friends who say damn that is tough yeah we know what we signed up for but and i quote “F anyone who wants to stand between me and my child who i gave birth to”. same people who say “but if she did this ish on purpose then she abandoned her child” Now you really need to get that anger out of your words and stop blinding yourself the world isn’t flat Oh and how are those vets living now? humph try again

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    And just as an fyi there is a group of us within my family who are on standby in the event that the counter part of a two parent home has to be deployed. Right now there are 4 children who are parent’s are away at the moment. You may have some good points but your ignorance to the otherside is clouding the clear path to your personal logic.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    @ gi gi
    You have said twice now that I have read that your military knowledge comes from your extended family members.
    There is a saying about Marines and I am sure it can be adjusted to fit every other branch. Only two people understand the Marines: Marines and the enemy, everyone else has a second hand opinion.

    YOURS IS A SECOND HAND OPINION! The statements you have made on here are honestly some of the dumbest comments I have read. Yes the child is important, but like someone else stated on here, her s**t was tight and she was good to go. Then her mom brings the child back a few days before?!? Her mom runs a daycare that cares for 14 other children, what the hell! How hard would caring for her grandson be? I think her daycare needs to be looked @ with a microscope b/c something isn’t right with that picture.

    AND TO EVERYONE ELSE….. STOP MAKING THIS ABOUT RACE WHEN IT NEVER WAS TO BEGIN WITH!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition U CANT REALLY TALK B/C UR NOT IN THE MILITARY UR A “FIN ” OUTSIDER YOU KNOW NOTHINGI CAN MAKE A STATEMENT ANY WAY I WOULD LIKE YOU KNOW NOTHING I HAVE NO ANGER IN ME ITS JUST SHE KNEW THERE WAS A FAM CARE PLAN IN PLACE BUT SHE HAD THE CHILD 10MTHS AGO THEN SHE COULD HAVE GOTTON OUT BUT SHE DIDNT BUT NOW THAT SHE HA TO DEPLOY SHE’S HAVEING A BIG PROBLEM!
    TO ME BY YOUR TALKING YOU DONT KNOW SH!T ABOUT ANYTHING U JUST THINK U KNOW AND THIS IS GETTIN USELESS TO ME IT IS CLEAR THAT YOU ARE SO MISSLED ON YOUR SO CALLED INFORMATION U HAVE AND YOU WRONG ON MOST OF IT U KNOW NOTHING!NOTHING! IF THIS WERE A LIL DIFFERENT MAYBE I WOULD LOOK AT IT DIFF. BUT SHE HAVING A BIG PROBLEM WITH IT NOW RIGHT B4 SHE DEPLOYS SOUNDS KINDA SHADY TO ME …….AND AGAIN U KNOW NOTHING SO ITS USELESS CARRYING ON THIS CONVO WITH A PERSONWO KNOW NOTHING ABOUT HOW THING WORK

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ artymarine08 THANK-YOU PREACH
    IT IS CLEAR THAT GiGi_Ambition KNOWS NOTHING !

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    now really if everyone who got pregnant which they are allowed to do make the choice to stay home then yeah i would have a problem but the fact that other humans deceide to go ahead and follow through with what they “signed up for” then great for you. But come off trying to put this girl down…

    Now as far as an outside no dear im not I am one of the back up plans for our family members who are within the armed forces. And it doesnt matter what branch of the Armed forces you are in they are supposed to work together to get the job done one feed of each other and make a driving force. I can careless if you exit Jo-Jo because you have said what you want to say. But unlike Arty you do not have a point that I can recognize although Arty your arrogance is what makes it seem like you are completely ignorant. If I was not trained to read the important part of an arugment that should be looked at in reference to the mother who i just saw on the new to look like someone i wouldnt want my child to be around. As far as my comment about the ranks you are dead wrong there are people out here who are making more money that those in the service. We half argue and joke about that from time to time in our house hold. As far as being a single mother hey kudos to the single parents that still went ahead and served but for those who want to be with the life that they brought into the world humph get gone and give someone else a chance.

