I agree with the people in the video NO BLACK CHURCHES DON’T KNOW BLACK WOMEN SINGLE atleast NOT ME I KEEP MYSELF SINGLE BY MY ON FREE CHOICE and NEWSONE KEEP IN MIND YOUR TITLE UPLIFTING BLACK PEOPLE so WHY WAS THIS EVEN A QUESTION?(JMO)

I think the way that black women are acting, nowadays, is what’s keeping them single.

SMMFH!!
the hypocrisy and idiocy folk display……if she knew who Je’zeus’ really was why would she want a man that is supposedly seeking him???
doesn’t proclaiming Christianity means you will become Christ-Like???

is it not written within their text (KJV of the Buybull) that “ye are gods?”
how come they claim 2 be so holy but have no comprehension of their own text they choose 2 entrust and manifest their way of living with…..isn’t that called hypocrisy? or are they confused? and who is confusing them? can they place blame on their Reverend/Pastor/Preacher?? for foul opinions (blind leading the blind)

does not the scriptures say the Kingsdom of Heaven is within you?
does not the ascriptures say that Jesus himself tells you 2 “bear your OWN cross”??

I think that it is a mixture of women themselves and the church. When was the last time anybody seen an actual GOD fearing man that really lived like he presents hiself. I mean at all times!!! I also believe that some women want a man who is Jesus. REALITY CHECK: Jesus is up there and the men are down here. I believe Jesus is spoken for!!!
Some women want a man that is more GODly than than them. Hmmm. He there is such a man he would not want you. Because as we all know you have to be equally yolked in order for the relationship to work PERIOD.
One more thing if you are 42 years old and still waiting on a man, are you sure you have not passed him already? Seriously. Because we know that we can all pass up blessing sometimes when they do not come how we think they should come. Check out how the Jews treated Jesus when he came.

Let’s put it this way: if you go to a library expecting to find a man, and keep being disappointed, do you blame the library, or your methods? sometimes its easier to blame the church, but finding a mate is the responsibility of the person, not the church.

Also, its easy to blame men, as Weems suggests, but love is a two way street. The woman should first look at her methods for finding a mate before blaming the man she’s targeting. That’s true regardless of the skin color. There will be things in a man that keep him from finding the woman he desires, and there are things in a woman that will keep her from find the man she desires. But if the man keeps finding fault with the women but avoids taking inventory of himself, then how will he grow and mature into the man he wants to be that finds the right woman? This also applies to women.

Didn’t ELEV8 tackle this topic already like 6+ months ago? Damn… Yall recycling topics on BP, LOL…

THEY KEEP DA UG-MUGS SINGLE WHO HAVE BIN HURT CAS THEY GET PLAYED AND DA DUDE MOVE ON TO THE HOT CHIC….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wp_ZkA_a2c0

one word….. “MISANDRY”

I love how they say “JOIN THE ALREADY HEATED ARGUMENT” yet there is only 9 comments on here well 10 after I make this one.

black churches keep black women STUPID and NAIVE…

I can’t remember the last time I’ve been to church and it’s a damn shame, but I do have many friends who never miss a day and take part in all of it’s functions, and the funtions are many, but they are single so who knows. I won’t blame the church for it. I do pray for the guys they go out with sometimes, cause they just don’t know what they are getting themselves into. Lord help them. lmao It’s perfectly ok to worship our lord, but it’s good to get out and meet people too. If you are always in church you won’t find anyone except that bitter hag sitting next to you telling you how bad men are and she’s so glad she found the lord because Jesus is the only man she needs in her life or the brother who is in church to repent from his bad ways of cheating and beating women and find a wife. Jesus is in my life and so is Big Daddy cause lord knows I need him for some good loving and to punish me when I’m bad. The Lord knows how bad I get sometimes and that is why he blessed me with Big Daddy. Amen

“I think that it is a mixture of women themselves and the church. When was the last time anybody seen an actual GOD fearing man that really lived like he presents hiself. I mean at all times!!! I also believe that some women want a man who is Jesus. REALITY CHECK: Jesus is up there and the men are down here. ”

“Check. And Mate.” WELL STATED!

I’m going to have a field day with this one! Be back! Ever thought that lack of morals, intellect or just plain attitude MATCHING your “latitude” can be what prohibits others from being attracted to YOU?

Ya think?

Black women keep black women single. POINT…BLANK…PERIOD. It’s nobody’s faulty but single black women’s fault. They either want to be single, have hideous taste in men, or are too busy being I N D E P E N D E N T to settle down. Church has nothing to do with it.

Lets face it…if you are over 25 and still screaming ALL MEN ARE DOGS (when you havent dated all men) then chances are YOU are the problem. Not men. Im just saying.

Whatever happened to “he that findeth a wife finds a good thing and finds Favor in the Lord.’ I’m not good at reciting scripture but I’m pretty sure this is in there just like that. Personally, I like the chase and have always been thrown off by women that chased me down expecting to ‘get me’ to marry them by any means necessary.

Men who don’t know how to go after the women they want, are punks and to you ladies, be glad they don’t want you. And to you ladies who keep it so tight that you can s**t a nickle on a dime, you need to loosen up and let a man be a man. If he wants to open your door, that is not him taking control away from you, that is respect. But so many of you women think that’s taking away your independence – which is honestly only something that you can give away.

None of this has anything to do with the Black church. What do you say about all those single women in the white church – and yes they exist. Or better yet the white women in these churches trying to screw the black men in those other churches – lol. It’s a mess.

Stop blaming your singleness on something that you have complete and total control over – and I mean both men and women. And wait, I didn’t even mention all the down low men out there making the population of ‘real’ men smaller and smaller – and harder for my wife to deal with lol…

Just accept accountability b***hes, because I don’t know your names individually and this is for anybody that thinks it applies – and you know who you are.

Women and men in general are single for various reasons. I am a single black woman who attends church and bible study on a regular basis. Church is not my reason for being single and it shouldnt be the reason others are single. I am single because I choose to be. It’s not because I think all black men are dogs or because I can’t find a good one. Contrary to what some black men believe, there are still black women out here that love and respect the black man. I really wish people would stop making blanket statements.

I think the first thing wrong with this article is: why are women going to church to find men in the first place…thats not the purpose for church any more than trying to hook up with someone at your Job. If it happens thats fine, if not then one shouldent be heartbroken or looking for love at church.

The truth is their are many God fearing single black men and women in church….and if you cant find any, then maybe your going to the wrong kind of church.

The problem is that too many people focus on what they want…instead of what they need. Just because Sister pattison wants a Godly like 6’1 Tyson Beckford looking brotha…who drives a phantom and loves his mother doesnt mean thats what she needs. Instead of looking at just outward appearances maybe folks should go a little deeper and look at the innward appearance of people.

To quote Life Jennings song Statistics: Be the person you wanna find, don’t be a nickel out here looking for a dime.

i think its all the pastor’s doin keeps them single till he has had sex with them then finds a fool to marrie them

I BOTH AGREE AND DISAGREE WITH THIS ARTICLE ALL AT THE SAME TIME. I THINK THAT SOME OF THE CHURCHES METHODS ARE OUTDATED AS FAR AS SOME OF THE RULES TO LIVE BY EVERYTHING NEEDS SOME SORT OF UPGRADE EVEN IF TO SOME PARTS. AT THE SAME TIME IF YOU WANT TO FIND A GOOD WHOLESOME GOD FEARING, CELIBATE SUCKER (JUST KIDDING) THEN YOUR CHANCES ARE GREATER IN THAT KIND OF SETTING AS OPPOSE TO A CLUB. SO I GUESS IT’S ALL IN WHAT U LOOK FOR.

Not enough to attend church: you must be SAVED, SANCTIFIED & full of the HOLY GHOST. Millions of people refer to themselves as Christians and don’t know the Lord. Anyway, it takes a mature man/woman of God to even be prepared for marriage. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and God doesn’t honor divorce. The man must love his wife the same way that Christ loves the Church and gave Himself for it. The woman must honor and reverence her husband as unto the Lord. Honoring him as her head, while he honors Christ as his head, in the same way that Christ honors God has His head. The marriage covenant is a mirror of Christ’s relationship with the Church (Body of Christ). The Church is not a building, it is the assembly of believers who have been born of the water (baptism) and the Spirit (Holy Spirit/Spirit of Christ).

This happens to be the most ignorant article I’ve read lately. I will not waste my time enteraining a single thought towards the question… Unbelieveable!

