Who you spend your time with matters. There’s a saying, “show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” That’s not trite, or egotistical, nor it is social climbing, it’s meaningful – not because it matters who your friends actually are, but who they are and what they have to contribute to the world and your relationship shapes your perspective on all sorts of issues. What they have to give to you, teach you, or show you is a reflection of their experiences and interests – it is a two-way street and relationships should be mutually beneficial.
I live my life surrounded by people who each contribute something significant to me and my life either because they complement or challenge my perspective on life, or our interests and passions are aligned, and sometimes simply because we share the share fundamental values and morals. The people in my life enrich me. If you are not spending your time living a life that includes many of these significant synergies, then you might possibly be limiting opportunities for growth and to attain your dream job, because you aren’t available to receive them, especially if your network can’t provide them or help nurture you on your path to your dream job.
I spend a lot of time in my professional life mentoring, advising and speaking. I come in contact with so many amazingly remarkable people and as smart and remarkable as they are, no one has really been able to consistently tell me how they define success. Which begs the question, “do you even know what your dream job is?” I believe that if you are going to find your dream job, you should know what success looks like to you and how you are going to attain it. Your goals for yourself have to be clear. Identify the steps, even the small ones you need to take to make it happen and attain success on your own terms.
Only you know what defines success for you. I’m blessed; I already have my dream job, which is being the mother of two amazing children! I’m not done . . . there is more that I want to do and professionally, I have already accomplished so much. My future dream jobs are going to evolve with me, and it’s going to be an ongoing process that I like to call The Path Redefined.
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