    I have stated before IF SHE PLANNED THIS THEN SHE ABANDONED HER CHILD BEFORE HE WAS EVEN BORN AND YES SHE SHOULD BE PUNISHED BUT NOT JAIL some one made the suggestion for her to repay the money great idea.
    IF IT WAS NOT HER FAULT she needs assistance as well as she needs to be sat down and fully explained what she has done and what she will have to face. Plain and simple.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @GiGi_Ambition i could give a sh!t too im not putting anyone down t all ,all im saying is she knew what she was getting inb/f and after she signed her name on the dotted line u know nothing by some of the dummest comments left here you know nohing as your comments prove nothing

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    and yours prove your ignorance. Im not going to judge what you say but voice my own opinions dont get upset when there is another point of view other than your own. Engage in a better combat than one of insult and you will get a better set of results. your comments are completely fruitless. if you had any points to prove your insults are no good =) so… Also Arty with the daycare thing man you did hit it on the nail which also shows how she is abanding her child by not even saying to a parent im sorry but you will have to find another caretaker because my next generation needs me. so yeah that was wrong on her part. good point we agree with you 100% with that one.

    Now when she signed on she may have known but there is something called panic and regret. There are people standing in line to get the opportunity and i think they should be given that she will need to vacate her position and let the next person take her place.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition i can voice my opinion how i would like and you can too but my problem is i have stated facts in some of mine you havent stated any facts in yours at all ! no one rite or wrong when it comes to opinions but when it comes to facts I have lots of them and you have not one !just opinions 2nd had ones at that ! Your just trying to make yourself look good your just making your self look more dumb as you type……again im not in no way putting down the mother of this child but when you singed up the fine print states what your geting into if she didnt like what she read that was her final chance to say no i dont want to do this

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    ignorance again i chose not to sign up so because we all knew of the careplan and i am very much in the forces because we as a family are in it together. I have my facts you may have yours and we have different views on those facts. each time you post you just show that you have tunnel vision. in the words of a vet that is. by discussing what we as a family have talked about before it even hit the airwaves on such a scale allows me to say these words because yes there are some who say she knew but then those of us who say yes she knew but she can still have her choice. and since she signed on after 9/11 she could have been deployed if needed the very next day that she passed bootcamp and never even brought that child into the world. Who knows she may beable to work something out and still deploy because who knows better than her if she really wants to go.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    Its not as simple as just stepping aside after getting your hand slapped and having someone else take your spot. One thing the military teaches is accountability on all fronts.
    SHE NEEDS TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE for her actions, i don’t care if its the brig or what.
    She failed and has not held up her end of the contract. Anyone with half a brain knows to put more than one effin option on a family care plan. She didn’t then thats her fault and she needs to stand tall and take whats coming down the pipeline @ her.

    A big problem today is people are always making excuses left and right for people who screw up. Instead people need to start calling a spade, a spade and a duck, a f**king duck and stop making excuses. Someone stated earlier that people are quick to stick their hand out to the gov and say give me or help me, then turn around and talk s**t about the same gov that helped them out.

    I personally know of a few people in the military who came from the worse places to grow up in this country and guess what, they have a degree, a couple of houses, and vehicles that cost as much as houses. So for those who say the military never does anything for those who serve or have served…. go haze or kill yourself. Preferably kill. :)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition your really sounding dumb you should stop while your ahead

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Lol Arty you must be in our living room lol we just said the same thing about the part about having just one person as the back up we are high fiving you now!! A stratigic person would have had a truck load of people to take care of that child which is what we are doing to this day. Also make sure that you let them know that anything can happen besides deployment such as god forbid death. Or even POW. And yes the forces does teach you accountability! and yes she should be held accountale if it was her plan all along. We also are looking at the mother as to say really now could you not take notes from your child who is going into a potential danger zone and say to her that you will handle her precious cargo until she returns!! really now.