I don’t think that the church keeps black women single! I think black women keep them selves single waiting for Mr. Right! Which is not something that I knock for the fact is they’re still some good black men out here! Alot of black women are just to picky! To a black women you got to have a job, a house, car, and 4 figures in your bank account! Which is kind of impossible for working men who didn’t have nothing giving to them. They want the man to be physically fit, muscular, and packing under the belt. But I see it as this! Every women can have a man if she bring her ass back down to earth a bit! Because all of them or no size 6, neither or all of them shaped like a model! Men settle for 2 out of 3 things when we meet a women, and we ride out with that s**t. I love all women especially my black Queen, but y’all gotta start trying to claim y’all black King. Nobodies perfect! But if you truly want a man find one that respect you and jerish most of the thing that you hold dear! Love is real but you got to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

its a blesing being single now days even, the bible say so, an besides theres many nonblack women who are single also..AN ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT SINGLE!!!

SyrexxG you nailed it on the coffin my man. Church has never had anything to do with one’s sexual preference, martial status, finances, etc. Black women being single is the result of numerous things =PICKINESS, CHOICE, A MAN NOT FITTING THEIR “REQUIREMENTS”, ABUSEMENT OF THE WORD INDEPENDANT, ETC. Women, in general, most especially black woman, have their ideal perception of what they want their men to be like from day one and if they don’t fit the bill they just continue being single. The Church serves one purpose and thats to go praise and glorify our creator.

I don’t believed that black churches are keeping black women single. In fact I believe that the black men that do not attend church are the reason on why black women are single. I attend church and yes I am single but I feel that If a man wants to be with me, He has to understand that God is our backbone to our relationship and yes our relationship will have our ups and downs but if we continue and pray and maintain we will be fine. A lot of black man live the worldly life and you rarely see black men attend church. That’s just my opinion.

RSC 05! I appreciate the love, but I got one more thing to say to the lady on the film and all these so called independent women out here! YOU DON’T GO FIND A MAN AT THE CLUB!!!! Now what kind of s**t is that to say? I bet you wondering why you get played! Every sunday you at the alter. HOW STUPID!!!

THIS IS SO FALSE. HOW CAN A CHURCH KEEP BLACK WOMEN SINGLE? SO NOT TRUE. TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS, REAL MEN ARE SCARCE AND VICE VERSA. ONLY A FOOL WOULD BLAME CHURCH AS THE REASON WHY ‘BLACK’ WOMEN ARE SINGLE. AND ALL BLACK WOMEN AREN’T SINGLE. SOME ‘BLACK’ WOMEN ARE JUST INDEPENDENT AND KNOW THEIR SELF-WORTH, AND REFUSE TO SETTLE FOR LESS. WHAT WOMAN WANTS A MAN THAT WANTS TO LIVE OFF OF THEM OR HAS NO AMBITION OR DRIVE, NONE WHATSOEVER? WE ALL WANT AN EQUAL MATE. 50/50 LOVE!!!

First of all I’m happy & blessed 2 not be in a marriage now. I’m divorced & have many kids, becuz I wasn’t brought up the way most priviledge folks r with 2 saved parents in the household & a strong sense of who God is at the time I was doing my thing in a relationship. No one I messed with was in the church. I use 2 think good men dwelled in the church but THERE R NO MEN IN MOST CHURCHES that r single. They either married or not in church seriously for the right reasons. Single life is a blessing in itself. I wish black folks would shut they mouth about being single & those who choose 2 b. We weren’t all brought up from tradition, most of us were brought up raising ourselves like I was after 17 yrs old my mom put me out the house. Ever since then I had 2 figure stuff out by myself. I wasn’t easy 4 me 2 do especially having 2 raise ALL MY KIDS alone. I WILL NEVER MARRY ANY OF MY KIDS FATHERS becuz they aren’t grounded with God in their life nor do they resepect women or the other mothers of their children. They aren’t even marry material only jail material. That is themainreason why MOST WOMEN R SINGLE BECUZ MEN DON’T WANNA GROW UP OR TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A FATHER TO ALL THEIR KIDS. We’re always the excuse of why men act the way they do towards us when really THEY NEVER EXPERIENCED LIFE OUTSIDE THEIR PARENTS HOME TIL AFTER 30YRS OLD!

I’m not trying to put anyone down but that’s not true about brothers not being in church. When brothers are in church SOME women *not all* just seem to find something that negative about the man. Then you have some brothers who work on Sundays but still keep their faith in the right place. It’s sounds like people are saying you can’t be a good man if you don’t attend church. Who are we to judge that? I bet some of the celebrity men these women love would burn if they stepped into a church. But that’s another story right? Be fare that’s all I’m saying.

I don’t think black churches keep black women single i think black women keep their self’s single because of the way they look the way they talk and they way they behave and because of that they run and hide in the church and use church as an escape for why they are single and they portray to everyone that god is their man to prevent them from saying they can’t get a man wrong thing to do this is to all the women in the video and I’m sure there are many more i am not trying to offend anyone but come on now i have a man and a very good man and god is always in my heart and my soul and he will always be my farther and if i did not have a man i do not have to run to church everyday of the week to prove that i praise him everyday of my life and I’m sorry if this offended anyone.

i don’t know why they would apply this to black women only when it applies to anybody of any color. remember that movie boyz in the hood back in the day? remember the part when ice cube and his boys wanted to go to church to find big booty girls?! yeah not just women, men can go looking as well in the wrong places. that’s what it’s really about. don’t blame religion…blame yourself. I’m not single by choice and when i was single it was on the same token; by choice. Women need to take the same point of view. otherwise, you’ll always end up disappointing your own self for your own selfish reasons, blaming someone or something else for being single and staying that way. take some responsibility and you will project that outwards and a good man/woman will see it. peace

STFU@ODOG

Black Churches don’t keep black women single…this is a conscious choice made by black women….and some black men. To Christian believers, the Word of God is the code that is lived by, and in the Word, fornication, and other undesirable behaviors are things that God does not condone. To keep true to thier beliefs, a lot of women/men choose to avoid going against God’s Word because they don’t want to fornicate (biblical term) and or commit adultry, and they stay single until someone who is on the same page as they, comes along. Is it wrong to try to please God? Some people will quote Shakespeare and say “Be true to thine own self”. At what cost? I’d rather be true to God.

Is it me or does it seem like finding a man is not one of her main concerns?… According to this article, having a man in her life doesn’t seem like a main priority. So why is this such a problem if she’s happy with the way things are in her life? It seems like the outside world has more problems with her being single than she does.

I guess these ‘holy-er than thou’ black women don’t need to PHYSICALLY be with a man, when they get faithfully MIND F*UCKED by pastor every day of the week, sometimes twice on Sunday! And they PAY FOR IT!

infinite_question, WELL SAID yet again…

@Odoggz-Hummm didn’t we discuss your black women phase use the term black women you know? Im mad about it…lol you know better. :(

I agree wit ppl who say church don’t keep women single. It by choice. It is how they want follow God’s footsteps and waiting for somebody else that on same page as them. You can’t tell them what to do or how to date, just respect it. Some christians are different.. they rather take time getting know a man for a while and see if he actualy serve God. Because a lot ppl would lie when claim to be in Christ’s life. That what I did , I have been single for a year.

A lot men ask me to have sex, I had to hold up confidence saying no. That why I am single now, I couldn’t find a good man that can’t say a sentence w/o asking “Do you want sex?” I must have a good christian man that understand/ love for who I am and respect that I am absentiencing since my body is the temple. Respect for who I am… I don’t mind what you do, it is your own life, but respect me. It is my own choice. Get it?

@CAROLINAGIRLSRDABEST
LOL Oh now what did I say? I said something so innocent and true. It wasn’t a bad thing, it’s just whatever you guys are doing, you either want to be alone, or you do things that keep you alone. That’s all. How was that bad?

This really is an ignorant article. i dont understand the purpose anymore and a couple of these comments are just as ignorant.

I think the reasons why church going black women are single, because black men dont go to church. They are out there out on the street doing all manner of evil.

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This lady who wrote this article doesnt know very much about living for GOD. If a woman decides to wait for the right man according to her faith than that is her choice. Dont blame the church for you wanting to be s**t. All the church says is that it is better to marry than to burn with passion. Now some women are so hot with this passion to the point were they dont have the desire or power to wait . These are the ones who are saying that the church is holding them back from SEXING THE WHOLE CITY OR TOWN THAT THEY ARE IN LOL!!!

Of course they do. Churches are cults that indoctrinate people from birth and keep then spellbound for life. They are mind-controlled.

What is one of the major tenets of a cult?–> Shun outsiders or those that don’t follow the cults beliefs.

@odogz-It was because you didn’t use the term black women you know are some black women…lol when you say black women your adding me in and im mad about it. :( I told you im not like that…lol do you want me to spank you? Because I will! ;)

All major religions are anti human, anti woman, anti free thinking, judgmental, critical, mysogonist and boring. Oh, and created by the white man to control people.

The majority of the churches are made of women who are alone and overweight. Who wants anyone who is anti human, anti woman rights, not free thinking, critical, judgmental, myopic and boring? I wouldn’t.

One day, African Americans will realize that we were enslaved by a religion that is a myth and never existed. If African American would pickup a book and read the history of religion, they would quickly find that God doesn’t exist.