    But like I said she should have to repay for what she obtained during the time that she was enlisted. and this should be brought into the airwaves as well not there will be no tolorence for scaming because the time it takes to bring justic to you another mission is set back.

    Jojo once again you open your mouth and air comes out and it not making any sense or point. i mean really now Arty came at me with his thoughts and views i disagreed and agreed with some. But i can actually see his points you are out to insult. How so boring. You have nothing better to add to this. Yawn how weak.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    As well as in a sense she is going about it kind of in the wrong way. have a sit down with the superiors and family and get it worked out. If not discharge and open the door for someone else. Continue to struggle but learn from your mistake.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition you need to vew this them try and talk
    http://edition.cnn.com/2009/US/11/18/georgia.soldier.mom/

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition i havent ins**ted you in any way at all your the kind of person that thinks everyone should think like you and thats not life it may be in your little box world but not the real world….accountability,accountability,accountability is key she was susposed to hav a pan in place but its funny how a few days she was set to leave she had a big problem and for the life of me how can and do you come off you have never been in the military so how can u talk at all ur so called facts are 2nd hand ones you havent been on the front lines like most people who left a comment on here have so u know nothing but u thinku do

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @GiGi_Ambition: words from someone u need to read b4 u say what u say !

    Obviously she has never been in the military. I have been both US Air Force and US Army. Once you enlist, you give up the right to decide if you will or will not fight, be deployed, put your life in danger, etc. You don’t get to “change your mind” about being a Soldier, Airman, Marine or Sailor.

    How thousands of MEN would love be not have to be deployed because they are fathers? I know my SON would love to be with his son rather than in Afghanistan as I type this.

    EVERY person – male or female – who enlists has stated by his/her action of enlisting that they are willing to go to war and they KNOW that is one of the risks before they ever sign on the dotted line. There is NOTHING unjust in fulfilling the obligation that you signed up for when you “signed a doc**ent”.

    Using your reasoning, I should not have to pay any credit card bills because I signed the doc**ent to get the credit card and then changed my mind about paying the money back. (btw – I don’t own any credit cards; just using it as an example.) Worse yet, how about if YOU loaned money to a friend, they signed an agreement to pay it back and now that the friend has “changed their mind” about paying you back, they don’t have to?

    Just doesn’t work that way – in either civilian OR military life. THOUSANDS of men have been taken away from their wives and children. HUNDREDS of women have deployed and left their children and husbands. This person DOES NOT deserve any sympathy or special treatment. She had nine months before the child was born and ten months after to get her act together. Now it is time for her to either live up to her military obligations or GET OUT.

    I hope she takes advantage of the opportunity and gets out as I would not want to be in a war zone and be depending on her to protect my life during a combat mission.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @GiGi_Ambition: words from someonei know that u need to read b4 u say what u say !

    Obviously she has never been in the military. I have been both US Air Force and US Army. Once you enlist, you give up the right to decide if you will or will not fight, be deployed, put your life in danger, etc. You don’t get to “change your mind” about being a Soldier, Airman, Marine or Sailor.

    How thousands of MEN would love be not have to be deployed because they are fathers? I know my SON would love to be with his son rather than in Afghanistan as I type this.

    EVERY person – male or female – who enlists has stated by his/her action of enlisting that they are willing to go to war and they KNOW that is one of the risks before they ever sign on the dotted line. There is NOTHING unjust in fulfilling the obligation that you signed up for when you “signed a doc**ent”.

    Using your reasoning, I should not have to pay any credit card bills because I signed the doc**ent to get the credit card and then changed my mind about paying the money back. (btw – I don’t own any credit cards; just using it as an example.) Worse yet, how about if YOU loaned money to a friend, they signed an agreement to pay it back and now that the friend has “changed their mind” about paying you back, they don’t have to?