I feel sorry for people who are too myopic to find out the truth. I think religious people in general are a bit too rigided and myopic and they miss out on live.

Question?: Do Black Churches Keep Black Women Single?

Answer: It takes two. The listener and the speaker.

Message: Jesus is all you need / Interpretation: If I can’t get this man to submit to my Jesus Game I can always fall back on this Company line. JESUS IS ALL I NEED

Message: Husbands Love your Wives as Christ Loves the Church / Interpretation: If you are a God Fearing Man I need you to heal me, walk on water, feed me 5000 meals with two loaves and 5 fish and last but not least DIE for me; AND ALL I SHOULD HAVE TO DO AND I DO MEAN “ALL” I SHOULD HAVE TO DO

IS CALL ON YOUR NAME

BLACK WOMEN AND THE BLACK CHURCH KEEP THE BLACK WOMAN SINGLE

What kind of Stupid Question is this?

“….she says. “Jesus is the No. 1 man in my life and any man who wants me must seek me through Him.””

That’s just stupid. A man must seek her through Jesus?

Amazing how powerful the mind can be..and equally as WEAK…

Or just maybe more Blackmen have learned that they would rather keep their money then give it to a reformed pimp/junkie/criminal. Maybe we have been slaves long enough to gods/white-man’s system…etc..etc…and for once we want to and should take control of our own destiny. Personally I would prefer a more wordly woman..Not a person that everytime adversity shows up–they start screaming—oh just put it in god’s hands…How about we handle the problem as a free thinking mentally-well equiped couple of human-beings. I had a woman tell me once(who I thought was the one)—She didn’t want me because I didn’t believe in god—-but she went on to have a relationship with a married-man in the church—he met her mother–but I wasn’t worthy—-wow!!! It was even more tragic–but thats another story…All I read here is women telling men how the should live, and there’s no comprimise….Lotusflower–you and the rest of the baby-makers should stop making babies and focus on your education—you made a CHOICE to lay up with busta’s–when you could have been in school. No sympathy here. Close ur legs and open ur mind….oops–too late!!!!

you never know, maybe, maybe not, but some of these preachers not all but some is PIMPIN and they slice up some of these sistas to the point of no return, 10% PLUS offering and some even be sexing with some of the members we all know im telling the truth and its easy to pimp when a woman aint got a man,, hate to say it but it may have some truth to it , My advice do you if you dont need a man good for you do your thing, but at night i garuntee you the LORD aint all you crave, the coldest pimp looking for somebody to hold at night, and the most holy sista would love for somebody to hold her, IMO

My body is a temple?—lol……exactly—If you make your ‘temple’ the prize—then when he is allowed in the temple—there is nothing else enteresting about the property…Prince charming will quickly turn into Not so enterested anymore….You should have dazzeled him with your mind and conversation–that lasts a lot longer and is a more bonding-attribute…imo….

The answer is NO ; the church does not keep the black women single. These so called single

black women are a bunch of black w***e’s; atleast 97% of these, not all. Over 97% of black

women are unmarried with 1-4 kids before the age of 25 year old. Please note alot of good

men and also good christian men have to work on Sunday and would love to be in church but

have to work. Another issue it black men are tired of forced marriages with these women

that seem to never atleast use proper sex protection and have one or more kids. If by any

chance that a nice gentleman such as myself wish to accept the woman and hers’ ;over 88%

of these women are baring due to the fact that they don’t want anymore kids or have had

medical issue after birth of there umarried sex birth. People need to take time out to listen

to black women, they are tell everyone all the time daily”How being a black woman is the

thing to be”! For year’s black women have taught young black women to be unmarried

and have kids are cool you can alway’s find a good man later as long as you still look like

a 5 star chichenhead are better yet close to one. Go ahead live your life to the fullest with

that no-good guy and have multi kids. Black women know they have the system or a captain

savior that will come alone. Then we have the black woman that get the no-good guy & have

one or more kids by him but not worried about him staying because she can hold it down

without one. Look at how many black kids finish or can’t finsh high school without having a

a kid. You black women that so call church women are getting your backs cracked every

chance you can make. Yet wish to shout now… I myself have more respect for

any divorced black woman or any woman ,then a none. Let me make this very clear;”Unless

You Are Not Save”,so called !

Oh,yeah; I’m going to tell you another main issue that a black women have that maks them

be single. They don’t want to get in you place of a woman spouse! ! Sure we live in America

so we are equal in rights. Now the real talk; there is a very good reason that we keep religion

out of politic’s; for we know men and women are not and never will be equal. Men are the

head of the house .. ***Note if men are head of the house then that means not equal ,which

means someone is less then **. A man aint gone deal with no woman if he aint the KING..

That is man appointed spot over women by God. Oh.yeah you black women and your

fly attitudes; yes they say it all the time to prove how much drama they are and enjoy it,

they alway’s preaching ” I NEED A MAN THAT CAN HANDLE ME” Please note when a woman

say this it mean 40% sexually and 61% drama of super atitude… You are a grown woman

that should know right from wrong even if your your parents did not raise you! This is 2010

not the olden day’s or over sea’s enwhich a man can check a woman by any means to make

her act right. ” Then we do have Pimp’s” Do you think we men need a 1.800. call.pimp number

for our black women with we need to get them to act right ,so we don’t have to worry about

getting a case. LMAO.. Another issue with these black church women are if a man is not in

a key relgion position at their church are another then the don’t have time for him even if he

is saved and attend church on a bases. Anway, THE QUESTION SHOULD BE;” IF WHY ARE

THERE COUNTLESS SO CALLED SAVED AND FILLED HOLY BLACK WOMEN THAT CLAIM TO

LOVE THE LORD,WALK BY FAITH ,NOT BY SIGHT, SINGING “NO MAN CAN DO ME LIKE

JESUS”, but is unmarried and having kids yearly by men that are not of God but of this world.

THIS IS NOT WAITING ON THE LORD ! ! ! You know what black women do; they treat sex

like a pop-up diet. LMAO.. For real.. They get all the diiiik they want like a buffet then say “I

need to loose some wait ; its diet time”. This really means am going to try to be a so call good

woman and live life right until a Mr.Right or God’s choice man come by that I should have

been waiting on. But with this attatched kids not we in the street call him”Captain Saver”,or

just a Sucker! The thing about being on a diet ;people can’t stick to them.. Oh;yeah last but

lease,these black church woman that wish to wait until they are old a fuk to call themself

wanting a relationship because they want one and now they fill life is so perfect to do such***

**News flash; it don’t work like such.. Just think how many good men have stop and say hello

to you and you would not even accept him as a friend or just would not even speak,we all

know how black women even the so called church women have a issue even saying hello to

a black man. Really think about how many good man that you took for granted by not even

caring to know their name. Since majority of black church women are single ,WHY DO

THEY COMPLAIN WHEN THEY DONT REALLY WANT A LOVING MAN,AND A MAN THAT

WISH TO BE AROUND TO MAKE SURE THERE IS A GOOD FOUNDATION FOR THEIR KID OR

KIDS TO GROW? The black women in churches need to live by the word and not just recall

them.

Now for the men: You don’t have to spend money all on a woman eating out etc to be a

gentleman,only once a month or less. I dont care how much money you have. You don’t

treat a w***e, a nonfriend, girlfriend like a wife ! Vise Vs women.. T hen treat a wife like a

w***e,non girlfriend, like a BB***h! Last QUESTION; WHY DO BLACK WOMAN IN CHURCH

AND OUT DEVALUE LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP RATHER THAN VALUE A GREAT LAST-

ING ONE; IF THERE IS SUCH A SO CALL SHORTAGE OF MEN THEN WHY NOT CLAIM A

GOOD MAN AND MARRY HIM LIKE YOU SHOULD? IF YOU WAIT ON THE LORD LIKE

HIS WORD”HE WILL SEND YOU A MAN” THEN IS IT THAT BLACK CHURCH WOMEN DON’T

TRUST THAT GOD WILL GIVE THEM A GOOD MAN AND THEY DONT HAVE AS MUCH FAITH

AS THEY CLAIM TO HAVE? ARE JUST BLACK CHURCH WOMEN ARE A BUNCH OF HORNEY

WOMEN THAT GOT TO HAVE SOME DIK AND LACK SELF-CONTROL?

Nope, but if there’s DECEPTION (name your own here) in the temple of the lord, then who wants to get hooked up and end up unable to get out of the knot? Not meeee…….

News flash—That religon that many black ppl have been practicing the last 200yrs. was beat into your ancestors…Now you practice it like it was LAW…..Once upon a time if a black person looked at the outside of a bible-they would be flogged…..Even worse the ones who then allowed you to read it–said that god wanted you to be slaves….At some point you must take the bull by the horns..and live you life…..determine your faith through exploration or something…but this ‘his way or no way’ will have those ovaries looking like dried-cuc**bers..lol…..Now don’t kill the messenger!!!! I know yall comin’….

The conqueror’s religion. No thanks, Ma’at is a better way.

I MUST SAY ITS FALSE THAT IT KEEP THEM SINGLE I THINK IT SHOW WOMEN HOW TO ACT LIKE A LADY INSTEAD OF SHOWING THERE FLESH LIKE A KFC RESTAURANT AND IT MAKES THEM BE LIKE FOR THERE CLASS NOT THERE A@#$ !

ANYTHING that let’s a woman condition herself into being independant with no unifying connection of being interdependant later or ANY system that doesn’t let her build her mental and spiritual self as being both self sufficient and a team player is worthless.

Most black women I have seen still gravitate toward men that are bound to hurt them in the most careless fashion imaginable!

Black women appear to have a radar block on men who can actually take them to places spiritually and metaphysically lower thinking males cannot, thus opting for a reality they can seemingly predict and control vs. having the true intrinsic freedom to choose a destiny led thru with true loyalty & trust.

What am I doing??? There’s no woman on BlackPlanet.com (save CaliFemme) that can even imagine what I’m saying long enough to let an actual picture form.

WARNING: Lost cause approaching!

I feel the article hits home if you are in the church 24/7 you lack the ability to cope with things at home. How do you expect to get into the kingdom of heaven when you fail to cherish the gift God gives you on earth. Sad..plus it lots like a whole lot of glutton going on, no man want to be with a whale ask Jonah. Put down the fried chicken…say hi to someone and enjoy the bounties the Lord has given instead of hiding from them!

Black Women are the Best!

There are so many reasons why men and women are single, I can only share with you all (BP Family) why I’m having a very hard time finding a black women to marry. Id like to think that I can approach a woman in a respectful way and start a civilized conversation of sorts but its not so.

I like the big booty voluptuous type usually, or any big booty type… maybe that’s the problem. Because no matter if she is a church girl, a college girl, or a bus rider, Id say 8 out of 10 will give me attitude and play hard to get game. Black women on average are not as approachable as our counterparts. Unfortunately for me, my heart beats for sista’s. Women of color turn me on.. its the lips, the hips, and the booty so I won’t go anywhere.

Let’s be real. Black women are NOT less approachable than other women. Men are programmed to believe that non-Black women, especially white females, are easy (fast and loose), because most men function at the lower man level (sex) and do not want to put in the time and effort required to acquire and maintain a healthy and long lasting relationship.

On the other hand, Black women (Christians/Churchgoers) ARE limiting themselves from finding good men because of their spiritual belief (Christianity), which is basically mental bondage that was created as another tool for white dominance. Most people are clueless about the history of Christianity and the god or gods they worship. They don’t ACTUALLY read the Bible and trust in their ministers, preachers, and spiritual advisers for guidance. If you ask them who wrote the bible, they will say GOD. Funny. God nor the so called demi-god Jesus Christ (meaning Messiah from old Egyptian hieroglyphs) wrote or inspired the books, which are simply a collection of writings, which have been tampered with and corrupted throughout history by whatever ruling party to maintain world dominance and control the human population.

So, YES, Black Churches keep Black women SINGLE. I’ve been married for 18 years and am a former Christian. I hope Black women and men would rise to a higher consciousness and realize that the powers that keep us apart do not live within our communities and are the enemies of our people.

1MANFUN, you are extremely ignorant to comment on the lack of sexual protection used by Black women. It takes TWO people of the opposite sex to make babies. SO, Black men are NOT using protection either.

My husband and I have two sons. My first was born when I was 29 years old, so your categorizing all Black women as having 1-4 kids by age 25 is ridiculous. Then again, you’re comments are a reflection of the community you were raised in.

Black men need to stop bashing Black women, when they make up the largest percentages of prisoners, unemployed, less educated, and number of men who ABANDON their families. You need to get your facts together.

Plain and simple…(In spite of the erroneous, satanic driven, ignorantly hashed up illogical comments made from previous people before me) -Christianity is not race based…. Christianity has been spread throughout civilation and has been adopted by every culture in the world to some capacity…. There are those that are Muslim, Buddist, Hindu, as well as Christian so to even run a parellel of something that is independant of eachother is an assumption and error on the part of the writer. The two have NOTHING to do with eachother. To even make the comparison would imply that Black women or Blacks overall have a monopoloy on the Christian faith..which anyone with an ounce of common sense knows otherwise. God nor the Christian faith is not to blame for the state of black women, the status of those that are single, or the relationships between men and women. People make choices in life and when you attempt to guide your life and not consult the one who created you and live a life that places yourself in the authors seat by living according to flesh, and base impulses then it brings about negative results….(and that rings true for ANY culture or person)I choose to live my life striving after the things above as well as accomplishing goals on earth… If someone chooses to add to that pursuit then it is a plus… We make choices in life…How you define the value of life, the value of a mate, yourself ,and your faith is up to you…….

Crystal Cathedral is not a Black church…somebody didn’t do their homework.

Oh boy where do I start? I think that black women and the church is the reason why black women are single. Black women are taught by their mothers and grand mothers to date only christian men or men who “love or know the lord” and thats why they’re single today. I also think that blackwomen are not realistic when it comes down to the fact that a huge number of black men don’t go to church nor care to go. Now over the years I dated a few black women who were nothing but holy hellraising hypocrites; they will preach the word and cuss you out too.

On the real tip I think that black women need to come off of the holy high horse they’re riding and compromise. They have to understand that not all black men are church going or practice any kind of faith.

So to my beautiful sista out there there are plenty of men out, but ya’ll learn to come off of that holy high horse and be willing compromise

There are both many myths and sensationalism that always float around topics like these. There is nothing more fun and inflammatory than to lump a sum of problems together into a group and speculate on cause and effect. So many other issues are involved that this question while seemingly important, is simply too broad to be of any real use beyond a “hot topic”. These kinds of questions are laced with fundamental ideas that scientists, theologians and philosophers have fought and argued over for centuries.

One of the principle underlying issues here is sex. We all know how deep an issue that is and essentially it’s boils down to personal faith, standards and belief. Besides, I know plenty of men who have married a woman because the sex was great and have gotten divorced because ONLY the sex was great. This is a pseudo search for truth by way of short cuts. I can understand why they would ask it, but if you ask me, it’s a bit lazy to stop there, at least a few dozen different topics and questions can lifted from the fundamental ideas in the question, “Do Black Churches Keep Black Women Single?”

Also, I’m guessing that White and Asian churches don’t keep Black women single? Never mind the fundamental social and economic changes to not only African Americans but globally over the past 70 years.

It always amazes me how Black people, who one hand, complain about the education system in black neighborhoods, but on the other hand, have no problem spouting their baseless beliefs, which are usually accompanied by some psuedoscientific theory.
The one thing I have noticed is when people are ignorant, they have no problem with sharing with you how much they don’t know!
And I have a question… since when have niggas become Egyptologists when half of yall can’t even master the English language!

No offend but most of the freaks i date they come from church i respect those one who take it serious but ohhhh lord is more freak in church that out from it, they are single becuase they hide behind reletion becuase of social status. but again i say majority not all of them!

No offend but most of the freaks i date they come from church i respect those one who take it serious but ohhhh lord is more freak in church that out from it, they are single becuase they hide behind religion becuase of social status. but again i say majority not all of them!

Oh one more thing….

You know a lot of you base your history on what you’ve seen on tv and what you’ve read in books written by people who want to push their anti-white agenda.

But here are some facts:

1. the church in Ethiopia, the Coptic church is the oldest Christian church in the world. Meaning… that there were black people who were Christians WAY before Christianity was accepted in Rome, Germany and Central Europe.
2. Muslims were the people who invented the African Slave Trade… eastern AND western. And when black men slaves had jobs where they would come in contact with Arabic women they were castrated as not to be able to get any of their women pregnant.
3. In 632, when Islam spread to Africa, there were a LOT of Africans who were Christians.

So every time I hear someone say that Christianity is the religion of the oppressor, I KNOW this person is just repeating something they heard someone else say! so I dont even bother to discuss anything with them.

Realy now 1st of all the black people as a whole are lost our women are lost and angry because the providers and protectors of our race have left them to raise kids alone keep house alone protect themselves we as black men failed our comminitys our race our blackness half of us have no clue so we search for peace and how ever it comes thats it.Now church is nothing but a white mans business hidden behind another white man CHRIST to enslave the minds of the masses christianity started as a cult and the churches today realy dnt care if your at peace its all smoke and mirror research study black people.to obtain your money.but again let me say this black men have failed our women so whatever they worship pray to find peace in try to meet them in their peace and maybe just maybe you can save a little piece of our race or leave them alone cause if you would have came right in the 1st place and lead our woman out of chaos it wouldnt be this way and i take responsiblity as a strong blk man who is sadden by what he has contributed to our women turning away and finding what little peace is left so just leave the sisters alone we have done enough to them that is wrongs.

the women who are normally single are the ones who are strong minded and power hungry and controling. they gonna have it thier way or no way at all. they are the ones who dont normaly let their men do his job and find faults and compare and nag da ish out him till he leaves and start diggin out another chic who listens to him and gives him less headaches…

So some of you would rather have a sinning, cheating, disrespectful husband or wife? As a African American male I would rather have a Christian woman or meet a woman in the church. The problem is most woman in the church got as many issues than woman who don’t. However, I wouldn’t let that deter me from trying to meet a woman who goes to Church. To each is own though.