    Just doesn’t work that way – in either civilian OR military life. THOUSANDS of men have been taken away from their wives and children. HUNDREDS of women have deployed and left their children and husbands. This person DOES NOT deserve any sympathy or special treatment. She had nine months before the child was born and ten months after to get her act together. Now it is time for her to either live up to her military obligations or GET OUT.

    I hope she takes advantage of the opportunity and gets out as I would not want to be in a war zone and be depending on her to protect my life during a combat mission.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sweet_amazon_honey/ sweet_amazon_honey

    @jojo – you spoke a sad truth. I’ve worked for the Army for many years and I did not know until about 2 years ago the hardships single parents must overcome to be in the Armed Forces. I don’t judge this soldier, my heart bleeds for her cuz a dishonerable has a way of following you around for life. As you stated, she should have realized the Army comes first and everything/everyone else falls far behind. We love yall…at least I do!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mike_diesel27/ mike_diesel27

    Look, like I said in a previous post. I’m a former U.S. Marine of 8 years. A Drill Instructor for 3 of them. People do these type of things all the time. There are so many members of the U.S. Military that try to pull off scams everyday. Marrying just to get extra money. We like to call it a “Contract Marriage.” You also get more money for having children. Like someone said, she had opportunities to be discharged from the U.S. Army but, she chose otherwise. As a member of the U.S. Military, you have to know that there is a chance that you will be deployed. Yes, things in this country are very confusing to some people but it’s NO EXCUSE at all. We all put our feet on the yellow footprints, raise our right hand, and make a vow to God and this country. You’re supposed to take that vow very serious if you feel like you’re up to the challenge. Bottom line is, she knew what she was doing LONG before this article was posted. Also, @Artymarine, Semper Fi Gun Bunny! lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dwayne114/ dwayne114

    u know what i don’t care about any of that army stuff is she wants 2 stay with her child then let her because she is tha only mama he has bottom line how is that a scam, u know what they need 2 drop this iventigation right now and go find out who killed 2pac & biggie and leave baby girl along

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/boss_ch1ck/ boss_ch1ck

    She never should have joined then. It’s people like this that have forced my husband to deploy THREE times in the past five years. The military would never deploy a single mother that did not already have a plan in action for someone to take care of her child while she was overseas. She is truly pathetic.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MentalEKliptz/ MentalEKliptz

    Candy, considering you felt the need to use all caps, I must have struck a nerve. There was no anger or assumptions in any of my posts (sidebar – understandably, you aren’t very good at paraphrasing). However, there was condescension as your own condescending tone warranted, again, not name calling. People like you make me laugh. You can dish it, but when it comes to taking your own medicine, you get huffy.

    I do thank you for the entertainment. Your CAPPED buffoonery has been the ultimate giggle. Now, don’t you have some sex toys to sell? LLS! Troll, indeed!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MentalEKliptz/ MentalEKliptz

    Kudos @ Mike, JoJo, and Boss!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/butterfly_145/ butterfly_145

    i read all these posts and boy was this an interesting subgject

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Jojo Let me explain again i chose yes my choice not to join and to stay behind and I AM VERY MUCH A PART OF THE FORCES we as family members may not have signed on the dotted line and assumed the role of a soilded ready to go to combat BUT we as a family have taken a huge step to send one of our own to the battle feild. It is a tough decision to do so on both parts. unlike this soilder who is in the head lines we have a family that will back you up. My immediate family memember is on her 3rd deployment and is on the front line. Has two children and a Spouse as a officer of the law. At any given time either one of their lives can be taken. So you cant tell me that I do not know because I do. And you know what If your SON wants to be with his SON at the moment that is understandable but lets say something was to happen to your SON godforbid then were do you come in? You are the family and you are very much involved are you not.

    And let me address the jab that you tried to hit me with. As I have stated your opinion belongs to you. If feel like you have to battle with someone because your views are not the same then you are not worthy for me to converse with. By me saying outside the box a mature individual would say yeah that could be true (refering to my comment) but I look at it this way. So therefore what you say to me holds no merits.