Why is the Crystal Cathedral listed as a black church? That is like the whitest church you could ever go to? I mean you may be able to count 30 black people out of the thousands that go there.

Church is nothing more then a business with great tax benefits. For people who have no real discipline and need something to blame their problems on without actually having to solve them their self. An agenda that is being pushed. Folks don’t realize just how many centuries of the bible that have been put together from different cultures to make a book. That really isn’t inspired or even written by god himself…………<<<Believes in a high being…not this other bullshyt!!!!! get some knowledge brain washed idiots…..SMDH

Here’s something that I haven’t read in the comments section yet:

(hold on to your hats)

Morally, a lot of men aren’t worth the sh*t on the bottom of their shoes…I used to be in that category, but then I matured..I can’t say that for the majority of guys I’ve met (thugs on the corner, government officials, Military Generals/Captains, business owners, etc..all of them…DOGS)..

Too many men ARE just dogs and a$$holes just looking to subjugate a woman physically and/or mentally..(obviously not me, but really…how can you even tell?)

Christianity gives (some/most) women a sense of WORTH that they can’t necessarily get from some guy they meet.

They may be lonely as far as a Man is concerned, but is it even worth it if the guys they’ve known in the past just dogged the sh*t out of them? Look at how many women get beat up (physically, verbally) daily, but stay with the guy, because “they don’t want to be lonely.”

Is that worth it?

As humans, we can read all we want, but we only truly KNOW what we actually live. If most of the Men you’ve encountered have been demons in human skin, then maybe that ‘being single’ thing isn’t so bad for you..no one said every person will find ‘love’ (whatever that is)..we’re not even promised to wake up in the morning, so why act like we’re all meant to fall in love?

Caveat: I think this issue increases the further you go down the socio-economic ladder, so the money/education/employment elements in Men factors in greatly as well.

Maybe that’s just my opinion though…I have three sisters and no brothers and I’ve had the blessing of being able to date a lot of women, and hear a lot of their stories…truth is, even though my ex-girlfriends have cheated on me multiple times, MEN are the worst..lol..by far.

I say, if Jesus Christ is enough. Then let Man fall by the wayside..I ain’t mad atcha

i dunno whats the problem i think church girls are attractive.

@Blkfubu05
I gotta thank you and others for saying all of those anti-church comments. I didn’t know just how screwed up peoples’ views were.

Maybe that’s a failing at some churches though, I don’t know. I’ve never left church feeling like there was an agenda. Every Sunday I leave church, I feel like I can conquer my obstacles and STILL have enough energy and love to help others in need.

If that’s the “agenda” you speak of..then I’m all for it!

I don’t know a single other place where that “agenda” is taught as much as it is NEEDED.

Also, since church helps me to realize that I shouldn’t hate or berate you for your beliefs, since you sound just as idiotic as I do sometimes…I think I should continue to go.

I think black churches do keep black women single. Women will follow the ways and idealogy of the pastor but he’s just a man like me. The women should follow their heart when trying to find a good mate. Many black churches don’t have an active single ministry which would bring men and women together in the eyes of GOD…Black women follow almost anything the pastor says or whatever the media says. They feel the black man doesn’t have a voice in this situation which isn’t true. The black woman should work with the black male not against him while trying to preach and teacher what she’s heard from some pastor who just wants her ties and offerings…

I have something to say to all these so called independent women, and these worldly people who down the church! Every women to me is like a bottle of wine. The more she ages the better she is, but we as men need to start caring about our women more and talking to them more! If you was to ask any so called independent woman how she feels! You would know that she is the most unhappy woman in the world! She works constantly, and stressess herself to death. Still wanna be independent? For all those who down the church! I dare you to walk in one.

If the Black woman believes putting her life in ‘God’s’ hands will solve her problems, then yes the church IS the reason she is single. Instead of taking some responsibility and making things happen for yourselves, you would rather wait until the ‘Lord’ brings it too you… When all YOU had to do was GO GET IT!

Black PPL not just Black women need to stop using ‘God’ as an excuse. You have a brain, USE IT. Do some research about what you are worshipping and you might be surprised what you find out.

Damn I swear Black ppl will believe ANYTHING!

Stan_Vinyl,

Brother, your entire first paragraph was so on point I had to read it a few times over. I had to re-post it….

“ANYTHING that let’s a woman condition herself into being independant with no unifying connection of being interdependant later or ANY system that doesn’t let her build her mental and spiritual self as being both self sufficient and a team player is worthless.”

JEWELS! Keep droppin….”being both self sufficient AND A TEAM PLAYER….”
Just…priceless…

Black African people on the continent of Africa never worshipped a “white Jesus” or a “white Mohammed” up until the year 1450 A.D. (Islam has an earlier history on the continent, Arab slave traders arrived a few hundred years earlier) African people before then had their own local customs and religious rituals that involved worshipping Gods that resembled “their” likeness. Indeed, there is no record showing any (African language or text) group of African people on the continent having a belief system that believed in a “white Jesus” before the arrival of “Europeans”.

(Asar / Auset / Heru)

A proven military / social suppression tactic used by “whites” slave traders (“white” society): Dutch, English, French, and Portuguese; was to indoctrinate all enslaved Africans; have them reject their cultural “Gods”; have them believe in a “mysterious invisible God”. One who’s son was “white” as his father. The slaves were taught by the same Europeans that enslaved them that; this “god” was a vengeful “god” and demanded every enslaved African obey their “white” captures (“white” slave traders) and hope for a better life in the “thereafter”?

If Black women the world over can not reconnect with their original modes of learning moral righteousness and self-group respect; they forever, with their natural partners the Black man; will be oppressed in the system of “white” supremacy = racism.

When will Black African people truly nation build and gain our collective dignity.

This has been a topic, 4 some time now. I , 4 one, grew up in church surroundings (back when i was young, church was as mandatory as school) and as I matured, I started to get “judged” by single black women for being “too nice”. Are these stereotypes, of black women, who prefer the FIGHTER over the LOVER created by some insecure person, who never found love? When I go to church, the only types of women I see are: single moms(trying to start over), heart-broken girls(recovering from bad relationships), abussed women(formerly raped or taken advantage of), and sinner-types (former club-hoppers or street-walkers) all looking for GOD to clean them up. Oh, and MEN are there 4 the same reasons, so don’t be trippin’ too much. I’ve seen my church help some of these women and give them a new life (and I have made new friends while helping out, too.) The bottom line? Yes, there are single ladies at church, but it takes a good heart to……..sorry, i’m gettin’ teary-eyed, just stay optimistic and put GOD in your heart. (before letting anything else in.) Take care.

For all those church bashers it’s a sad day when we actually begin to blame the church and G-d for women that remain single when those of us who live outside of G-d have just as bad if not worse lives. I mean lets not look at the statistics of single moms, divorce, crazy babie daddies and poor excuses for men and at the heart of it all you’ll most times find people who live their lives totally the opposite of what G-d says in his word. The reason why there are higher rates of single women in the church is because the MEN WONT STEP UP TO THE PLATE to these sisters who actually have standards and aren’t throwing their legs open to the first idiot with a decent line and a hard on. What about men like myself who are happily married as a result of living the way G-d says. Both I and my wife are heavily into church and are living the proverbial American Dream. Finances are booming, kids are wonderful, we have an abundance of everything and aren’t feeling the recession etc and we started with nothing but G-d. The truth is the world is full of women and men with low to no standards and those truly devout and in the church realize that G-ds word makes you have moral standards and if the majority does not and you do then yeah it can be difficult to find a mate and the best thing to do is wait for G-d and not to settle. You find the same difficulties in successful men and women as well because again they are not going to settle for someone that is out for their money or that can drag them down.

i see yall still trying to cut the tree down one leaf at a time. first of all… you keep calling yourselves black. we have been speaking a very dangerous thing into our lives. none of you know who this god is that the church prays to. NO! YOU F’U.CKING DO NOT! for all you know, you could be praying all the heavenly blessings of the world into someone elses hands. your true language was forgotten remember? our women are single because the love she is giving to the sky at church is the actual love she is suppose to be giving at home. she is suppose to be speaking things into existence in her home and in her relationships or marriage. she is suppose to be praying to her man for the love she desires to receive. she is suppose to be worshiping her man so that he can bless her with the things that she needs and wants. the earth revolves around the sun, the sun keeps the earth warm, fertile and beautiful. that is the way relationships between men and women are suppose to be. the woman is suppose to revolve around her man and he is suppose to take care of her. if this dynamic is seen or practiced any other way, relationships between men and women are doomed. this is not an opinion, this is the truth. and i’m strictly talking about moorish people because no other race really has this problem and why should we care about their problems anyway? unless their problems are in direct offence to us we should leave them out of this discussion. talk about us.

Okay, seriously, now i have to say something…

@SyrexxG…in all seriousness, did you just wake up when you posted this or something? “we men need to start caring”?? Dude, are you serious? You look all over television, on the radio, in videos, in the paper, EVERYWHERE…black men get demonized for freaking BREATHING HEAVY!! Especially if we’re not with our children, when it is CLEARLY the mothers who keep us away. We get hit with the bad blood when we feed into seeing a half nekkid broad walking down the damn street or in videos, when they WILLINGLY put themselves in those situations…

CARING?? What the hell more do you want us to do? When we DO show how much we care, these stupid b*tches wanna sh*t on us and go get up with their little wannabe thug on the block who they KNOW is gonna slap their dumb azzes around, use them as drug mules, stash houses, and leave their kids fatherless…don’t give me this garbage Steve Harvey crap about us CARING about our women….the love has ALWAYS been there…if these chicks wanna know why the hell they’re single, they NEED to start looking in the damn mirror and stop looking for other reasons as to why they’re not getting married or in relationships…because the problem doesn’t start with the men…it starts with what you see staring back at you when you’re brushing your teeth.

I don’t know how much “talking” would be ideal for you, but all these things are going on within the black community all the damn time…hell, there are FOCUS GROUPS with guys…GOOD GUYS…who can’t even find a good woman and are wondering why. The love has always been there and will always be…but until black chicks stop trying to find the next person, building, entity, or white face to blame for their OWN short-comings, we’re just gonna keep on seeing more and more bulls**t topics like this trying to keep their noses clean…

one_great_man i agree with you. men are not stepping up to the plate. but i do not agree with you on your views about god. im as great a man as you are if not greater. i follow god as well. it’s called my common sense. so how is it that i’m in a successful loving relationship with a woman, finances are booming over here as well and we have wonderful children too but we do not go to church? we did’nt start with god, it started with me doing what god would do if he were in my shoes. i do not worshiop god. i conduct myself and make descisions as if i am god. my wife revolves around me and i take care of her as god planted into my common sense knowledge to. since when did natural people need to be taught from a book allegedly written by god to do what is in their natural genetic makeup to do. and i’ll also have you notice that the church has’nt been here very long in comparison to millions of years and people who have been having successful marriages and relationships. long before an alleged christ. now christ is here, why sooooo many problems

@CAROLINAGIRLSRDABEST
lol so if I said “Maannn, black women REALLY need Jesus”, would that be ok? I mean, isn’t Jesus a good thing for people? :)

I’ve been reading a few of these topics, and I can’t believe some of you ACTUALLY THINK this issue has ANYTHING to do with church.

I don’t go to church, nor would I be caught dead believing in anything I can’t see or touch, but I don’t hold that against anybody else if that’s what they choose to believe in. That’s YOUR life, not mine, and I respect that….but lets be realistic….how in f*ck’s name could the church keep anybody single, when all i’ve EVER heard from these sunday church shows are people trying to talk positive about the black family?

Come on now, people, wake up! This isnt a church issue…look at it for what this is…whoever made this garbage topic is looking for another damn person to blame over black chicks being single….

Instead of looking in the mirror, they wanna demonize…

I can see how some would view the church as holding a single black woman back. For many years, I watched my mom serve in the churches she attended. She faithfully participated in the music ministry, and devoted a lot of time to it. It never hit me back then, but I had always wondered why she was still single. As I reflected on the preacher’s messages as a kid, I understand now. Many preachers out here preach to these women, that God will bless them with a man who is equally yolked. So, like my mother, they sit and wait, and wait, and wait, and then they look up, and 25 years of their lives have passed them by, and they’re still single, waiting on God to put a man in their lives.

I asked my mother what she looked for in a man, and I was blown away to hear what she was looking for. Not only did she have all these unrealistic expectations (can’t be too hairy, has to drive a nice car, have a nice house, can’t smell bad, etc..), but she had this one expectation that men could not even break the barrier on. They had to be a man of God. Not just any man, this man had to be on her level spiritually, and I must say, her level is kinda up there. She wanted a man who was as sensitive to God as she was. While I admired her view of the ‘perfect’ man, I almost felt bad for her. I thought to myself, “because you’re taking everything these preachers say to heart, good men are passing you by left and right”. She hangs onto their every word when it comes to being with someone, and that saddens me somewhat. She is a beautiful woman, and very capable of bringing one home. But, she is waiting for the right one. To this day, my mom is 50 years old, and still single. Never been married a day in her life. At this point, I’m starting to wonder where this mysterious man is that God was supposed to ‘bless’ her with. Because her expectations are so high, no man can even get close to her. Spiritually, she looks like the Jolly Green Giant to these men, and that intimidates them.

I don’t think that it’s the church that’s necessarily keeping those black women single. I think those women are the only ones keeping themselves single. Instead of them following their own hearts when it comes to ‘the one’, they follow the opinions (which is all they are mostly) of the preachers who tell them what to look for in a man. So, they literally go around looking for those qualities, and wonder why they are still single. Many are happy being single. More power to them. But, if I know women, no woman wants to be alone. I don’t care what kind of woman you are, or where you are spiritually in the Lord. Every woman (except for the lesbians) would like to have a man. I told my mother that she was no different to that equation. I say that the single women in church need to trust God, and their hearts in regards to them finding a man. Not hanging on every word these preachers say.

1manfun
Aug. 11th, 2010
at 3:31 am
The answer is NO ; the church does not keep the black women single. These so called single
black women are a bunch of black w***e’s; atleast 97% of these, not all. Over 97% of black
women are unmarried with 1-4 kids before the age of 25 year old. Please note alot of good
men and also good christian men have to work on Sunday and would love to be in church but
have to work. Another issue it black men are tired of forced marriages with these women
that seem to never atleast use proper sex protection and have one or more kids. If by any
chance that a nice gentleman such as myself wish to accept the woman and hers’ ;over 88%
of these women are baring due to the fact that they don’t want anymore kids or have had
medical issue after birth of there umarried sex birth. People need to take time out to listen
to black women, they are tell everyone all the time daily”How being a black woman is the
thing to be”! For year’s black women have taught young black women to be unmarried
and have kids are cool you can alway’s find a good man later as long as you still look like
a 5 star chichenhead are better yet close to one. Go ahead live your life to the fullest with
that no-good guy and have multi kids. Black women know they have the system or a captain
savior that will come alone. Then we have the black woman that get the no-good guy & have
one or more kids by him but not worried about him staying because she can hold it down
without one. Look at how many black kids finish or can’t finsh high school without having a
a kid. You black women that so call church women are getting your backs cracked every
chance you can make. Yet wish to shout now… I myself have more respect for
any divorced black woman or any woman ,then a none. Let me make this very clear;”Unless
You Are Not Save”,so called !
Oh,yeah; I’m going to tell you another main issue that a black women have that maks them
be single. They don’t want to get in you place of a woman spouse! ! Sure we live in America
so we are equal in rights. Now the real talk; there is a very good reason that we keep religion
out of politic’s; for we know men and women are not and never will be equal. Men are the
head of the house .. ***Note if men are head of the house then that means not equal ,which
means someone is less then **. A man aint gone deal with no woman if he aint the KING..
That is man appointed spot over women by God. Oh.yeah you black women and your
fly attitudes; yes they say it all the time to prove how much drama they are and enjoy it,
they alway’s preaching ” I NEED A MAN THAT CAN HANDLE ME” Please note when a woman
say this it mean 40% sexually and 61% drama of super atitude… You are a grown woman
that should know right from wrong even if your your parents did not raise you! This is 2010
not the olden day’s or over sea’s enwhich a man can check a woman by any means to make
her act right. ” Then we do have Pimp’s” Do you think we men need a 1.800. call.pimp number
for our black women with we need to get them to act right ,so we don’t have to worry about
getting a case. LMAO.. Another issue with these black church women are if a man is not in
a key relgion position at their church are another then the don’t have time for him even if he
is saved and attend church on a bases. Anway, THE QUESTION SHOULD BE;” IF WHY ARE
THERE COUNTLESS SO CALLED SAVED AND FILLED HOLY BLACK WOMEN THAT CLAIM TO
LOVE THE LORD,WALK BY FAITH ,NOT BY SIGHT, SINGING “NO MAN CAN DO ME LIKE
JESUS”, but is unmarried and having kids yearly by men that are not of God but of this world.
THIS IS NOT WAITING ON THE LORD ! ! ! You know what black women do; they treat sex
like a pop-up diet. LMAO.. For real.. They get all the diiiik they want like a buffet then say “I
need to loose some wait ; its diet time”. This really means am going to try to be a so call good
woman and live life right until a Mr.Right or God’s choice man come by that I should have
been waiting on. But with this attatched kids not we in the street call him”Captain Saver”,or
just a Sucker! The thing about being on a diet ;people can’t stick to them.. Oh;yeah last but
lease,these black church woman that wish to wait until they are old a fuk to call themself
wanting a relationship because they want one and now they fill life is so perfect to do such***
**News flash; it don’t work like such.. Just think how many good men have stop and say hello
to you and you would not even accept him as a friend or just would not even speak,we all
know how black women even the so called church women have a issue even saying hello to
a black man. Really think about how many good man that you took for granted by not even
caring to know their name. Since majority of black church women are single ,WHY DO
THEY COMPLAIN WHEN THEY DONT REALLY WANT A LOVING MAN,AND A MAN THAT
WISH TO BE AROUND TO MAKE SURE THERE IS A GOOD FOUNDATION FOR THEIR KID OR
KIDS TO GROW? The black women in churches need to live by the word and not just recall
them.
Now for the men: You don’t have to spend money all on a woman eating out etc to be a
gentleman,only once a month or less. I dont care how much money you have. You don’t
treat a w***e, a nonfriend, girlfriend like a wife ! Vise Vs women.. T hen treat a wife like a
w***e,non girlfriend, like a BB***h! Last QUESTION; WHY DO BLACK WOMAN IN CHURCH
AND OUT DEVALUE LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP RATHER THAN VALUE A GREAT LAST-
ING ONE; IF THERE IS SUCH A SO CALL SHORTAGE OF MEN THEN WHY NOT CLAIM A
GOOD MAN AND MARRY HIM LIKE YOU SHOULD? IF YOU WAIT ON THE LORD LIKE
HIS WORD”HE WILL SEND YOU A MAN” THEN IS IT THAT BLACK CHURCH WOMEN DON’T
TRUST THAT GOD WILL GIVE THEM A GOOD MAN AND THEY DONT HAVE AS MUCH FAITH
AS THEY CLAIM TO HAVE? ARE JUST BLACK CHURCH WOMEN ARE A BUNCH OF HORNEY
WOMEN THAT GOT TO HAVE SOME DIK AND LACK SELF-CONTROL