    As far as the thousands of MEN and WOMEN who would rather not deploy they are the ones who are parts different parts that is of the wide genetic make up of this world. They want to serve their country to no boundry. And as I stated before Kudos to them and as I say to the ones I speak with I miss you all and wish you were fighting the war that is here in our back yard. And to the soilders who go AWOL then it is also the fault of the Government who did not recognize the red flags pertaining to the loyalty of the person that you enlist and shell out money to as well as depend on to do their job on the front line. There is so much that “we” do not know that goes on behind the scenes even those who are enlisted. And to just pass judgement only based on what you have witnessed and what someone else has done which is abuse the genorosity of the government is ignorant. And if you cannot accept that there WILL be a difference of opinion then you are as well very blind to this world. You can come at me from any angel you would like but understand that my thoughts and feelings are from me yours are from you. And with that said to each it’s own.

    Side note the credit card is not working.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/artymarine08/ artymarine08

    @ mike I dont think they have the yellow foot prints, Killer! Could be wrong though.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition
    first of all i thought about the whole thing last night and i came to ” no one really knows the truth about the whole story” so im done with that i hope she gets what ever help she needs.
    Now im goin to get to you ! First of all u dont read i said ” words from someone(i) know that u need to read b4 u say what u say !” That means these are not my words duh …..u clam you fam has a plan and things well good 4 yall…everyone has their own opinion what makes theirs so wrong and your so right!? and really how the hell do you sounnd saying AWOL falls on the GOV. some times yea but most of the time no !
    so you mean to tell me if a soilder has a 3 day pass and got drunk and stayed out past call time its the gov’s fault ??????
    thats where accountability comes in AWOL is something i think you need to look up and get a clear meaning on .REALLY! again i really started to think i dont know the full story so i can’t really make a call on things ,but i can call you on some of the most useless and strange comments you have made everyone is diff ,all people dont think like you people are diff. and you call your self an “mature individual” i dont see how b/c a mature individual would relize everyoe has a diff. of opinion ! I’m not too quick to pass judgement but u seem to be the person that think your right about everything but in reality your not really right about anything there just opinions! like i said eariler i cant really call things b/c i dont know the full story neither do you ! All im saying and doing like others who have commeted what makes her so diff..some single mothers have 2 kids but the still go b/c they know what they signed up for !
    Do you even know what AWOL means (absent without leave) So in other words if you take a break on your job w/o permission it’s your bosses fault? get real!It’s all good and great about u n ur fam but ur not there to see solidres every day are you ?NO! you dont see what goes on b/c you are in the background as you call it ! i have no hard fellings toward any on this blog even you but right is right and wrong is wrong ……..thousands of single parrents have gone ….but for the last time no one really knows the full story but GiGi_Ambition get your facts stright plz b/c to me there all 2nd hand opinions…..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    LOl you are really rambling now really you are you sound just like air! You just proved my point on so many levels Here is my favorite:
    I said:
    “You can come at me from any angel you would like but understand that my thoughts and feelings are from me yours are from you. And with that said to each it’s own.”
    You just said:
    “everyone has their own opinion what makes theirs so wrong and your so right!?”

    Im sorry but I just said that remember and yet you want me to:
    “u need to read b4 u say what u say !” even if you didnt say that persay

    As far as the senerio lets be real now this is stupid : “Do you even know what AWOL means (absent without leave) So in other words if you take a break on your job w/o permission it’s your bosses fault?”

    Lets try this one:

    You are at work and lets just say you are to report to work and supposed to make a certain amount of phone calls to meet the company’s standard. And lets say you are always on a smoke break every 15 minutes going over your allotted time and or you cannot stay seated for longer than 5 mintues at a time so therefore you are not making the amount of calls you are supposed to. Now your Boss has to report to a higher authority right and at their meeting that panel asks the question what is going on with this employee why is he/she not producing. The boss says you know what I do not know we stated in the SOP that you are to produce this amount aday etc. Then the panel says well what do you mean you do not know. Well here comes another onlooker who says well I have noticed that he/she has been on a lot of smoke breaks and is always out of his/her seat and spending less time on the phone.
    Humm well the panel knows that on the application and within the job description it outlines what your duties are and how much you are being paid along with the signon bonus or whatever and you signed that contract saying that you will do that.