Being single is a choice, rather you in the church or not, some people actually go to the church looking for love, Being single has its benifits, regardless of your religion, just like being married has its benifits. Me myself I love all types of women, church sistas Islamic sistas 5 percent sistas, weed smoking sistas, drinking sistas, as long as she is 100 with herself, I can be 100 with her, I love the women who see through the church image and fashion show attitude, But IMO there are plenty of good Men and Women who dont go to church at all,, Church doesnt make you a better person YOU make YOU a better person,, And finally as ignorant as this may sound those so called church women be Sexing with the best of em, Woman and Man got physical needs that prayer cant please,, 100

Hilarious! Black women are single because of their own ignorance and self-delusion. God allows us “free will” to make the choices we make. We are not puppets to his whims. Anyone who uses the Church or religion as a basis for their failures is just using God or religion as a crutch. Many black women are single because many men simply don’t want them beyond the stage of novelty sex. Additionally, Black men have far more options these days, and don’ have to settle for some self-righteous, self-centered irrelevant who thinks the world is suppose to end over backwards for her wide azz simply because she is the descendant of Eve.

black women coined the phrase that goes something like “happily single”. So let them remain happy.

The women in Churches are keeping themselves Single for their own personal reasons. A lot of people go to Church in order to change something in their Life that’s not going right, and that’s fine. It is a good place to meet people and you already share a similar interest which is GOD.
Just don’t go there expecting God to drop a guy or girl into your lap. Relationships take WORK. Real WORK, and too many people aren’t mentally and spiritually ready to accept the responsibilities handed to them.

Majority of your Lifes trials and tribulations take place outside of church and there’s only so much a Preacher can do for you.

Looking at the brother’s comments below…. seems that you have to work some problems yourself….. like English.

Are the majority of non church going women married or in a committed relationship? There’s your answer. Now to one of the main reasons. Obesity. Black women delude themsves into thinking that all black men want a fat woman. That might work in the hood however when there’s competition ie outside of the hood the fat girls are the last chosen. Look at he black celebrities and athletes. How many of them are with fat women white, black, green or purple? None.

If educated black women with no kids who are over 200lbs lost enough weight to get down to 160 to 170lbs 80% of them would be married within one year or less.

@ AMEN RE
“Black African people on the continent of Africa never worshipped a “white Jesus” or a “white Mohammed” up until the year 1450 A.D. (Islam has an earlier history on the continent, Arab slave traders arrived a few hundred years earlier) African people before then had their own local customs and religious rituals that involved worshipping Gods that resembled “their” likeness. Indeed, there is no record showing any (African language or text) group of African people on the continent having a belief system that believed in a “white Jesus” before the arrival of “Europeans”.”

Damn it is sad to see when niggas dont know what it is they are talking about….
“Islam arrived on the continent of Africa BEFORE Christianity….”

Do yourself a favor….know what you are talking about first….

I can see why so many Black church going women are single. Listening to many women who do not think like me,the entire equaly yoked,is good, yet, no one, man or woman, wants a mate who is IN chirch 24-7. Women read the book of Ruth, in the Bible, and hear the serman about how Ruth was ‘ Being about her Fathers Buisnmess’ and take it to SUCH an extream, it is not even funny. So many Black church going women are So Hevenly Minded, theya re no Earthly good. Meaning, acting as if they NEVER had a lustful desire, or even found a man REMOTLY attractive unless he is in the pulpit. IAm Christian, & IAm single. Yes, I chose to be, yet, I do not look ONLY in Church for a mate, even a man to date. My standards for they Man himself are good,and reasonable, yet, I do know that not all men are not going to run after me. So manywomen get so angry in being single, that men do not want to be bothered with them either. I think we should look at ourselves, and not BLAME anyone, anything, or The Lord.

I did not grow up in a Black church so I would not know too much on this topic, but the video was nicely put together. What I do know is that people should not use church as an excuse as to why they are single. As for me, I CHOOSE to be single because there are plenty of things that I want to get in order, first. No church, black or white, made that decision for me. Also, I am at the stage of finding out who I REALLY am. I’m sure plenty of women my age and regardless of race are doing the same. A marriage is something I refuse to rush or be pressured into. Just my two cents.

ummm.. yea, sorry to say it but black woman Are harder to aproach and get along with than other races.. not an opinion, instead my experience. high expectations, and yet, not willing to give or bulge much when it comes to us… this is not all cases but probably around 85%.

My suggetions??? take better care of your outsides, while at the same time preserve a sexy and beautiful mind that’s not haughty, or TOO independant… black men, we do have our set of probs too.. no doubt, but yea women are worst….

Umm sounds like a reach. It depends on who the men are at these churches. My beef is when I can not date a girl because I am not a part of her church.

I said it early and I’ll say it again. Black women are their own worst enemies. Dont blame it on a church, dont blame it on black men, white women, white men or any other species. If black women would take Michael Jackson’s advice and LOOK AT THE PERSON IN THE MIRROR…..they would learn A LOT.

True indeed, black men have their own set of problems but black women dont make it any easier. Agreed @ hazeknight…..as a whole, black women are worst.

@odoggz-KML yes if you stated both man and woman need Jesus. C’mon now I did state some black women are single by choice not because of the churches. You do know some black women go to white churches so what is Newsone getting at? Hummm are you thinking what im thinking? lol :)

I wonder if white people discuss this kind of s**t, why is it that black men this and black women that but you never hear white women saying there are know good white men or white men saying there are no good white women, chinese, russian jamaican, We the only race of people who down each other, WHY WHY WHY, its that Willie Lynch s**t, wake up ya’ll.

It’s really interesting how we feel about each other. There is a lack of respect for each other that is truly troubling. The men complain that women don’t take care of themselves, and the women complain that there are no good men.

The truth is somewhere in the middle. I’m concerned about the respect level between the two. Television has dominated the conversation between black men and women. It tells us how to behave, what to look like, and how frankly to treat each other.

As a women, I would like to meet a man that is a builder. A builder is not generally rich, but he does have a plan. He’s concerned about family and legacy. I would like to meet someone that knows his history, understands his craft very well, and is discipline. It’s hard to find.

We have given into any and everything. If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. I believe this quote is true. Too many of us are falling for anything.