    In the end the Boss did not pay any attention to the fact that this employee was not a suitable fit for the job and should have been repremanded or terminated. And also be made to repay that bonus.

    Your story leaves the blame soley on the soilder which is true you are an adult and you are responsible for that situation. And for the behavior displayed in that situation you should be punished. But that is not a good senerio. Take Ft. Hood for instance. That man went on a killing spree and what keeps poping up is there were red flags! you mean to tell me that to government is not at fault. No.

    As far as AWOL did I state that the government is at fault always NO I did not. You are still having tunnel vision. And still proving my point as well. And you must not read because I have already stated that no one knows what really happened so to pass judgement is not fair. I followed up by saying that If she did plan this the way that some are saying then YES she should be punished and made to pay back the money that she received including the bonuses as some one brought up which I thought was a great Idea. But if she didnt then she needs help she needs to be sat down and explained to that it is not acceptable and take it from there. Re-assign here and evaluate her commitment to the service.

    As far as me being in the background yes I am happy to say that I am and guess what my opinions are not second hand if my family is there. Yes it is great we have that plan but do you see me saying that because we have one that everyone should and is able to have one so secured NO because it is not always possible things happen. Clearly you do not beleive in your own words because neither you or myself can prove each other wrong nor right so that comment holds no merits.

    And Finally unless you are able to give the inside scoop and get an interview or personally investigate the situation YOU do not have the facts either so you should follow suit and refrain from commenting… But remember it is your opinion.
    Next.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/phazex_female/ phazex_female

    ABORTION is the “medication” that far too many females are using when they discover that they have gotten an oops! kid.

    Abortion is too easy. Either STOP your sexcapades until you MATURE and become MORALLY responsible.

    Raising a kid in poverty is NOT the “rite of passage” for our sistas. Yet, some of us either continue to birth kids in poverty and common-sense SHOUlD dictate to the ones in this same scenario not to get caught up in raising kids that you cannot afford and the male “may” refuse to help support. Stop that! Shaking my head…..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Phazex-you are so right I think some only think of the present which is lol making the baby and the attention that they may receive while carrying a baby but they do not think about the future and wow the futures holds so much many times it is a mystery.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition you are lame as your comments u just need a reality check ______no use in having an adult convo with a child such

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    as your self and for the last time i said ” i dont knwo the full story neither do you so ___i have said what i needed to say im done…..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    (and lastly @GiGi_Ambition)”And Finally unless you are able to give the inside scoop and get an interview or personally investigate the situation YOU do not have the facts either so you should follow suit and refrain from commenting… But remember it is your opinion”.
    Next.

    THATS MY POINT NO ONE KNOWS THE FULL STORY NEITHER DO YOU SO I STOPED COMMENTING ON HER AND JUST WAS PUTTING YOU ON BLAST FOR SOME OF YOUR OPINIONS WHICH ARE NOT FACTS NEITHER ARE SOME OF MINE NOW THE PAY THING AND ALL THAT RANK STUFF IS TRUE LOOK IT UP! AND LIKE I SAID YOU ARE AN OUTSIDER YOU (DONT) SEE THINGS 1ST HAND AT ALL YOU JUST HEAR ABOUT IT….YOU ARE JUST TRULY A WASTE OF TIME

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TMAC_35000/ TMAC_35000

    This girl will more than likely be administrately discharged. Being a single parent, she was supposed to have a family care plan in place.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GiGi_Ambition/ GiGi_Ambition

    Once again you are proving my point what I am saying is all opinion. You are trying to bring facts into this and then when you finally use your brain and see what I have already stated as far as no one knows that is really going on nor this inside scoop then there are no facts to state you try to throw that back at me not going to work now im a sorry but you must be an idiot. Look back at all I have said and then towards the end you finally realize i have a point then you want to say You are putting me on blast well let me give you a little hint YOU CANT PUT ME ON BLAST because you have NO ammo. Compare what you are trying to say to what i am saying and im sure you will see just how weightless your comments are. YOU have really turned this into a bashing competition Im stating what I THINK you have no RIGHT to tell me if I am wrong or if my opinion is wrong or dare I say stupid!! because someone can look at you and say that you are infact ignorant and just a bag of hot air!

    You have not really said anything different from what I have said in your so called final statement. It takes a while for people to have things register in their mind as some would say. But you are just ughh there is no word for the way you have tried to display your intelligence or lack of for this matter. As far as what my level of understanding is about the forces I am curious by nature and so I always ask questions and am ALWAYS welcomed by those who I ask questions to. Because they want to share information so others can have a better understanding and support them in what they do. Then there some things that cannot be released. You would know that If you used your common sense instead of trying to look so tough in this blog.

    Your comments are to me in my eyes a waste of time. I can careless if you continue because you are not really needed. There are other people on here who have greater causes than you when the comment. I always shine the light on the “WHAT IF IT WAS LIKE THIS” aspect of a situation. And that is why i stated before No one knows what really happened so……

    Dont try to piggy back on what I said have a mind of your own. Get in touch with lift dear and you will be fine.

    NEXT.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Nightowl358/ Nightowl358

    Dummy should have had a plan in place. Just discharge her and be done with it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Ramses_NY/ Ramses_NY

    I remember getting into this huge debate with a young woman, back in 1999, she was about to sign up to the marines, to go to school. I kept telling her that the armed forces doesnt give a damn about us. My heart really goes out to her, and all the other solders, fighting a war started by people who’s children never touch warfare. Bush, and Cheney’s ass should be ought up on charges, for this madness. I hope that things work out for her, and all the other solders fighting a senseless war.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/redmama4u/ redmama4u

    Nightowl358…..Dummy should have had a plan in place. Just discharge her and be done with it….

    WTF is your problem dude…she is a single mother who is making a life for her family with no help apparently and for you to say that shows how ignorant and heartless you are..maybe they should give you the child to take care of him while she is serving your country. what if something happens to her over there(God forbid)then what you lame..this is mother who thinking about the welfare of her son, you a*****e. For the military to say place him in foster care was wrong. This child is not abused. I think she did the right thing. This is mother who loves her son, you stupid idiot. I hope that you don’t have any offspring because I can see where they stand with you. Another thing she did have a plan if you would have read, but I guess its hard to read with blinders on…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jojo864/ jojo864

    @ GiGi_Ambition -please STFU YOU SOUND REAL STUPID I CAN POST AND SAY WHAT I FEEL NEITHER IS IT RIGHT OR WRONG SO YOU ARENO ONES JUDGE !

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/burnsrunner/ burnsrunner

    If they want her, they should pay for the best child care possible while she is abroad.

    I’m not sure how I feel about Obama sending 30,000 more troups in. It’s going to happen, and hopefully our Military Leaders will do their job above and beyond. Colonel Ralph Puckett, a Ranger legend, shares what he has learned in more than fifty-eight years of training, leading, teaching, and mentoring Soldiers in his widely used book, “Words for Warriors.”
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    He has even had a Command Sergeant Major tell him as Puckett greeted him upon his return from Iraq that implementing one of Puckett’s recommendations had saved the lives of some of his Rangers.

    If I had to go to war again, I’d want to serve under Colonel Puckett!

    May we pray that our Troups will be safe, and our Leaders will lead, better.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sexiicurls/ sexiicurls

    One of the requirements for the military is that you HAVE TO HAVE a family care plan. She already knew this. This is nothing new… I feel bad for her but she knew..

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