It is contridictary, men say they want a indendent woman than when they get one theysay we are too independant . In the day to day of maintaining and keeping our heads above water because of lack of men that choose not to work,now I am surely not asking for any support or hand outs ,but what is wrong with having someone to bring something to the table , more than just his apppetite.Sacrifices some of us do more than you will no and some carry the load in order to help your mate get on their feet and when they do get on their feet , you are no use for them, what race they choose to go to is all well and good but if your intentions are not to treat someone with sincerity than leave them but do not lead them on and leave a bad taste in their mouth.So you regroup move on and when you meet someone and want them to be of substance and have some character about themselves and bring more to the table than a can of peas you are labled as too independant.When you are use to holding it down you are labled as too independant, which one should I be dependant on a man or independant and have food on my table.Only one ma I depend on the LORD.Now would Imeet a brother half way, yes because times have changed and are extremely hard.

No..it’s definitely ‘White Diamonds’ – the signature perfume of 40+ Southern women. Guaranteed to burn the crap out of your olfactory and cause watery eyes. Pee-yew!

@OziasCA It’s EXACTLY that Willie Lynch Letter mentality. It’s sad that it’s still taking it’s hold on the generations that are here today……People need to READ and find out how foolish we are to keep going at each other with negativity. I pray more of us wake up and see how beautiful we ALL are and find the good in one another.

Another DIVIDE and COnquer topic and of course black people are falling for it as usual.SMH.

OziasCA, You make a beautiful point…

BUT it also begs to ask the question….

Of those other races you mentioned, that probably don’t have these kinds of debates etc.., how many of them have gone through what blacks have? How many of them have been systematically ripped apart throughout history for hundreds of years? How many of those other races are KNOWN as the original race on the planet, the strongest, most thoughtful, most creative?

How many of those other races you mentioned has there been a system set-up to purposefully DESTROY their lives, family unit, mindset and love for each other, again, over HUNDREDS of years???

Just because we are no longer physical slaves, doesn’t mean the mentality hasn’t left a horrible stigma on us collectively. Being forced onto these shores years ago, was like an earthquake…It shook the hell out of us, and right today those aftershocks are kickin ass…

Why must we blame the church for black women being single,? Lol I mean really black women are single because their is a lack of real men out their I’m not all men but majority…some of us black women are tired of games… and those black women who settle for a dog and less need to understand your true value and self worth

personally,i dont think church is keeping ME single.i dont go to church to look for/@ any man.lol,i barely look for/@ my pastor!lol-i go to seek my GOD and to be present in HIS HOUSE.its true GOD will show up if only two people get together in HIS NAME but i get spiritual satisfaction when i go to HIS HOUSE.

@OziasCA
actually you are WRONG! White women shiite on white men all of the time and publish just killer articles about how men are not needed, left and right. That END OF MEN article, in the Atlantic murdered white men and white men are pissed off to a point where a dude Ken Buck says “vote for me because “I” do not wear high heels” and he wins in a landslide. Yes they DO take shots at each other and yes Asian men are pissed that their women are leaving for white men. I talk to these dudes all day, at my job, how they have to act like a white boy to get their own women. You and cali, WRONG! All kinds of people are dumping on the opposite sex of their people. Hella amounts of latinas who were born aboard are looking for black or white men, and not their own, oppressive, combative, overly-macho men, all the damn time. Everyone is doing it, not just blacks. You’re not on their mediums and not talking to them, to know their issues, nor do you probably care, but it’s happening.

@CAROLINAGIRLSRDABEST
what?? Ooooh ooh oooh I get what you mean. You’re saying that they’re really talking about black women are single because they’re so fat because they keep going to CHURCHES(the fried chicken spot)? Ok, now you just made sense!

NO! BLACK WOMEN KEEP BLACK WOMEN SINGLE. THEY SPEND TIME LOOKING AT THE WORST IN BLACK MEN. IF THEY SPENT MORE TIME JUDGING THEMSELVES, AND LESS JUDGING OTHERS, MAYBE, WE CAN COME TOGETHER. THIS IS NOT MY OPINION, THIS IS FROM PAST EXPERIENCES. MOST OF US HAVE FORGOTTEN THE REASON FOR GOING TO CHURCH IN THE FIRST PLACE. PEACE

NO, because adults are ultimately 100% responsible for their own actions.

@odoggz….Hummmm NO. Stop that you know what I meant. :(

I think so. My Aunt was in one of these churches and all they did was beg for money. They know women are more ‘EMOTIONAL’ than men. That’s why there are so many women in church. Also
women are looking for love and acceptance. If they do marry, the pastor wants them to marry someone they can control. Yes, people are responsible for themselves, but there is no one that hasn’t
made, is making or will make a mistake. Some people should not be so judgmental until they have
walked in a persons shoes and know the whole story. If you haven’t been born a woman, you don’t know the emotions of a woman. Everyone makes mistakes and who is more able to fool you than a Devil in the Pulpit?

Thats funny, my eldest sister has been single all her life, with two baby father drama as soon as she joined the church and start to live an uright life within two months someone marry her. maybe black church are not so bad afteral. plus the american black churches stress on the unity of marriage and family life, thats what I know about the black church.

And yes they sometimes drive fear into people about god, but looking through all christian churches white, asian black they all do the same scarey thing about god and collect offerings to keep the church going, which is not wrong. if you need to keep a club going you have to pay the fee simple nothing is free not even God.

@venitabrooks

I co-sign with you.

The black church is what keeps the black community and family together.

How can a church keep a black woman single? If anything church encourages women to be more selective about the men that they choose, because if she is a devout Christian and he isn’t than that may cause conflict in the relationship.,They will notbe equally yoked!

@SheFly69
“women are looking for love and acceptance.”

OH that’s not true, look at their pics, throughout their dating histories, and you’ll discover they are NOT. The dudes they pick are largely incapable of providing what they need, if women were really looking for this- especially the love part.
What you meant to say was, women -IN MOVIES and FANTASY NOVELS- are looking for love and acceptance.

what in the hell, a church keeping black women single. The lords house, thats absurd. Black women keep black women single, and the smart black men that dont want em hahahha

It confuses me when i hear brothers say black women are hard to approach, I just dont see it, but I guess its becuase i never approach sistas I prefer for them to approach me, or at least send a signal of interest, LONG EYE CONTACT, SMILES maybe a WINK, I just dont push up on a sista outta Nowhere some of these brothers also need to work on their approach and maybe they will get better results, Just my opinion, but I have heard some Kats say some weird things and wonder why they having issues with the ladies,, LET HER DO THE TALKING LOL,

OziasCA, You make a GREAT POINT!

Black women are not hard to approach at all….The one’s that men can’t get the number from are the one’s that DON’T WANT THEM!

Brothas need to WAIT for that sign,signal of interest before they go bouncin up in a woman’s face…

@CaliFemme23
lol HUSH! Signals and all that nonsensical talk. Black women don’t follow any protocol like Cosmopolitan magazine suggests, and a lot of black chicks have the mean mug going, so you wait for nothing, you pounce on what you want. It’s a numbers game, you win and you lose, just roll with the punches and realize she could do a lot worse in life, so if she doesn’t get with you, that’s on her. :) You have to note the chicks who look like they’re most likely not give you time of day vs ones who will sorely disappoint you if you close the deal vs ones worth the time. Normally, you can know in the first 5 minutes of speaking with them, because they have a pre-canned speech about who they are, what they do, how independent they are, how they go to church, {insert more perception building crap here blah blah blah}. Personally, I don’t have a problem GETTING black women, it’s what I want to do with them AFTER discovering all the nonsense associated with SOME of them, once you have them locked. Might want to let them stay single, many times. :)

@ COOLZENIST

IGNORANCE IS BLISS. IT’S ALSO FREE

SO YOU GET ALL YOU CAN MISS COOLZENIST

JUST BECAUSE THE MAJORITY OF RELIGIOUS PRACTITIONERS MANIPULATE THE TRUTH HOW A’BOUT WE JUST SAY, THROW THE BATH WATER OUT, BUT LEAVE THE BABY ALONE.

TO BELIEVE IN EVOLUTION IS A STATISTICALLY GREATER LEAP OF FAITH THAN INTELLIGENT DESIGN; BUT YOU ARE PERFECTLY WELCOME TO HOLD ON TO YOUR CHAIN OF THOUGHT. I HOPE IT’S NOT MISSING ANY LINKS.

i must first say that it is very sad to hear how we as african americans can belittle each other. the black woman has carried the pain and burden for centuries of the oppression taken against her, her family and the black man…she is strong in every aspect and any man intimidated by this is to weak for her….second…i dont go to church to find a mate…i go b/c of my faith and love for GOD through his precious son Jesus saved me from situations I didnt have the strength to save myself I agree that black women must find balance in their life…some women have personal issues that they should work on before bringing anybody else into their choas…the church is not a bldg but a collection of believers…a living organism…and until we as belivers stop arguing over foolishness…then the world will see us as we present ourselves…but when the saints get on one accord then those on the outside will truley see the mainfestation of GOD and his power….

LOVE , LAUGH , GROW

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